10/02/2024
“Jesus is both our provider and our paradigm for showing love.”
Several years ago a movie called “Fireproof” came out. It was the story of a firefighter whose marriage was in shambles. In an effort to save his marriage, he read a book called “The Love Dare” which instructed him to shower his significant other with unconditional love. The main character begins doing extra chores around the house, running errands for his estranged wife, bringing her fresh flowers, generously providing a much needed gift, and generally going out of his way to meet her needs. I won’t share any spoilers, but you can probably guess how that works out for him.
This month we are learning how to love those around us better and seeing how God loves each of us in different ways to meet our needs based off of “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. Our main character in the movie mostly utilized “Acts of Service” and “Gift Giving” to strengthen his relationship with his wife. It is widely known that “Love is shown more in deeds [actions and gifts] than in words.” (-Saint Ignatius)
GIFTS
If gift-receiving is your love language, “a thoughtful gift shows you that you are special. In contrast, generic gifts and forgotten special events have the opposite effect.” (familycentre.org)
Thousands of years ago, God made a special promise that he would send someone to save this world from it’s darkness. He didn’t forget his promise. He came through on that promise because “"God so loved the world, that he GAVE his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16) By grace alone we have been saved. And there is nothing we can do to make it happen on our own; it is the GIFT of God (Ephesians 2:8) What a treasure to know that he keeps his promise and that he values you enough to pay the ultimate price!
But God doesn’t stop there. He loves us extravagantly and continues to shower us with gifts: some are obvious like family, financial security, and food on the table, and others are gifts straight to our hearts. Jeremiah tells us that God plans to help us succeed in life (spiritually) and GIVES us a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11) Jesus GIVES us peace: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you.” (John 14:11) Whether tangible or not, we can know that “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights,” (James 1:7).
Another awesome gift from God is our bodies: “do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) Whether you love the skin you are in or not, it was a gift from God. We can show our appreciation of that gift by using the eyes, ears, hands, and feet that he has given us to show love to those around us through Acts of Service, which is anything we do to ease the workload of someone else.
SERVING
In the beginning of the Love Chapter, 1 Corinthians 13, Paul emphasizes the importance of loving others by saying, “if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.” (1 Corinthians 13:2-3)
Years earlier, Jesus was acknowledging when people had clothed him, fed him, and visited him in prison. Perplexed, the crowd asked, “When did we do these things for you? We never saw you hungry, thirsty, or imprisoned.” And Jesus replied, “Here’s the truth: “Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me—you did it to me.” (Matthew 25:35-40 MSG)
We should always seek out a way to make someone’s day better, even in the smallest of interactions. Not so that we can be proud and brag about how nice we are. But because if we have the heart of Jesus, and we know that he created and loves each person uniquely, we should want to love others like he does.
In Leviticus 19:18, God gave the command, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” As Jesus was preparing to leave this world, he told his disciples, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” Though these commands were similar, one difference stands out. No longer are we to simply love others AS YOURSELF. As imperfect humans, we cannot love others adequately in our own power. Half of the time, we don’t even love ourselves very well. Instead, we are to demonstrate love AS JESUS LOVED. Jesus loved to dig in with the outcast of society, the difficult people, the people facing heartbreaking challenges. He loved to get his hands dirty. “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but TO SERVE, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:45)
God will never stop taking care of us. “Look at the birds in the sky. They do not store food for winter. They don’t plant gardens….and yet, they are always fed because your heavenly Father feeds them. And you are even more precious to Him than a beautiful bird. If He looks after them, of course He will look after you.” (Matthew 6:26 Voice)
God told Isaiah, “For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” (Isaiah 41:13) There doesn’t exist much more of a confidence booster than that: the God of the Universe is walking side by side with you ensuring that you don’t feel overwhelmed.
We can love others through service by easing their workload in some capacity. But we also have tremendous hope knowing that Jesus himself told us to come to him when we are tired and our workload is too much. He will carry our burdens and give us rest. (Matthew 11:28-30) He is both our provider and our paradigm for loving through service.
Take a moment to meditate on the following scripture, taking note of the physical provisions/gifts as well as the service of easing a burden: (Psalm 23 VOICE)
“The Eternal is my shepherd, He cares for me always.
He provides me rest in rich, green fields beside streams of refreshing water.
He soothes my fears;
3 He makes me whole again, steering me off worn, hard paths
to roads where truth and righteousness echo His name.
4 Even in the unending shadows of death’s darkness,
I am not overcome by fear.
Because You are with me in those dark moments, near with Your protection and guidance,
I am comforted.
5 You spread out a table before me, provisions in the midst of attack from my enemies;
You care for all my needs, anointing my head with soothing, fragrant oil,
filling my cup again and again with Your grace.
6 Certainly Your faithful protection and loving provision will pursue me where I go, always, everywhere.
I will always be with the Eternal, in Your house forever.”
SOURCES:
Bible Verses: www.Biblegateway.com
FireProof Movie: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1129423/plotsummary/?ref_=tt_stry_pl
The Love Dare Book: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Dare-Stephen-Kendrick/dp/0805448853 #:~:text=The%20Love%20Dare%2C%20as%20featured,journey%20you%20need%20to%20take.
Five Love Languages Book: https://5lovelanguages.com/
5 Love Languages Definitions: https://www.familycentre.org/news/post/5-different-ways-to-show-love-and-improve-your-relationship
God’s Love Shown Through Acts of Service and Gifts
By Kathryn Mills, 2/9/24