Serene Wave Spinal Flow

01/14/2026

Pro-Social Behavior.
This is a great explanation on how humans begin to lose their authenticity, and it begins very young. Patterns emerge and can dominate a lifetime.

Spinal Flow Technique helps the "fight/flight/freeze" responses in the body to soften, and organically allow your natural authenticity to re-emerge.

🙏 Proud forever student of Irene Lyons SBSM training in building nervous system capacity.

01/14/2026

Sea Moss, My Personal Health Experience & The Nervous System

In 2011, I learned through bloodwork that I was anemic and had very low B12 levels. At the time, I didn’t feel a strong disconnect in my body, but the information stayed with me. Over the years, I tried supplements sporadically, then more intentionally — yet I never truly felt a sense of balance or clarity from them.

About two years ago, I began learning about sea moss, a plant from the ocean long used across cultures for nourishment and restoration. When I started taking it daily, the shift was almost immediate. Within four days, my sleep deepened, my thoughts felt clearer, my energy steadier, and my appetite seemed to regulate itself without effort.

Today, I take 2 tablespoons a day, and I don’t use other supplements. I’ve never been someone who naturally leans toward pills or medications, which is why this experience felt especially aligned.

I’m sharing a photo I took of my sea moss because its shape closely resembles the human nervous system. I see this as a reminder that nature often reflects what it supports — as above, so within.

Minerals, the Nervous System, and Balance

Sea moss is naturally rich in minerals and trace elements, drawing nourishment directly from the ocean. While it’s often said that the body requires “102 minerals” and sea moss contains “over 90,” science doesn’t define an exact number. What is clear is that seaweeds are among the most mineral-dense foods on the planet.

Minerals are essential to how the nervous system communicates, regulates stress, and restores balance. Magnesium, calcium, potassium, and sodium help govern nerve signaling, relaxation, and the body’s ability to move between states of activation and rest.

When mineral intake is better supported, the nervous system may find it easier to regulate — influencing sleep, digestion, focus, and energy. For me, the experience felt less like adding something new and more like restoring something fundamental.

Science continues to explore sea moss, and while large clinical studies are limited, its mineral richness and long traditional use point to why so many people feel drawn to it as a foundational food.

How I Prepare Mine (Ritual + Simplicity)
~~Raw sea moss from a trusted local source
~~Washed and soaked in filtered water for 8–24 hours, rinsed often
~~Blended with filtered water to desired consistency
~~Stored in the refrigerator for up to two weeks

Medical Disclaimer:
I am not a medical professional. This is not medical advice. I am sharing my personal experience and relationship with this food. Please consult a healthcare professional before making changes to your diet, especially if you have underlying health conditions.

01/12/2026

We accept energy as truth everywhere — until the conversation turns to the human body.

Everything is energy — yet for some reason, we only trust it when we can see it.

Electricity. Wi-Fi. Sound waves. Heat. Light. Magnetism.
Invisible forces that transmit information, create connection, and allow systems to function.

We don’t simply observe these forces — we live within them.
Life exists inside this constant exchange of energy, responding and adapting moment by moment.

And yet, when it comes to the human body, this understanding often fades.

Do we really believe that life operates within these forces everywhere — except within us?

In nature, the effects of energy depletion are easy to recognize.

A plant dries up.
It wilts.
It loses its leaves and flowers.

The signs are clear.
We understand the system no longer has access to what it needs to adapt and thrive.

But when the conversation shifts to the human nervous system, this same logic is often dismissed or misunderstood.

In Spinal Flow, energy is understood through the body’s capacity to adapt.

The spinal cord and nervous system are the primary pathways through which life energy and information flow.
When physical, chemical, or emotional stress is experienced — especially when it remains unresolved — the nervous system adapts by creating protective patterns.

That energy doesn’t disappear.
It becomes stored, reducing the system’s capacity and influencing how the body moves, feels, and responds to life.

The experiences we move through each day place demand on the nervous system.
When the system perceives threat, energy is directed toward protection rather than growth.

Some states reflect openness, adaptability, and ease.
Others reflect stored stress and limited capacity.

Within Spinal Flow care, one truth consistently emerges.

👉 This work changes people’s lives.

I can certainly attest to that — both as a practitioner witnessing the changes in my clients, and as a dedicated and committed receiver of this work myself.

People often experience meaningful changes — sometimes instantly, sometimes gradually, and sometimes more noticeably over time — as the nervous system regains capacity and energy becomes more available for regulation, healing, adaptability and better choices as to the energy that they choose to allow into their lives.

A nervous system in constant protection and stress has limited access to balance, resilience, and ease.

