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Quyn Lê Therapy, Surrey, BC (2025)

11/18/2025

Trust the Twist in Your Journey

It’s my fourth day in our new place… and I’m really enjoying it. We’re right along the river by the Quay in New West, where people go for a stroll or a run, walk their dogs, laugh, and truly live. Every time I open the patio door, I hear the water fountain — a sound I’ve always loved. And it hits me: three years ago, I envisioned living in a place exactly like this. By the water. In a friendly community. Surrounded by nature and warmth.

We tried to make that vision work in Richmond, and even though it was near the river, it wasn’t truly what I had imagined. I thought maybe “close enough” was good enough. But life had other plans. After twists, patience, and persistence… we ended up here, exactly where I once dreamed.

This home is about 1300 square feet — spacious, beautifully maintained, and surrounded by wonderful landscaping. It feels more like a house than a condo. Sometimes I still get lost in it because it’s so big. Being on the main floor with our own patio entrance, it even feels like a spacious townhouse.

Out of the seven places we viewed, this one was our favourite. And ironically… we almost didn’t see it. Our car battery died right at the appointment time. But we pushed through, the realtor squeezed us in, and it ended up being the last place, the one that felt right.

Life tests you. It takes you around. It asks, “Do you trust me?”
And if you stay faithful to your vision, if you keep walking… it delivers.

Even though it was my idea to move back to the city, now Hans is absolutely loving it. Morning and evening dog walks by the river, and yesterday, a little date walking our dog to a nearby coffee shop. For now, I’m here on my own for a month before he moves down permanently. And honestly… I enjoy it. He set up as much as he could before heading back to Powell River — a loving gesture to make me comfortable.

Sometimes you don’t get what you want right away.
Sometimes you get something even better — in the right time, the right way.

Have faith. Trust the twists. Your vision knows where it’s taking you.

11/12/2025

Your Life, Your Rules

Has any of these stopped you from being happy and free?

Convenience and Comfort: When I was 18, I moved out on my own. As a blind person, it was inconvenient and uncomfortable. For 15 years before I met my husband, I had to figure out everything by myself—cooking, cleaning, navigating the world. It wasn’t easy, but that experience shaped me. It taught me independence, resilience, and the quiet confidence that I can handle life on my own terms.
👉 What challenges are you avoiding because they feel uncomfortable? Don’t let convenience rob you of your strength!

Dependency and Support: When I was younger, I was in a long-term relationship for several years with someone who gave me a lot of emotional and physical support. I leaned on him. I became dependent. But deep down, I knew we weren’t right for each other. Letting go was hard, but necessary.
👉 Have you ever stayed in something because it felt safe? Sometimes, walking away is the first step toward freedom.

Status and Comparison: I've been with men who had impressive careers and high status. They made more money than me. But when the relationship no longer aligned with my values or my peace, I walked away, regardless of what I could gain or lose.
👉 Remember, your worth isn’t measured by who you're. -it's measured by how true you are to yourself.

Money and Security: I once left a job that paid very well to build my own therapy practice. I also walked away from situations where I knew I’d lose money just to stay true to myself. I love money, but I never let it control my happiness or my freedom.
👉 What’s something you’re holding onto for the wrong reason—fear, comfort, or money?

As women, we must do what we believe in, even when it’s inconvenient, uncomfortable, or uncertain. That’s how we build self-respect, and that’s when others start to respect us too.

Everyone will have opinions about what’s “right.” Don’t listen to them. Listen to you! You’re the one living your life.

💫 So what’s something your heart’s been whispering to, but fear has been holding you back?
Go ahead! Follow your heart! Create your own path!

11/11/2025

From His Mother to His Muse

Have you ever felt like you’ve become everything in your relationship except his woman?

Maybe you’ve turned into his mother — reminding him what to do, fixing his mistakes, carrying the weight of everyone’s needs. Or perhaps you’ve become his manager — organizing, planning, and making sure life runs smoothly. Sometimes you might even feel like his teacher — explaining, correcting, scolding, guiding him toward what you think he should understand by now.

Other days, it’s like you’re just housemates — sharing a home, raising kids, dividing chores, but missing that spark. And if you’re the mother of his children, your caring side never turns off. You’re loving, responsible, protective… yet somewhere along the way, the lover in you got buried beneath all those roles.

You miss being seen, touched, and desired, not because of what you do, but because of who you are. You miss the playfulness, the teasing, the chemistry that made you feel alive.

When a woman constantly leads, mothers, teaches, or manages, she evokes obedience, defensiveness, resentment, disconnection, or passivity in a man, not passion. He may respect you, depend on you, even love you... like his companion. But he won’t desire you. He won’t feel excited by you. Because desire doesn’t grow in duty. It grows in polarity.

