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I approach counselling as a collaborative process.

We will each bring our unique perspectives, experiences, identities, and beliefs into sessions to help understand the difficulties you're facing.

09/24/2025

Truly honoured to be a part of this lineup of speakers!

The Waterloo-Wellington Eating Disorders Coalition Presents: Diversifying Perspectives in Eating Disorder Care
📅 Friday, October 24th, 2025
🕘 9AM-3:30PM EST
💻 Taking place on Zoom

🎫 Tickets available at the link in the bio

"What you'll learn (and why it matters):
Our 2025 Conference highlights diverse and often overlooked perspectives in eating disorders care. This year's sessions explore fat liberation and anti-fat bias, body image and disordered eating in boys and men, neurodivergence-informed approaches to recovery, and eating disorders in q***r communities. Join us as we move beyond narrow treatment models toward more inclusive, affirming, and justice-centered care."

09/10/2025

Subletting available in our gorgeous, quiet, cozy new offices!
Our space includes 2 offices, a large waiting room, and storage/break room.

Full days (8am-8pm) are $300/mo and half days (8am-2pm or 2pm-8pm) are $175/mo.
For example, a full day on Sundays would be a total of $300 for every Sunday in the month. Rates reduce if folks are renting more than 1 day/week ✨

Office 1 is available all day on Saturday/Sunday.
Office 2 is available all day on Sunday/Monday.

Rent includes:
🌊 Free parking for you and clients!
🌊 Snacks! For you and clients. We keep a good variety stocked at all times (tea, coffee, fruit cups, cookies, gummies, chips, cheeses, juice boxes, bubbly water, crackers, candy, etc.)
🌊 Use of therapy tools (fidget toys, card decks, notepads and flipcharts)
🌊 Shared office supplies (notebooks, colour printer, laminator, paper shredder)

We're on the second floor of a quiet, mixed home and office 4-floor rental building at Quadra/Hillside. There is an elevator and two single-stall bathrooms on our floor.

There are currently 3 other liberatory-minded counsellors sharing the space with me and we'd love to have other subletters share our anti-oppressive values.

Feel free to send me a DM or email me (alexandra(at)selkiecounselling.ca) for more info!

09/03/2025

Client's have started telling me to write these down 🤦🏻‍♀️

Overheard in Selkie sessions...
“Union strong. Your counsellor isn’t a scab.”
“You know, it’s like Gandalf says, “I will not say do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.””

“I’ll be honest, sometimes I do know I’m about to say something really profound.”
“I have scent-free lotion for your tattoo if you want?”
“How annoying would a book recommendation be right now?”
“YOU HAVEN’T SEEN FLEABAG?”
“Ah, that ol’ ableist chestnut.”
“Yeah, complain! Listen, I love to complain! I’m a hater at heart about a lot of things!”
*starts singing “I’m Afraid to Talk to Men” by Chris Fleming*

08/27/2025

The internet has been pi***ng me off lately.
I had to take a TikTok break 🤡

Reminders in the age of Ozempic:
1. Yes, anti-fatness is “that deep.”
2. Fat people asking to be included in your progressive/liberatory lens is not tone policing or leftist purity culture.
3. Having bodily autonomy does not make you free from perpetuating anti-fatness.
You can make a choice for your own body, and it can still be anti-fat. (I’m begging the internet to understand this 😭)
4. Fat bodies are a normal part of human biodiversity.
5. Eugenic beliefs are all around us with the acute rise of fascism since the onset of the pandemic. Anti-fatness and ableism are canaries in this particular coal mine.
6. Be wary of choice feminism/white feminism in rhetoric around food and bodies (see point 3). Having a marginalized identity does not absolve you from accountability/responsibility. (there’s so much more nuance here, I know. Don’t @ me.)
7. FAT BODIES ARE A NORMAL PART OF HUMAN BIODIVERSITY.
8. We do not know enough about GLP1-agonist medications as treatment for eating disorders.
(These drugs being used for ED treatments scares the s**t out of me.)
9. Thin, cis-women’s eating disorders are viewed as more important than the ability for fat people to a. live, and b. live with dignity.
10. FAT BODIES ARE A NORMAL PART OF HUMAN BIODIVERSITY.

08/13/2025

I can't stop thinking about reciprocity after reading "Braiding Sweetgrass" earlier this year.

If we've lived a childhood where our needs weren't met, we'll develop a belief that we're a burden - our needs, feelings, responses are all "wrong" or "too much".

Our hyper-individualistic culture tells us we should care for ourselves, love ourselves, strictly from a place of self-worth. It's isolating, and often leaves us negotiating with capitalism, colonialism, and racism to determine our worth.

Our worth is inherent. Everyone's is.

Not asking for help because we believe we're a burden is a shame response that's trying to control the narrative of our experience. Shame tells us that we know how our loved-ones (friends, trusted colleagues, chosen family) will respond. We make the decision for them, shame thinks it knows what's best.

Resist wh*te suprem@cy culture. Resist isolation.
Ask for support. Communicate, negotiate with your people within all your capacities. Feel s**tty together without trying to fix anything. Rest together, grieve together, get angry together, make art and protest together. Connect, connect, connect.

(ID: Both slides have a background of a sealion swimming underwater with a text box that says "Reminder". Slide 1 says "Not asking for help denies our loved-ones the opportunity to show up for us." & Slide 2 says, "You are not a burden.")

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1834A Oak Bay Avenue
Victoria, BC
V8R1C2

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http://www.selkiecounselling.ca/

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