12/18/2025
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Abusing someone who was never malicious to you—especially while they were already drowning in the hardest trauma of their life—isn’t just cruel. It’s profoundly sadistic and deeply disturbing.
It shows a willingness to exploit vulnerability rather than protect it. To look at someone who is already hurting, already fractured, already doing their best to survive—and decide that is the moment to apply pressure, control, humiliation, or harm—reveals something seriously broken in the abuser. That isn’t a loss of temper. That isn’t a misunderstanding. That is a conscious choice to compound pain.
What makes it even more disturbing is the imbalance. A person in trauma is not on equal footing. Their nervous system is already overwhelmed. Their defenses are down. Their capacity to protect themselves is compromised. Targeting someone in that state isn’t strength—it’s predation. It’s choosing power over empathy, dominance over decency.
There is something especially dark about harming someone who never intended you harm. Someone who didn’t provoke, manipulate, or attack. Someone whose only “fault” was being open, trusting, or too exhausted to fight back. That kind of abuse rewires a person. It teaches them that safety is an illusion, that kindness is dangerous, that vulnerability invites punishment.
And often, the abuser will later claim ignorance. “I didn’t know it was that bad.” “I was going through things too.” But trauma is not an excuse to traumatize others—especially not those who were already bleeding.
What happened says nothing about the victim’s worth, intelligence, or strength. It speaks only to the moral failure of the person who chose cruelty when compassion was required. To harm someone at their lowest point is not just abusive—it’s a violation of basic humanity.
And naming it for what it is matters. Because silence protects abusers. But truth restores dignity to those who were hurt when they needed care the most.
“Andy Burg”