So often, we try to “add” our way into the changes — more effort, more strategies, more medication, more doing — without first allowing the nervous system to release what it has been holding.

Just as a plant cannot thrive without restoring the conditions that support life, the human system cannot fully adapt while energy is tied up in unresolved stress.

As these patterns unwind, energy once used for protection becomes available for connection, resilience, and vitality.

This work isn’t abstract.
It isn’t theoretical.
It’s observable in how people breathe, move, feel, and respond to life.

My hope is that we continue widening the conversation — recognizing that we live within energy every day, and that the nervous system plays a central role in how that energy is experienced.

Because when we work with the nervous system instead of against it, the body remembers how to adapt, and the connection between the body & mind become clearer.

01/08/2026

Build the foundation first. 🏠
True health begins at the bottom and it takes time.
Be patient, curious and kind with yourself 🙏

01/08/2026

01/07/2026

Whatever name it has been given across cultures—God, the Universe, Life Force, Innate Intelligence, Prana, Chi, or biological intelligence—we are all born with an internal organizing system that drives growth, regulation, and repair.

From a scientific and clinical perspective, this organizing capacity is expressed through coordinated physiological processes, with the nervous system serving as the primary regulator. From embryological development onward, the nervous system directs cell differentiation, organ development, motor control, sensory processing, immune modulation, and adaptive responses to internal and external stimuli. These processes occur automatically through integrated neural, electrical, and biochemical signaling supported by continuous feedback between the brain, spinal cord, peripheral nerves, and tissues.

The spine is a critical anatomical and functional structure, housing and protecting the spinal cord and supporting communication within the central and autonomic nervous systems. Prolonged exposure to physical, emotional, or environmental stressors can influence nervous system function, often resulting in sustained sympathetic activation. Over time, this may contribute to altered neural signaling, reduced autonomic flexibility, and decreased efficiency in regulatory processes such as digestion, sleep, immune function, and tissue repair.

Spinal Flow is a nervous system–focused, non-invasive approach that works with the body’s inherent neurological pathways to help reduce stress-related tension patterns along the spine and surrounding tissues. By decreasing interference within the spinal system, Spinal Flow aims to support improved neural communication and facilitate a shift toward greater autonomic balance. This shift aligns with evidence-based models of nervous system regulation that highlight the role of parasympathetic activity in recovery, restoration, and adaptive capacity.

Research indicates that when the nervous system is supported toward regulation rather than persistent survival activation, the body demonstrates increased resilience, adaptability, and capacity for self-regulation. In this framework, healing is not viewed as something externally imposed, but as an internally driven physiological process that emerges when conditions are supportive.

This intrinsic regulatory system has guided human development from a single cell and continues to coordinate trillions of cellular interactions every second. The role of care, therefore, is not to override physiological function, but to support the conditions that allow the nervous system to operate efficiently and coherently.

In practice, individuals may seek nervous system–focused care such as Spinal Flow in the context of:
~~Chronic stress or nervous system overload
~~Anxiety or difficulty regulating emotional responses
~~Persistent spinal or musculoskeletal tension
~~Headaches or recurrent migraines
~~Fatigue or reduced energy levels
~~Digestive challenges
~~Sleep disturbances
~~Cognitive fog or reduced mental clarity
~~Reduced body awareness or interoceptive connection

✨ For individuals interested in a regulation-based, nervous system–centered approach to wellbeing, Serene Wave Spinal Flow offers a gentle method of supporting physiological adaptability and resilience.

Health, within this model, is understood as the natural expression of a nervous system capable of flexibility, regulation, and effective communication.

01/06/2026

Co-Regulation Without Words: Animals Show the Nervous System Doesn’t Need Explaining

Animals are some of the closest examples of nervous system regulation that we can actually observe in real time.

They don’t have a thinking brain that overrides their body’s wisdom the way humans do. Their nervous systems are designed to sense, respond, complete, and return to regulation—without stories, shame, or conditioning getting in the way.

All my life, we’ve had animals—especially cats and dogs. But between the ages of 7 and 15, I began to notice something very specific. One of our cats, Kittles, would always come to me during moments of domestic disturbance. Every time there was yelling or tension in the house, that cat found me and sat with me.

When she did, I would hold her, snuggle into her warmth, and cry.
I didn’t try to stop the tears.
My body was doing exactly what it needed to do.

At the time, I didn’t have language for any of this. I just knew that I felt less alone—safer somehow. Looking back now, I can say honestly: that cat helped regulate my nervous system when no human could. That cat saved me.

Here’s why this happens.

