Compassionate Counselling Clinic

26/10/2025

There’s a clear rise in love affairs — let’s call it that, kindly.
Because even when we speak about difficult things, kindness brings more healing energy into the space.

I thought it might be useful to share a short guide for everyone in a relationship - which is, really, most of us. Something to reflect on, to learn from, and to protect ourselves from those whose intentions are less than good. https://the-ccc.ca/reflection-room/loyalty-betrayal-and-repair-a-psychotherapists-view

The basic principle of everything remains simple:
👉 Do not harm another human being - especially without reason.
It’s not good, and it’s not smart. It only shows low emotional intelligence and unhealed trauma.

- learn to communicate.
Peaceful, assertive communication seeks positive solutions for all - not quick blame, attacks, or victim games.

These patterns have become almost funny in their repetition - but they’re deeply destructive when used to manipulate or wound.

This week, I started worked with a woman, 48, mother of two teens, who finally stood up to a man who controlled her life for 20 years - financially, emotionally, sometimes physically.
She lived in an open prison, yet she found her strength, her voice, and her dignity.

Stories like hers are shocking and heartbreaking. That’s why I’m sharing this - hoping it helps someone recognize early signs of control, deception, and emotional harm.
She writing her authentic experience with this I believe it's Psychopaths and couple of things more.

I also warmly invite my colleagues - psychologists, psychotherapists, counselors, educators, psychiatrists - to join me in refining, expanding, or correcting one of parts, or adding insights to this guide so it can grow into a valuable public resource.
Maybe even a book one day. https://the-ccc.ca/reflection-room/loyalty-betrayal-and-repair-a-psychotherapists-view
📩 compassionatecounsellingclinic@gmail.com

Because some patterns are so predictable - you don’t need to be a therapist to recognize them.

⚠️ Here’s what we already know from both practice and psychology:

• If someone constantly accuses you of infidelity without reason - they’re often the one being unfaithful.
• If they need constant attention and admiration - it’s not love, it’s narcissistic supply.
• If they twist your words to make you doubt yourself - you’re not crazy, it’s gaslighting.
• If they isolate you from family and friends - it’s not love, it’s control.
Abusers know that isolation weakens your sense of reality, making their version of truth the only one you hear.
• If they alternate between affection and coldness - it’s emotional conditioning, not passion.
• If they “forget” things they’ve said or done - it’s not bad memory, it’s manipulation.
• If they present themselves as a victim in every story - they’re avoiding accountability.
• If they talk about “peace” but create chaos - they feed on instability.

Because truth needs no defense - but lies always need performance.
And every performance eventually collapses when you stop reacting.

✨ This guide will soon become a full Relationship Recovery Manual - for everyone who’s tired of being gaslit, silenced, or blamed for someone else’s shadow.
🌿 Until then, start with one small step:
Believe your own experience.
That’s where healing - and sanity - begin.
https://the-ccc.ca

19/10/2025

🧠✨ Searching for a Little Therapist Helper
(For Compassionate Counselling Clinic & The MTP.CA Projects)

Looking for a bright, responsible, and curious young assistant (15–25 y/o) — with parental support (written agreement) - to help grow two creative, heart-based projects:
🌿 CCC – Compassionate Counselling Clinic (psychotherapy & emotional growth)
🎧 The MTP.CA – Multipraktik Recordings (music & mental health platform)

💻 Your Daily Tasks

- Answer & send given tasks, organize emails

- Book or reschedule sessions

- Post prepared texts on social media

- Update simple website sections

- Manage and upload music tracks to distributors and where they need to go

- Post creative updates for both projects

- Communication is only in English (As that's how you will learn quickly)

🌱 Who You Are

Good grades, responsible, emotionally mature..(most teenagers are, in fact, more emotionally mature than their parents 😉).

Excellent or solid English Writing, speaking (or strong will to improve)

Honest, curious, and supported by a parent

💙 Kids with disabilities are especially encouraged to apply and one where parents are in hard financial situation or single parent!

