Burke Counselling and Consulting

01/02/2026

Thank you to all of my clients 💕 My first year in business was full of growth, courage, and learning, and I couldn’t have done it without your trust and support.

01/01/2026

Ive been doing a lot more Mental Sport Performance Sessions lately and the results are incredible. Short of doing a research study myself, I found this. Bilateral Stimulation for the Win! I just more people could see how impactful Accelerated Resolution Therapy is! Slowly gaining traction. : )

By Ben Foodman For athletes today, the final frontier of performance isn’t physical—it’s mental. Competition has never been more intense, driven by rapid advancements in sport science that have revolutionized training methods. With a wide array of tools and techniques available, athletes are c...

12/31/2025

Happy New Year to all of my followers, past, current & future clients! May 2026 be kind to you. 💕

12/08/2025

11/29/2025

I can confirm this after 18 years as a therapist.

1. Your Nervous System Was Built in Childhood

Before you had language, your body was already learning:
“Is love safe?”
“Is comfort available?”
“Is the world predictable… or dangerous?”

If you grew up around chaos, shouting, silent treatment, neglect, or emotional distance, your nervous system wired itself for survival, not safety. That wiring doesn’t disappear, it follows you.

🔹 2. Your Attachment Blueprint Was Formed Before Age 12

Whether you chase love… avoid love… fear love… or struggle to keep it, you learned that from the emotional climate you grew up in.

Your adult relationships aren’t random.
They mirror the love you were taught to accept.

🔹 3. Childhood Wounds Hide Inside Adult Behaviors

You think it’s “just anxiety.”
You think it’s “just insecurities.”
You think it’s “just a type.”
But psychology calls them:
Unmet needs. Emotional neglect. Attachment wounds. Nervous system memory.

Adults don’t randomly:
• overthink
• shut down
• chase emotionally unavailable people
• fear abandonment
• struggle with boundaries
• over-apologize
• numb feelings
• feel unworthy

These are childhood defense mechanisms showing up in adult form.

4. Trauma Isn’t Only What Happened, It’s What Was Missing

Most people say “I wasn’t abused.”
But emotional neglect, lack of affection, lack of protection, and lack of validation shape you just as deeply.

A child who never felt “held” grows into an adult who never feels “safe.”

5. Childhood Becomes Adulthood When Left Unhealed

Your childhood becomes your:
• triggers
• fears
• attachment style
• coping mechanisms
• relationship patterns
• self-worth
• emotional reactions

Not because you’re broken but because the child in you never got what they needed.

✨ The Truth

No, not everything goes back to childhood but the most painful patterns often do.

Because the body keeps score. The brain remembers. And the emotional wounds you weren’t allowed to talk about…show up as the behaviors you can’t explain today.

You’re not dramatic.
You’re not “too much.”
You’re not damaged.

You’re carrying a story no one helped you process.

If this felt uncomfortably accurate, it’s because your inner child is asking to be seen.

✨ I Didn’t Choose to Be Born — for childhood trauma, emotional neglect & inner child healing.

✨ Chasing Love That Hurts — for breaking patterns that come from unmet childhood needs.

Choose the one you need today here: https://linktr.ee/traumatorecovery 💛

11/25/2025

I cannot recommend this podcast episode enough. Knowledge is power.

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/adhd-experts-podcast/id668174671gw

11/18/2025

10/30/2025

Love thy teacher!

10/17/2025

Frankie’s Fall photoshoot. 🍂🍁🐾

09/30/2025

Today we honour Survivors, remember those who never came home, and acknowledge the lasting impacts of residential schools.

But words without action aren’t enough.
Because counselling therapists remain unregulated by the Alberta UCP government, NIHB does not recognize our services. This leaves a massive gap in mental health support for First Nations people, especially in communities where help is already hard to find. The government has said they are committed, but nearly two years have passed with no progress.

Truth and reconciliation must be more than symbolic gestures. It means removing barriers to healing and ensuring Indigenous communities have the care they deserve. Posted with permission. The amazingly talented Artist:

09/23/2025

It’s me, Lisa, the therapist who can never quite keep up with social media. So here’s a little casual intro about who I am:

✨ Mom to a sweet 9-year-old boy, wife to my high school acquaintance turned husband of 13 years, and dog mom to Frankie.

✨ We live on an acreage outside Devon, where we also billet hockey players with the Spruce Grove Saints. My dad has a home on our property too!

✨ I love skiing and actually prefer the cold over the heat.

✨ You’ll rarely catch me in anything besides black or green, hence my brand colors.

✨ Fitness is very important to me: rowing and lifting weights 5 days a week has been one of my best habits.

✨ Authenticity matters to me a lot. I show up the same way in and out of the office.

✨ My areas of special interest are addictions, supporting men who are ready to seek help, and sport performance.

✨ In January, I took a leap and left my 17-year government career. Best decision ever. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my work, and I genuinely look forward to every day in the office.

✨ I believe Accelerated Resolution Therapy is a missing piece in mental health services. It’s powerful, effective, and something I wish more people trusted and practiced.

✨ Strong ethics and clear boundaries guide me, but I’ll always be human first.

✨ What do I love most about this work? Seeing clients reconnect with their self-worth. Nearly all of us carry a little doubt there, and realizing deep down that you really are enough is one of the most powerful shifts to witness.