Animals live almost entirely in the present moment. Their nervous systems are constantly scanning for safety or threat, but when a stress response is activated—fight, flight, or freeze—it completes. They shake, move, hide, vocalize, seek closeness, and then return to baseline once safety is restored. Nothing gets stuck.

Neuroscientist Robert Sapolsky explains this through the biology of dogs. Dogs have a**l scent glands (a**l sacs) located near the base of the tail. These glands release pheromones—chemical signals that communicate information about the dog’s internal state to other animals. The composition of these signals reflects what’s happening in the dog’s body, including levels of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.

When a dog is frightened, they instinctively tuck their tail. This isn’t just a posture of submission—it also limits the dispersal of fear-related chemical signals while the nervous system assesses safety. When a dog feels safe or joyful, they wag their tail, which helps disperse those chemical signals outward.

In other words, movement helps complete the stress cycle.

The nervous system activates → the body responds → chemistry is released → movement disperses it → regulation returns.

Humans experience the same stress hormones. But because we have a highly developed thinking brain, we often interrupt the process. Instead of allowing the body to move, shake, vocalize, cry, or discharge the energy, we override it with thoughts like:
~~“Don’t react.”
~~“This isn’t safe to feel.”
~~“Stay quiet.”
~~“You’re overreacting.”

The nervous system doesn’t get to finish what it started. The energy meant to resolve stays stored in the body. Over time, this can show up as anxiety, hypervigilance, chronic tension or pain, dissociation, or emotional numbness.

Animals don’t do this.

They don’t a**lyze the threat.
They don’t judge their response.
They don’t suppress their bodies to remain acceptable.

They feel, they respond, and then they settle.

I see this even now in my work. Some of my clients choose to let my cat lie across their legs during a session. No explanation is needed. Instinctively, they know how calm and regulated an animal’s nervous system is—and they feel that steadiness in their own body through proximity and contact.

That’s co-regulation in action.

When Kittles came to sit with me, she wasn’t “trying to help” in a cognitive way. She was simply present. Through her warmth, steady breathing, and stillness, my nervous system received cues of safety. Holding her and allowing myself to cry gave my body permission to complete what it was holding.

As I later learned more about the nervous system, I began watching my own animals differently. I noticed how clearly they listen to their bodies. How quickly they move through stress. How naturally they seek connection or space—without apology.

And I’ll add this.

Over the years, I’ve heard people say to me, “You’re going to end up alone with your cats.”
As if that were a warning.
As if it were something shameful.

And I think—amazing!

To be surrounded by beings who know how to regulate, who respond honestly to the moment, who offer presence without conditions, and who don’t require me to override my body or my truth to belong.

There is nothing broken or lonely about choosing connection that is safe, attuned, and real.

Animals don’t ask us to perform.
They don’t ask us to explain ourselves.
They don’t punish us for having a nervous system.

If being “alone with my cat” means living alongside the clearest examples of co-regulation I’ve ever known, then that sounds less like a failure—and more like wisdom.

And there is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about that at all.

01/05/2026

Learning to Be Still

I remember being little and saying, “Mom, I’m bored.”
Her answers were always the same: Read a book. Clean your room. I’ll give you something to do.

So I did.

I read constantly — stacks of books, disappearing into other worlds.
I wrote poetry.
And music… music was everything. It was always playing. It felt like an escape, a place I could go when the world felt too loud or too quiet at the same time.
And I cleaned. A lot.

At the time, it looked like creativity, responsibility, productivity. And some of it was. But looking back now, I can see something else underneath it. Years later, my mom told me that people often said to her, “She seems so mature for her age.” They thought I was older than I actually was.

In a way, it was true.

I had learned how to function early. To move. To manage. To stay regulated by staying busy. I was like a machine — not emotionally present, but efficiently moving through my nervous system patterns. I didn’t have the luxury of slowing down. I had to grow up fast.

Boredom wasn’t really boredom.

It was my nervous system not knowing how to just be.

When the nervous system is dysregulated, stillness can feel uncomfortable, even unsafe. Quiet creates space — and space can feel overwhelming when your body has learned to stay alert, busy, or useful. So we fill the space. We stimulate. We move. We do. We become “good” at staying occupied.

For me, cleaning became incessant — until one moment changed everything.
When my son was in kindergarten, he came home with a project he was so excited about. They were learning about the community, and moms and dads were supposed to share what they did for work.

At the time, I worked at a nonprofit organization for a ski destination, managing a member base of over 1,500 homeowners. I remember explaining my job to him, proud of the responsibility and scope of the work.

Then the project came home.

When I read it, I was stunned.

He had written, “My mom cleans.” 3 words.

That was the moment my incessant cleaning stopped. Not out of shame — but out of clarity. I realized this was how my son perceived me. Not by my title or my workload, but by what he saw me doing most.