⏱ Time & Pay
Approx. 1–2 hours daily, flexible schedule
💶 €200 - 300/month fixed + performance bonuses

⚠️ Only one rule: This is a Public Project, built with care and integrity. 😉 Same is expected.

👉 If this sounds like you (or someone you know), send a short message about who you are and why you’d love to join:
📩 compassionatecounsellingclinic@gmail.com
“💫 Let’s build something beautiful together.”
https://the-ccc.ca

17/10/2025

https://the-ccc.ca/reflection-room/kada-vas-neko-stalno-krivi-za-sve

Stručna psihoterapija i podrška za anksioznost, depresiju i emocionalne teškoće. Privatna praksa sa saosećajnim pristupom.

11/10/2025

Well.. Mel having some wise words! Let them.. Becaose when you let them, omg you will learn so much!

You don’t have to give your energy to every problem, every person, or every comment.

Pause. Breathe. And decide if it’s actually worth it.

If it’s not? Let Them.

And then Let Me protect my peace, my focus, and my energy 💚

08/10/2025

When “Hypersensitive” Is Just Another Word for Wounded

She came a few days ago - inspired by the posts I’ve been sharing. (At least some good use of Facebook!)
A young, married woman, worried about her “hypersensitivity.”

As she spoke, it became clear - her sensitivity wasn’t the problem at all. Her husband had been constantly criticizing her, nitpicking every small thing, accusing and belittling her at every turn. She tried to please him, hoping peace would come through more effort. But it never did.

For someone who hasn’t lived it, her situation might seem invisible - yet it’s deeply exhausting, mentally draining, and ultimately dangerous. Living for years with emotional pain takes a serious toll on one’s health and spirit.

What she called “hypersensitivity” was in fact her psyche’s natural alarm - a healthy emotional response to constant disrespect and subtle emotional abuse.

We explored together the idea that her task is not to become less sensitive - but to start protecting that sensitivity… It’s not a flaw, it’s your compass. The goal isn’t to toughen up, but to learn where your limits truly are and to respect them. Sensitivity without boundaries becomes suffering; sensitivity with awareness becomes wisdom. We worked little on how in reality she can do this ;)

You don’t need to silence what you feel - you need to listen to it differently. Each emotion is information. When something consistently hurts, that’s not oversensitivity - that’s your system saying: enough.

So the healing begins not by changing who you are, but by learning to stand by yourself with the same compassion you give to others.”

We often think we’re broken, while in reality, our body and emotions are simply begging us to stop tolerating what hurts us!

Sensitivity is not weakness - it’s the soul’s radar for truth.

Couple of months back, or years, Canada or here, doesn't really matter

https://the-ccc.ca

01/10/2025

✨ Procrastination and Dopamine Addiction ✨

Procrastination is not laziness. More often, it’s the brain choosing an easier source of dopamine instead of facing an uncomfortable task. Instead of doing important work, we unconsciously reach for quick pleasures — phone, social media, sweets, or Netflix.

🧠 Why?
The brain loves dopamine because it brings a sense of reward and relief. Technology and instant content deliver fast and intense dopamine hits. But in the long run, this drains motivation and increases guilt, anxiety, and inner tension.

💡 The Solution?
Mindfulness and conscious dopamine regulation. We learn to delay instant rewards and find dopamine in small, real steps of progress. Each completed task becomes a natural source of strength and inner reward.

🌱 The Point: Procrastination decreases when we stop chasing quick dopamine “highs” and start building patience, presence, and satisfaction in the process itself.
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29/09/2025

🌑 When Words Become Poison

“Words can be sharper than a sword - and when they are colored with sarcasm or insult, they speak more about someone else’s fear and weakness than about you.”

👉 What is really happening?

Sarcasm is often a mask for envy or a sense of inferiority.

Insults are a way to boost one’s ego by putting another down.

Manipulation is an attempt to control where there is no inner security.

“Negative words and toxic vibrations don’t just linger in the air — they sink into the body. From inner pain, physical illness can grow. That’s why it is so important to recognize them and protect ourselves.”

🔍 Example:
Imagine a colleague who, while you’re sharing an idea, throws in:
“Oh, right, you’re always the smartest one.”
On the surface – a joke. Underneath – an attempt to belittle you because they feel invisible.