But everything shifts when you come home to your feminine energy. When you soften, receive, and let go of control. When you stop teaching and start trusting. When you stop managing and start inviting.

That’s when he starts looking at you like his lover again. His girlfriend. The woman who makes him feel alive, desired, and powerful.

She doesn’t chase or correct. She radiates warmth, playfulness, and confidence. She lets him lead sometimes. She allows herself to laugh, to feel, to be adored.

If you’ve been feeling like his mother, teacher, or manager instead of his woman, it's time to reconnect with the woman who makes his heart race again. Reach out! Let’s bring her back!

11/10/2025

From Doormat to Dream Woman

I once worked with a woman who always said “yes” even when her heart screamed “no.”
She apologized when she hadn’t done anything wrong. She walked on eggshells, terrified of conflict.
She gave endlessly—her time, her energy, her love—until she was empty.
She believed being “nice” would make her loved. But instead, she felt invisible.

Her turning point came the day she looked in the mirror and said, “I’m done begging for crumbs of love.” That moment changed everything!

Now, she stops overexplaining.
She says “no” without guilt.
She speaks her truth calmly but firmly.
She no longer chases. She receives.
And as she does, something magical happens. Her partner begins to see her differently.

He admires her confidence.
He respects her boundaries.
He cherishes her for who she is.
She’s no longer his doormat. She's his dream woman.

Signs you might be playing the doormat:
• You feel anxious when someone is upset with you.
• You agree to things that make you resentful.
• You overgive but feel underappreciated.
• You fear saying no will make you unloved.
• You minimize your needs to keep the peace.

How to change?
Honour your feelings instead of dismissing them.
Speak up, even if your voice shakes.
Set boundaries not to push love away, but to protect your peace.
Remember: real love doesn’t require you to shrink.

When you rise into your worth, you stop being a doormat, and become the woman who is valued, adored, and deeply respected.

You deserve that kind of love! 💛
Reach out if you’re ready to step into your power!

11/09/2025

Toxic MASCULINITY Vs. Healthy Masculinity: When Strength Turns Into Armour

At first, he felt safe. Grounded. Strong.
He took charge, made decisions, seemed unshakable. You felt drawn to that certainty, especially when everything else felt uncertain.

But slowly, that strength starts to sting.
You begin doubting yourself.
You stop sharing your thoughts because he always “knows better.”
You hold back tears because he says you’re “too sensitive.”
You apologize for things that aren’t your fault.
You shrink a little more each day to keep the peace, smiling while something inside you aches.

That’s the quiet pain of toxic masculinity.
It convinces you to question your intuition.
It teaches you to mistake control for care and dominance for confidence.
It makes you believe love should feel heavy, when real love feels light.

Healthy masculinity feels different.
It’s calm, not cold.
Strong, not forceful.
It makes space for your voice, your feelings, your power.
He leads and listens. Protects and respects. He doesn’t need to win every argument, because he’s already at peace within himself.

When you’re with a man ruled by toxic masculinity, you can feel yourself disappearing.
You silence your needs hoping he’ll soften.
You start walking on eggshells, trying not to trigger his disapproval.
But you can’t heal him by losing yourself.
Your silence doesn’t save the relationship. It only buries your spirit deeper.

You begin healing the moment you reconnect with you.
When you speak your truth, even if your voice trembles.
When you remember the woman you were before you learned to tiptoe.
When you stop calling your pain “normal.”

Real love doesn’t drain you. It nourishes you.
You deserve a man whose strength makes you feel safe, not small.

❤️ If this speaks to your heart, reach out! You’re not alone.

11/07/2025

A New Chapter Begins 🌊➡️🌉

With a mix of excitement and a touch of sadness, I’m getting ready to say goodbye to Powell River and move to New Westminster on the 15th of this month. It’s never easy to leave a place that has held so many memories, laughter, and growth. But sometimes, a new chapter calls, and your heart knows it’s time to answer.

If you’d like to see me next week before I go, reach out! I'd love to connect before this transition. Powell River will always be special to me, and I plan to come back a few times each year.

I’m excited for this next step—moving from an oceanfront home to a beautiful, spacious riverfront condo by the Quay. As a Pisces, it feels fitting that I’ll still be close to the water. There’s something about flowing with life’s current, trusting where it takes you, that feels right.

Here’s to new beginnings, new opportunities, and staying connected no matter the distance. 💫
Here’s to a great new start!

