30/12/2024
Is Suffering a Choice?
For years, I tried to avoid negative feelings in an effort to escape suffering. Funny, is it not? I have come to believe that resisting suffering often makes it stronger. The emotions we try to suppress never truly disappear; they linger beneath the surface, waiting. Instead of facing them directly, we carry their weight quietly.
What if, instead, we simply notice these feelings? Not label them as good or bad, but acknowledge them as part of the human experience. By observing without judgment, we might uncover valuable clues about who we are, what matters to us, and how we can move forward.
Acceptance, rather than resistance, seems to offer a pathway through. It is easy to distract ourselves, sometimes in destructive ways, other times through healthier outlets. But even the healthiest distractions can be avoidance in disguise. True growth often begins when we face what’s uncomfortable and allow it to transform us.
Life will always hold its share of challenges and difficulties. And still; I believe a mindset focused on acceptance, compassion, and problem solving can ease our suffering. Everything is temporary, and the simple act of facing our reality often reduces its power over us. Accepting what we cannot change, focusing our energy on what we can, and trusting ourselves and how we can impact our experience in life.
Every feeling has a place, whether we find it 'positive or negative'. The pursuit of perfection, I have learned, can be a toxic trait. It creates suffering by seeking out the impossible. Embracing the highs of life, when things are on track and showing kindness to ourselves and others during the lows creates a deep sense of peace - that can impact all areas of your life.
When we stand by our truth, honor what is right for us, and act with integrity, a STRONG confidence follows. This trust in ourselves moves into every aspect of your life, leading to an important peace of mind.
How can we start?
Pause and Observe – When difficult emotions arise, take a breath. Notice the feeling without rushing to change it.
Name the Emotion – Put a label on the feeling: “This is sadness,” or “This is frustration.” Naming creates space between you and the feeling.
Ask What Is It Teaching You – Reflect on why the emotion surfaced. Is it pointing to something unresolved or important, a value or boundary being crossed?
Choose Your Response – Instead of reacting impulsively, consider what response aligns with your true self.
Let Go of Judgment – Remind yourself that all feelings are part of being human. There is no “wrong” emotion.
Suffering may not always be a choice, but how we respond to it certainly is.
Do you agree?