Or in a couple’s argument, one partner says:
“If you don’t like it, you can just leave.”
On the surface – cold distance.
Underneath – fear of abandonment and an inability to express the need for closeness.

When we realize this, we stop taking their words as the truth about us.
Their poison belongs to them, not us. 🛡️

🌱 True strength lies in staying calm, communicating clearly, and not letting someone else’s insecurity become our burden.
And how we can learn to communicate better — we will explore on October 26 @ the-ccc.ca – Online 🌿 Mindfulness Alchemy – The Art of Inner Transformation

💙 No one has the power to diminish your worth — unless you hand it to them.
👉 https://the-ccc.ca

26/09/2025

🌿 Mindfulness Alchemy – The Art of Inner Transformation
✨ Coming October 26 @ the-ccc.ca

I recently added something simple, yet transformative, to Mindfulness Alchemy:

- laughter and humor.
It may sound almost too simple - but it works like deep medicine.

At first glance, it may seem light, too playful, to be taken seriously. But laughter is not the opposite of depth — it is the doorway to it.
When we laugh, the body softens, the mind opens, and the heart remembers that not everything has to be carried with such heaviness.

Laughter breaks the spell of overthinking. It reminds us that joy can exist alongside pain, that healing can come with a smile, and that even in the hardest moments we can choose not to drown, but to float.

Humor doesn’t deny reality - it transforms how we meet reality.
And sometimes, what therapy, mindfulness, and life itself truly need… is a little more laughter.

✨ Because transformation doesn’t always start with silence. Sometimes, it starts with joy!

It melts the heaviness of overthinking, It relaxes the nervous system instantly, It opens the heart and shifts perspective, It awakens creativity.

So Wise Mind - Move - Coming soon as Dancing is Cure too ;)

This morning I laughed to myself, danced around, and wrote with joy. It felt as if my entire being was lighter.

Because here’s the truth: when you choose to think from your Wise Mind and add humor, you’re not escaping reality — you’re reshaping how you meet it.

And if you add couple of things more like: gratitude, love and............. Manifestation Energy

💭 Instead of “what if everything goes wrong?” — you smile and ask “what if today turns out beautiful?”
💃 Instead of tension in your body — there is flow, rhythm, and dance.
🕊️ Instead of harsh words — you find yourself speaking with warmth, gratitude, and clarity. Plus you speaking...

From a psychotherapist’s perspective, this is not just about being “positive.” Humor is a form of grounding. It interrupts destructive loops of overthinking and assumptions. It allows you to reclaim the present moment with joy, not fear.

👉 Try it: next time your mind is heavy, tell yourself a joke, even a silly one. Notice how your breath deepens, your shoulders relax, and your heart feels lighter.

That is Mindfulness Alchemy: turning the weight of the mind into the lightness of being.
And sometimes, the most powerful transformation starts with something as simple as laughter. ✨
https://the-ccc.ca

24/09/2025

Healing Through Connection

Human beings are most fully realized through relationships and community — our personality grows when we give and receive attention, time, and support. The modern ideal of complete autonomy often praises self-sufficiency, but when autonomy turns into isolation, it leads to emptiness and loneliness. True maturity lies in balance: the courage to be ourselves, and the humility to weave our gifts into the fabric of togetherness.

“Belonging is not a luxury, but a psychological necessity: social bonds act as a shield against overwhelming anxiety; where there is genuine support, the mind becomes more resilient, fear loses its grip, and recovery comes faster.”

When we feel connected with family, friends, or community, we become more resilient to life’s challenges. On the other hand, loneliness and disconnection often lead to depression, anxiety, and even despair.

Healing begins when we stop chasing the ego and start building warm, supportive relationships. Personality is born and affirmed in authentic contact with another person — and when two individuals are at a similar level of maturity, something almost magical happens: a connection that gradually brings deep joy, ecstasy, and a sense of union.

This kind of fusion is healing when it respects emotional independence and preserves one’s identity. If one or both partners lose themselves, the relationship slips into unhealthy dependence instead of shared growth.

