The Angry Therapist

16/01/2026

Tell a friend.

16/01/2026

16/01/2026

Surfing arouses me in some strange way.

Not h***y or sexual, although there are a lot of half naked butts in the ocean, but more of a coming into my body kind of arousing, and maybe arousing because I’m not used to dropping into my body that much. Not sexual arousal, sensual arounsal. I would imagine what people feel when they truly allow themselves to dance in a dark bar.

It’s that rare place between flow, dopamine, witnessing beauty, and presence. I would assume once surfing becomes a competitive sport, it changes. It’s less arousing because stakes and pressure is higher. Maybe that’s why it’s arousing. There’s no pressure right now. “There are no bad days” as I say.

Or maybe when I’m in the water, I feel like I’ve been touched by something honest.

Like life leaned in and said,
this is it.

Come get honest with me.
March 9th-13th


www.surfsexandpancakes.com

15/01/2026

In less than two months,
My retreat in Costa Rica is happening.

But here’s the opportunity.
I feel like this one will be super intimate, like 5 or less. Usually my retreats are anywhere between 10-30 people. And usually if I don’t hit a certain number, I cancel. But I’m in Costa Rica where work and play blurs. So I will run it with less people and for you it will feel more like an intensive than a retreat.

Five or fewer people means deeper conversations. More space. More access. More real-time processing. Less structure, more responsiveness. The kind of experience that is usually higher ticket, but this one is still priced as a retreat.

If you’ve ever wanted something more personal, more contained, more time with me, this is that window.

Here’s what our days will include, not as a checklist, but as a rhythm.

Surfing for beginners, and yes, I’ll be right there with you because I’m learning too.
Breath and sound work to settle the body and open things up.
Group work that isn’t forced or performative, just honest. It’s my jam.
Relationship workshop by Vanessa Bennett
Sunset walks
Optional medicine journey add on.

So if you want to attend a retreat with 5 or less, get more of an intensive (usually higher ticket) but for a retreat price, this is the one to attend. The next one will most likely have 10 or more.

Everything we’ll do comes from what I practice daily here to regulate, ground, and expand. Everything I’ve discovered here and practice myself daily to regulate.

It’s going to be epic and meaningful and I hope to meet you soon.

www.surfsexandpancakes.com

Surf, wellness, connection, and unforgettable mornings. A modern surf & wellness camp designed for people who crave more from life.

15/01/2026

And if you’re on the fence, here’s a discount code. RETREAT500 at check out for 500 off. 🤙🏽 pura vita.

15/01/2026

On today’s episode, answering your questions about love, attachment, and when to let go. Enjoy.

14/01/2026

2024 was my base model.
Functional. Surviving. Doing what it needed to do.
Still powerful, but running hot.
Battery draining fast.
Too many apps open.
Too much background noise.

I was getting things done, but it cost me.
Inside, stagnet, on autopilot.
Externally, productive.
That gap mattered.

2025 was the upgrade. The Pro version
Not flashy, but noticeable.
Better camera, meaning I started seeing my life more clearly.
Less distortion.
More honesty.
I deleted apps that no longer served me.
Old patterns.
Old contracts.
Old ways of performing for approval.

My nervous system started to trust the upgrade.
Life felt smoother.
Still working hard, but with less friction.
I stopped forcing things to load that were never meant to.

Then the fires.

2026 is the Pro Max
It’s starting over, redefining and reinventing.

Inside, there’s more spaciousness.
More curiosity and discernment.
Old blueprints burned.
Value depth over speed.
Presence over performance.

Externally, my lifestyle reflects that.
Where I live.
How I move.
Who gets access.
What I say yes to, and more importantly, what I don’t.

This version isn’t trying to keep up.
It’s built for longevity.
Better battery life.
Fewer notifications.
Sharper focus.

Growth doesn’t always look like becoming more.
Sometimes it looks like becoming cleaner, quieter, and truer.

Same core.
New operating system.

14/01/2026

Also on today’s episode, the anniversary of the Altadena fires. As I reflect, share my revelations, and what’s next for us. May be helpful if you know anyone who lost their home and is starting over too.

14/01/2026

On today’s episode, You can be living your ‘best life’ and still carry pain. Some things don’t disappear, they live in your eyes.