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21/02/2025

Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory?
I’ll tell you friends the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships.

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. But I learned the hard way if they were really my people, they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected.

Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you,
Let them ignore you.
Let them be "right."
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. And they just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. And they did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel. The end. Let them go.

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of accountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self-reflection, self-preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this, please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.
Let them go.
~Original artist- Cassie Phillips
~ Mel Robbins

22/01/2025

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STRANGE BUT TRUTH

You didn’t lose the love of your life; you broke free from the chains of a predator who drained your joy, strength, and identity.

A narcissist isn’t your soul mate—they’re a master manipulator hiding behind a carefully crafted mask. The person you see at the end of the relationship, the one who discarded you without empathy, is who they’ve been all along.

Their charm, their “magic,” their love-bombing—all of it was a performance. False promises and shallow words disguised their real agenda: to control, exploit, and feed off your emotional energy while breaking down your confidence.

What you endured wasn’t love—it was a calculated game of power. Gaslighting, criticism, and emotional manipulation weren’t acts of affection but weapons used to keep you doubting yourself. Their betrayals weren’t mistakes; they were deliberate moves to hold you captive in their cycle of abuse.

But here’s the powerful truth: You didn’t lose a family member—you escaped a nightmare.

Walking away from that toxic cycle took unimaginable strength. Breaking free from someone who pretends to love but thrives on control isn’t easy, but you did it. And now, you’re standing in the light of freedom, no longer bound to their lies.

Healing begins when you accept this: you weren’t loved, you were used. But that does not define your worth or your future. You were created for real love, genuine connection, and a life filled with joy, authenticity, and peace.

You are worthy of being truly seen, deeply heard, and genuinely valued. Never settle for less than the love and respect you deserve. Real love isn’t a game or manipulation—it’s kind, patient, and true.

As you heal, remember this: the best is yet to come. You’ve reclaimed your life, and the right people, the right love, and the right future are waiting for you.

11/01/2025

Today is A Gift

Today is a gift. How we choose to use that gift is up to us. Life will not always be perfect or go according to plan. Every day may have its struggles and challenges, but it's important to remember that our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we choose to react or respond to what happens to us. No matter how tough life may feel right now, keep hope alive in your heart. The birds don't just sing on the good days, they sing each and every day.

~ 'Today is A Gift' by Mary Anne Byrne Spirit of a Hippie

~ Art 'Today is a Gift' by Karen Fields

14/12/2024