And I saw, maybe for the first time, how deeply my constant motion had become my identity — even through his eyes. He was six. Children see far more than we realize. They mirror us with honesty, not judgment. I believe they deserve far more credit for the wisdom they hold.

That pattern didn’t stop in childhood.

As an adult, I never said the words “I’m bored,” but I lived them.
I was always moving.
Always doing.
Always cleaning.
Always working.
Always caretaking.
Always anticipating other people’s needs.
Always people-pleasing.

Music stayed with me through all of it. I still listen constantly, and expanded to podcasts and lectures — anything that feeds my mind and curiosity. It remains a massive part of my life — a source of connection, expression, learning, and now, regulation rather than escape.

From the moment I woke up until bedtime, sitting down felt wrong.
Rest felt unearned. Rest felt unproductive, as though my value was tied to motion and output.
Stillness felt foreign.

This is what nervous system dysregulation can look like. Not chaos — but constant motion. Not laziness — but over-functioning. Not boredom — but an inability to settle internally.

What’s changed everything for me is Spinal Flow.

As my nervous system began to regulate, the compulsion to stay busy is quiet. The constant “on” switch has turned off. And for the first time, sitting by myself — within myself — feels easy.

Peaceful, even.

Silence no longer needs to be filled.
Stillness no longer feels threatening.
Rest no longer feels like something I have to justify.

Boredom has transformed into presence.
Into ease.
Into a sense of safety inside my own body.

Now, when I hear someone — especially an adult — say that they are bored, I can’t help but feel a touch of empathy and wonder: What was your childhood like? Were you allowed to be a child?

Sometimes, boredom isn’t a lack of things to do.
Sometimes, it’s a reminder that we haven’t yet learned to sit with ourselves.
And sometimes, it’s an invitation to come home to our own presence.

01/04/2026

When Defending Yourself Becomes Exhausting: A Reflection on Projection, Nervous System Patterns, and Integration

I’ve noticed a pattern in myself: when someone misrepresents me, lies about me, or refuses to hear my truth, I can get very angry. I push back hard, sometimes saying things that hurt the other person—even though it never feels good afterward. I also notice the urge to overshare, to explain myself in detail, and to expend far more energy than the situation actually requires. By the end, I often feel drained and aware that protecting my truth has cost me more than the interaction itself.

Over time, I’ve come to understand that this response isn’t random. It’s rooted in patterns formed early in life.

When I was five years old, my father passed away. At his funeral, the casket was closed from the waist down, and I remember feeling scared and unsettled that I couldn’t see his legs. Something about the incompleteness of what I was seeing didn’t make sense to my body. After the service, it was opened fully so I could see him. I needed to see the truth — not out of curiosity, but out of a deep, instinctive need for reality to be whole so my system could understand what had happened, even though it took me decades to fully integrate his death.

That moment matters.

Because from very early on, my nervous system learned that clarity equals safety — and that when reality feels incomplete, distorted, or withheld, the body stays unsettled.

Later, growing up, I often perceived situations clearly and accurately, spoke up, and was ignored. I witnessed unhealthy and toxic relationship dynamics repeat—things I was aware wouldn’t change, while my caregiver did not yet have the strength within her own nervous system to make different choices. As a child, I held awareness without agency. My nervous system learned that truth alone didn’t create safety, and that staying alert, engaged, and pushing back was sometimes the only way to orient myself.

That younger part of me—the one who learned to stay vigilant and defend reality—is still present. Not because something is wrong, but because it once served a very real protective role.

Why projection shows up

Projection forms when parts of us had to adapt in order to survive experiences that were overwhelming or unresolved. When reality is confusing, incomplete, or denied, the nervous system doesn’t relax — it holds tension in readiness.

Those parts don’t disappear as we grow older. They wait.

Later in life, when someone distorts our words, misunderstands us, or tells a story about us that doesn’t feel true, the nervous system reacts as if something essential is being taken away again. Anger, hurt, oversharing, and over-depleting ourselves to be understood are not character flaws. They are protective strategies rooted in an early need for clarity, coherence, and safety.

What makes projection so powerful is that it feels justified. Most people don’t realize they’re responding from an earlier experience rather than the present moment. They feel the reaction — but not the history behind it.

How this shows up in everyday life

While this pattern has been part of my own experience, it shows up in many ways for many people:

~~A parent feels overwhelmed by their child’s emotions because their own emotions were never fully acknowledged.
~~A partner reacts strongly to perceived distance, rooted in earlier experiences of loss or abandonment.
~~Someone becomes defensive around feedback at work because it touches a wound around being misunderstood or unseen.
~~A person feels compelled to explain themselves repeatedly, hoping clarity will finally create safety.
~~Someone reacts strongly to traits they struggle with in others—often parts of themselves that once had to be suppressed.
~~Others avoid conflict entirely, withdrawing or people-pleasing to prevent emotional overwhelm.