11/04/2025

Unlock Motivation & Creativity: Powerful Hypnosis to Inspire Action

Awaken your inner drive and creative flow with this powerful short hypnosis session. Designed to help you stop procrastination, calm anxiety, and release that uneasy feeling in your stomach. You’ll visualize your future self confidently creating, achieving, and thriving, feeling calm, clear, and energized to take action. Each time you listen, your motivation strengthens, your creativity expands, and your confidence rises. You are calm. You are capable. You are creative. You are unstoppab(thHypnosisForCreativity tagged

11/02/2025

Face It, Don’t Flee From It

This week was a stressful one for me. My husband and I had to make a very difficult decision—to cut our losses and walk away from a situation that no longer served us. Because to continue would only bring more loss and stress. Have you ever had that happen? When you realize that holding on costs more than letting go?

To make that decision, I had to have some tough, uncomfortable conversations. The kind that make your stomach tighten and your mind swirl with “what ifs.” And in the middle of it all, I finally faced something I’d been avoiding for a month—a CRA enquiry. But once I picked up the phone and handled it, it wasn’t as bad as I had imagined.

That’s the thing about fear. It grows bigger the longer we avoid it. But when we face it, even shaking, it starts to shrink. Although this stress may last several weeks. But the stress associated with the alternative may last several years. Deal with the short-term pain to free yourself from long-term suffering.

The highlights of my week were hearing about my clients' amazing progress and keeping up with my workouts. Those moments reminded me that even in stressful times, there’s still light, growth, and movement forward.

Not every week is a great week. Some are messy and uncomfortable. But when you face things head-on instead of avoiding them, you start to see that light at the end of the tunnel. You grow stronger, more grounded, more you.

Whatever you’re avoiding right now, face it with courage. You might be surprised by how freeing it feels once you do.

Reach out if you’re navigating something difficult. You’re not alone.

10/29/2025

Your Skin Tells Your Story—Let It Shine with Confidence

Your skin is the first thing people notice. It's like your personal canvas. Long before you speak, your skin speaks for you. It tells others how rested, vibrant, or confident you feel. Healthy skin radiates self-love. It reflects how you care for yourself on the inside and out.

For years, I struggled with mild to moderate acne. I tried so many products that were harsh, stripping, and intense. I thought expensive meant effective. I used to spend $100 on a single jar of moisturizer, believing it would fix everything. It didn’t. What transformed my skin wasn’t luxury. It was gentleness, consistency, and choosing the right ingredients.

Now people often compliment my skin, sometimes even strangers. I don’t have perfect skin, but it’s healthy, calm, and glowing. That’s what true beauty looks like.

These days, my skincare routine is intentional and affordable. Most Korean products are under $20 and last 2-3 months, delivering incredible results.

In the morning, I cleanse gently to refresh my skin and start the day feeling clean and alive. At night, I always double cleanse. First with a nourishing oil cleanser to melt away sunscreen and makeup, then with a mild cleanser to purify without stripping. This helps prevent dullness, congestion, and breakouts.

In the morning, I use:

✨ Gentle exfoliating toner – This helps dissolve dead skin cells and unclog pores without irritation, brightening your complexion and allowing other products to absorb better. It smooths texture and gives that “glass skin” clarity without being harsh.

✨ Vitamin C serum – Packed with antioxidants, it fades dark spots, evens out tone, and adds a natural luminosity. It helps your skin look more awake, like you’ve had a full night’s rest, even when you haven’t.

✨ Eye cream for both morning and night — The delicate area under your eyes needs special care. I use one that hydrates deeply, smooths fine lines, and reduces puffiness, so I can look refreshed and vibrant.

✨ Peptide cream – Firms and smooths the skin while deeply hydrating, helping to improve elasticity and maintain a youthful, healthy glow.

✨ Sunscreen – The most important step. I love a soothing, probiotic-infused SPF that calms irritation while shielding against UV damage. It prevents premature aging and keeps your skin tone even and radiant.

✨ BB cream instead of foundation — A breathable layer that blends skincare with coverage. It smooths imperfections while protecting and brightening the skin naturally, giving that effortless “your skin but better” look.

At night, I use:

✨ Niacinamide serum – This is a game changer for calming redness, balancing oil, and strengthening the skin barrier. It makes your skin look more refined and serene—less reactive, more resilient.

✨ Retinol serum – I use a gentle formulation that helps boost collagen, smooth fine lines, and refine pores. It encourages skin renewal without dryness or peeling.

✨ Premarin estrogen cream – Supports skin thickness, elasticity, and hydration by replenishing estrogen levels, helping reduce dryness, crepiness, and loss of firmness—especially for mature or menopausal skin.

✨ Nourishing moisturizer – I use a lightweight yet rich cream that keeps my skin plump, hydrated, and glowing all day.

Although it sounds like many products, but when you alternate them between day and night, they take about 5 minutes to apply. Skincare doesn’t need to be expensive to be effective. What matters is choosing gentle, consistent care that honours your skin’s natural balance.

