CIRCLING DENMARK - authentic relating

01/05/2024

HVORDAN SKABE GODE RELATIONER? 🍀

Hvad skal der mon til for at skabe gode, dybe og nærende relationer? Det er noget jeg interesserer mig for. Jeg synes bestemt ikke det er nemt; dels at det skal være et godt match, en jævnbyrdig udveksling, og at man har fælles interesser og aktiviteter man ønsker at dele m.v.

I dag fik jeg tilsendt denne lille, norske Instagram video. Her er bud på hvad som forskere i USA har fundet ud af er bidragende til gode og dybe relationer. Det er i grunden ret simpelt. Og jeg er SÅ enig i det som bliver delt. Selv har jeg ofte tænkt på at det muligvis er med relationer som med planter; de trænger jævnligt til næring om de skal trives.

LYT MED HER!!! 🍃🍀🍃

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6aqGGdMcQW/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

17/10/2019

One of the reasons many of us find social encounters difficult is that they force into that particular conversational byway called small-talk - where we have...

01/05/2019

THE STORY OF THE 5 CHAIRS

A good example of how our beliefs/attitudes/behaviours are forming the connection we have with ourself as well as with others.....! 🌿✨🌿

This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take th...

27/11/2018

SLUDRE KOP

Super initiativ i Norge for at skabe mere kontakt os mennesker imellem. Måske vi kan tage lidt mere kontakt uden kop også....? ☕ 🍰 ☕

27/07/2018

Brain coupling.....when we are in sync with someone....!!! 😊

26/04/2018

The space between us when we relate, is a sacred space! 🌻
True connection is when we meet essence to essence - when we are willing and have the courage to step over the bridge to be WITH(IN) and FOR each other.

Clinical psychologist and a couple and relationship therapy expert, Hedy Schleifer. My life's work has crystalized into one single overarching idea. It is th...

10/01/2018

Interessant forskning omkring hvordan vores emotioner oppstår! 🌻

Can you look at someone's face and know what they're feeling? Does everyone experience happiness, sadness and anxiety the same way? What are emotions anyway? For the past 25 years, psychology professor Lisa Feldman Barrett has mapped facial expressions, scanned brains and analyzed hundreds of physio...

17/12/2017

WHEN SITTING WITH A FRIEND IN PAIN

"At times, you may find yourself with a friend who is upset, falling apart, confused, hopeless, sad, and afraid. Nothing is making sense anymore, they are overwhelmed, and the emotions are unrelenting.

You are unsure how to help.

While their pain may trigger you, and bring alive an avalanche of urgent, anxious, fixing energy – activating the shadows of your own unlived life - an invitation has appeared.

Slow way down. Ground awareness in your body and listen. Not just to the words they are saying, but to the secret request that is emerging out of their heart. Perhaps they are not asking for you to fix, cure, or even heal them. Perhaps their deepest longing is not for advice or teachings or even being reassured that everything is okay. It is not okay, and that is okay.

While you may be burning with the need to talk them out of their experience – overflowing with solutions, techniques, and processes – return into spaciousness. Infuse the environment with pause, rest, and resonance. With the slow circuits of empathy and presence, step into the vessel and seal it with non-urgent loving kindness.

This may not be the moment for you to give your friend an answer, but to hold them as you confront the vastness of the question together.

Offer the gift of a soothed, calm, and regulated nervous system. Turn your heart into a temple and sanctuary where together you can validate their feelings, and provide safe passage for their process to unfold. Do what you can so that they feel felt, that they need not heal in this moment in order for you to stay near.

Never, ever underestimate the power of love. Even one moment of empathic, attuned, contact can change our lives forever. Please don’t forget that for many, they have never actually known this sort of holding – or have had it in only very small amounts.

You have tremendous power to be a vessel in which healing can come into this world, to help another make new meaning and find new breath. To slowly dissolve the trance of unworthiness and know their true nature. Please do whatever you can. And please never, ever give up on love."

- Matt Licata

At times, you may find yourself with a friend who is upset, falling apart, confused, hopeless, sad, and afraid. Nothing is making sense an...

12/10/2017

JUST LIKE ME
- on owning what we see in others

This video I did spontaneously yesterday. My first video ever, so I´m out of my comfort zone. No planning or editing. It´s about a happening I had when waking up in the morning. It´s also about an awesome tool; to own what we see in others (positive and negative projections) in ourselves. I hope it´s useful for you as well!