In each case, the nervous system is responding to something familiar — not necessarily something current.

How Spinal Flow can help

Spinal Flow supports the release of stored stress in the body and allows the nervous system to reorganize naturally. As regulation increases, awareness follows.

With this support, it becomes easier to notice:
~~When anger is protecting something vulnerable
~~When oversharing is an attempt to restore clarity
~~When pushing back is coming from old survival energy
~~When defending the truth no longer requires self-exhaustion

Integration doesn’t mean silencing these responses. It means recognizing them, honoring why they exist, and allowing the body to learn that it now has more choice.

Protecting your energy becomes easier

As the nervous system regulates, protecting your energy becomes more manageable. Boundaries feel clearer. Responses feel more intentional. You no longer have to defend your truth at the expense of yourself.

Spinal Flow doesn’t remove parts of you — it helps reintegrate them. The part of you that always needed truth and clarity can remain present without needing to fight for its place.

01/01/2026

🧠 Relationship patterns are learned — and they are held in the nervous system.

If you grow up witnessing unhealthy or imbalanced relationship dynamics, your nervous system adapts to what it perceives as normal. Patterns such as emotional unavailability, inconsistency, people-pleasing, self-silencing, or over-accommodation often develop not as conscious choices, but as nervous system strategies for safety and connection. Over time, these adaptations shape how we relate to partners, what we tolerate, and how we relate to ourselves within relationships.

Many of these ways of being are passed down through generations. When survival, attachment, or endurance were prioritised over emotional safety and authenticity, the nervous system learned to stay regulated by settling, accommodating, or enduring. This is not anyone’s fault. These patterns were learned, adapted, and reinforced in response to the environments people were navigating. This is how they become generational — and it’s also why they can be changed. With awareness and nervous system regulation, what was once adaptive no longer has to define the future. These patterns can persist long after the original context has changed, but they are not permanent.

✨ Nervous system healing allows these patterns to unwind — layer by layer.

When the nervous system is supported to move out of chronic survival states and into regulation, change unfolds gradually and intelligently. At first, this may show up as awareness — noticing familiar relationship dynamics without immediately changing them. As regulation builds, emotional clarity increases. What once felt tolerable may begin to feel misaligned. Subtle forms of emotional neglect, manipulation, or repeated boundary violations become harder to ignore — not because you are more reactive, but because your system has more capacity to feel what is true.

With greater regulation, many people experience a clear internal shift — a grounded sense of strength and knowing. From this state, tolerance for unhealthy relationship dynamics naturally decreases. Not from reactivity or anger, but from regulation. When the nervous system feels safe and stable, it no longer needs to accept emotional neglect, manipulation, or repeated boundary violations to maintain connection.

🌀 Spinal Flow supports spinal and nervous system communication, helping to release areas of stored stress and interference. As regulation becomes sustainable, people often notice:
• Reduced people-pleasing and over-accommodation
• Increased self-trust and emotional clarity
• Stronger boundaries without force or defensiveness
• A natural movement toward more respectful, reciprocal relationships

🌱 When the nervous system is regulated, authenticity becomes the baseline.
From this place, tolerating disrespect or abuse no longer aligns with how the body knows itself to be. Change doesn’t need to be pushed — it emerges, steadily and safely, over time.

💛 For me, this work is also deeply personal.
Offering Spinal Flow sessions to my mom — and now to my children — is one of the ways I consciously choose to break generational patterns. Witnessing regulation, safety, and ease become more accessible across generations has been incredibly moving. It’s a reminder that while healing is deeply individual, it is also relational. When one nervous system shifts, it influences the systems around it.

Just three years ago, I knew very little about the nervous system. I had no real understanding of the biology behind stress, behaviour, regulation, or how deeply generational patterns shape the way we live and relate. When I began learning — and truly diving in — it changed everything. I came to understand that these patterns are real, that the body keeps score, and that the human nervous system is capable of remarkable adaptation and healing when it is given the right support and safety.

As I enter into 2026, this knowledge and being a Spinal Flow practitioner feels like the greatest gift I can give my family. To know how the body functions, how regulation is built, and how healing can ripple across generations is something I hold with deep gratitude. I am beyond humbled to know what I know now — and to witness the impact it continues to have, one nervous system at a time. 🙏🙏🙏🙏💝
Thank you for allowing me to be your daughter and mother.