05/11/2025
You can’t think your way out of a pattern — you have to feel it.
You might believe that if you can just understand something deeply enough, you’ll finally change it.
If you talk about it, journal about it, gain more insight, the pattern will finally disappear.
Sound familiar?
But awareness alone doesn’t create change.
You can’t think your way out of something your body learned through feeling.
Most of our patterns live lower than the mind — in the body, in the nervous system, in the places that learned to protect, defend, avoid or shut down long before you could explain why.
It’s not a top-down process, it’s bottom-up.
Your body feels before your mind makes sense of it.
The sensations, impulses, tightening, or pulling away, they happen first. The story we create to make sense of it comes later.
So healing begins when you stop trying to figure it out and start to feel it through.
When you can notice what’s happening inside you with curiosity rather than control.

When you learn to soothe your body so your mind can follow.
Because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do isn’t to pick your pattern apart more and overthink it — it’s to actually start feeling it. 🤍