Personality is born in relationship. Neurobiology and psychotherapy show that we are naturally wired for connection: consciousness, safety, and emotional resilience are built through close, reciprocal bonds. When we are seen, heard, and genuinely accepted, our “self” gains shape and strength. When we are isolated, identity weakens, dissolves, and easily falls into emptiness. That is why working on relationships — through honesty, empathy, and responsibility — is the foundation of genuine personal growth.

Self-centeredness locks a person inside their own emptiness and becomes an illness of the soul. Health, freedom, and meaning arise only through selfless love and relationship with others.

Reducing life to “just me and my abilities” exhausts the spirit and leads to emptiness, while openness, giving, and service restore meaning, strength, and warmth to the heart.

Psychotherapy makes this clear: the feeling of belonging gives us strength, security, and joy. Whether it comes from family, community, or a partner, support protects us from stress and strengthens inner resilience. Isolation, in contrast, fuels loneliness, anxiety, and depression.
👉 Choose relationships that nourish your soul, not those that drain it.
✨ If you want to strengthen your sense of belonging and build communities that heal — visit https://the-ccc.ca
and discover how therapy through connection can transform your life.

22/09/2025

🌿 Why is Mindfulness so Powerful?

As Mindfulness Alchemy – The Art of Inner Transformation (October 26th) approaches, it’s a good reminder of how deeply this practice can change our lives:

✨ It calms the body and mind – breathing becomes deeper, tension eases, and we discover something new.
✨ It helps us pause between feeling and reacting. In that small space lies the power of choice.
✨ It teaches us to accept ourselves instead of running from what we feel. They’re just emotions.
✨ It brings clarity and the ability to see situations from a wider perspective.
✨ It deepens the relationship with ourselves, and therefore with others.
– It installs very simply: you don’t even have to move a finger, and you’re already entering Beginner’s Mind.

Mindfulness is not a “quick fix technique” – it’s a path back to yourself, a way to find peace and the inner strength that has always been there.

🌱 From a therapist’s perspective:
One of the most profound effects of mindfulness is the gentle, natural shift in how we think and respond. Very quickly, we notice ourselves functioning differently – with more calmness, patience, and inner freedom. I have personally experienced this. That’s why I’ve created simple, accessible exercises that anyone can use.

From now on, Mindfulness Alchemy becomes a regular program at 👉 the-ccc.ca

At the same time, I’ll be introducing the Tesla Nova 2.1 practice – currently in its testing and promo phase until January. We’ll also be joined by collaborators presenting topics on communication – because ultimately, it all connects back to Mindfulness Alchemy and inner transformation.

Goal:
“Presence is the most beautiful gift we can give ourselves and those we love.”

✨ Special Bonus: Everyone who registers early will receive discounts for individual therapy, exercises, and future programs.

👉 Join us and take your first step into your own inner transformation.
https://the-ccc.ca

19/09/2025

🌿 On Vulnerability, Kindness, and the Power of Communication

This morning I received a call from someone I deeply admire. He began the conversation with:
"Hello Milan, I just wanted to reach out - though I don’t even know how to start… I’m not good at communication. My whole struggle is about this…"

That sentence stopped me in my tracks.
Here was a man of wisdom, a theologian, a family man with a strong, successful household - something I personally admire. And yet, he chose to begin with vulnerability, not with pride.

I cannot describe my immediate dedication in that moment—I became all ears. His way of speaking was raw, humble, and deeply vulnerable, but at the same time calm and focused on solving the problem.

In just half an hour, his honesty helped me clear up many of my own doubts about communication. Once again, I was reminded how powerful it is when we drop defenses and speak openly.

Together, we quickly found possible solutions for his issue - rooted in old patterns of manipulation and dishonesty that go back decades. But what stayed with me even more was the impression of his openness: how beautiful it is when a person knows who they are, yet still chooses to be kind, respectful, and sincere.

✨
Vulnerability is not weakness - it is strength in its purest form.
It builds bridges where walls once stood, and it transforms communication into true connection.

https://the-ccc.ca