Your skin tells your story. Let it speak of confidence, calm, and care.
If you want to chat about skincare, reach out! I truly love helping women discover how radiant their natural beauty can be.

10/29/2025

When Giving Becomes the Bridge — or the Barrier — in Love

John Gray once said, “As men mature, they learn to give more. As women mature, they learn to give less.”
At first, it sounds unfair. But there’s deep wisdom behind it.

Men, in their younger years, often focus on proving themselves — their success, strength, or independence. Yet as they emotionally mature, something shifts. They discover that true fulfillment doesn’t come from achieving alone, but from giving — protecting, supporting, and contributing to the happiness of someone they love. When a man feels trusted, appreciated, and respected, it awakens his desire to give more. It fuels his masculine purpose.

Women, on the other hand, often grow up believing love means giving endlessly — nurturing, fixing, accommodating. But as they mature, they begin to understand that overgiving depletes their energy and creates imbalance. They learn that giving less isn’t about withholding love. It's about giving wisely, from a place of fullness, not exhaustion. Mature feminine energy knows how to receive, set boundaries, and trust that she is worthy without overextending herself.

So, ask yourself: Is your man growing more generous and giving in your relationship?
Or does he still revolve around his own needs?
Are you the woman who gives and gives until there’s nothing left?

The good news is, the dynamic can shift.
It starts with awareness.
It deepens when you begin valuing your own needs.
It blossoms when you stop trying to earn love through effort and start allowing love to flow through balance, where giving and receiving feel natural and alive again.

If you’re ready to shift this pattern and create a relationship that feels more reciprocal, reach out. Let’s work on bringing that beautiful balance of giving and receiving back into your life.

10/28/2025

Breaking Free from Anxious Attachment

If you’ve ever felt that deep, sinking fear that your partner might leave, even when things seem fine, you might have an anxious attachment style. It’s not your fault. It’s a pattern that often begins in childhood when love felt uncertain or inconsistent. As adults, it shows up as overthinking, people-pleasing, seeking constant reassurance, or feeling uneasy when your partner needs space.

The pain runs deep. You might feel your chest tighten when a message is left on “read,” or spiral into anxiety when your partner grows quiet. You replay conversations, trying to figure out what you did wrong. You give more, love harder, and end up feeling emotionally drained, because the love you crave always feels just out of reach.

Ironically, anxious attachers often attract avoidant partners. The connection may have felt magnetic at first. The chemistry was intense, the pull undeniable. But soon, the avoidant partner begins to withdraw just when you reach out. You chase closeness; they crave distance. The more you pursue, the more they pull away. And deep down, you start believing that maybe you’re “too much” or “not enough.”

But you are neither. You’re simply someone whose nervous system has learned to equate love with uncertainty.

Healing starts when you learn to soothe your own anxiety instead of depending on your partner to do it. When you slow down, breathe through the panic, and whisper to yourself: I am safe. I am loved. I am enough. I am whole.

Over time, you’ll begin to feel more grounded and less reactive. You’ll attract partners who can meet you halfway—consistent, open, and emotionally available. Or you can shift the dynamic with your current partner to a more secure love. Because when you stop trying to earn love, you start to receive it.

You deserve a relationship where you can finally exhale and feel at peace.

Reach out! I can help you heal your attachment patterns and create a love that feels secure, nurturing, and real.

10/28/2025

When His Attraction Fades — Don’t Chase, Rise

It’s painful when you sense the spark fading. When the man who once couldn’t get enough of you now feels distant. You can feel it in small ways.
He doesn’t look at you the same. His hugs feel brief. The playful teasing, the long conversations, the little compliments — they’ve all become rare. He no longer initiates plans, doesn’t seem excited to see you, and you start feeling like you’re the only one trying.

You wonder, What happened? Did I do something wrong?
You overthink every word, every silence, every action or lack there of. You might even find yourself trying harder — asking him what's wrong, doing things to get his attention, hoping to spark what’s been lost.

But attraction can’t be forced. It can’t be earned by effort alone.
The more you chase, the further he pulls away. Because the energy of trying to be enough pushes love away.

Instead of focusing on how to make him desire you again, turn that energy inward.
Reconnect with yourself — the confident, radiant woman who existed long before this relationship.
Do the things that make you feel alive. Spend time with people who lift your spirit. Learn, grow, laugh, move your body, feed your soul.

When you shift your energy from needing to be chosen to choosing yourself, everything changes.
Sometimes, he’ll feel the shift and reawaken his attraction. Other times, you’ll realize you’ve outgrown the version of love you were trying so hard to hold onto.

Either way, you win. Because you’ll rise back into your power, your confidence, your magnetism.

Reach out if you’re ready to shift from fear and overgiving to power, self-love, and peace within yourself.

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