12/26/2025
We often judge others through our own lens, our preferences, our style, our expectations. And when they don’t match, we get upset or try to gently influence them to behave the way we want🙃
But the truth is: people are who they are💛
Let’s say you’re used to a certain communication style or a certain behaviour, and the other person doesn’t meet your expectations, even after you’ve explained clearly and multiple times what you prefer🤷♀️
Rather then pressuring them or being upset (your feelings are absolutely valid if you feel upset!), consider the possibility that they may never change. Ask yourself honestly: Can I accept them as they are? Can I stay in this connection and still feel okay?
Once you sit with that question, you may naturally adjust your expectations and let go of the idea that they’ll ever be exactly how you want them to be. Notice how you feel when you release that expectation. There’s a big difference between being upset and truly letting go. Real surrender takes time, sometimes days or even weeks, so be gentle with yourself. As you detach from the outcome and focus on your own well-being, observe what happens💫
In some of my own experiences, once I released pressure and stopped the push-and-pull, the other person finally had the space to show up exactly the way I’d hoped. And in other cases, letting go showed me that the relationship needed to change form, and even maybe becoming less close💔
A relationship is two people, two sides of one coin. You only own your 50%. Sometimes stepping back, giving space, and focusing on what you can control creates more magic in the connection than any amount of pushing ever could🙌