Feminine Alchemy

23/07/2024

All this week we have our Summer Sale until Friday 26th!

Now is the time to treat yo’ self!

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23/07/2024

26/02/2024

Q. What makes you feel safe and connected enough to open up to me?

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This is one of the 20 questions in my F.REE S:x & Intimacy guide.

This question is rooted in Polyvagal Theory and the feeling of being safe and connected enough to open up to another - what I call safe s:x!

This question might explore what nourishes your nervous system e.g doing a regular Qigong class or doing a meditation before lo******ng, having a tidy bedroom.

It might open a conversation about how your partner can offer safety through their touch, their words, a look, a smile, a gesture.

Grab the guide through the link in bio and let me know how you get on!

With heart,

Máire 🫀

13/08/2023

More about my studies and qualifications, last in the series.

I haven’t shared much about this one before - I’ve a Postgraduate diploma in Bereavement & Loss Studies.

It’s something I weave into my work on a daily basis.

Loss is everywhere.

The one guarantee in life is that we will experience bereavement and loss. And yet we’re not prepared for it or worse still we avoid it when it comes.

There’s so much unacknowledged grief around us - miscarriage, loss of a beloved pet, loss of s:xual intimacy with a partner, the shattering shock of a relationship breaking down, grief around fertility and the lonely journey many women face.

I learned to lean into those conversations, the chats that other people are too embarrassed or feel ill equipped to have.

To put loss and grief in the circle - not to scoot around it but to meet it, feel it and release it.

I’ve worked with this profesionally and of course like everyone I’ve had my own scarring experiences of grief and loss.

The scars can be healed. We grow around grief. We create meaning from our experiences of loss, evolving in heart and soul in the process.

To deal with grief you need to be aware of your body, to find where it lives and to know where you feel resourced enough in your body too.

As part of my own personal journey I spent 2.5 years in a somatic processing group, learning the fundamentals of living a somatic or embodied life- discovering the essence of our cellular lives.

It’s one beautiful home in there when you take the time and have the courage to go onwards.

I’m looking forward to sharing more in a 1:1 coaching/ mentoring programme - holding a deep, intentional space from September - November. 5 places available.

You can set up a connection call through the link in bio. Happy to chat and get to know you and hear what it is you’re looking to focus on.

With heart,

Máire

P.S. If you’ve read all 4 of these posts, thanks for taking the time to read and I hope in some way we connect

11/08/2023

Continuing my story… My postgraduate training brought me to Polyvagal Theory ~ the science of safety and trust, and how that relates to trauma.

I studied with Dr Stephen Porges who developed this theory - known as one of the greatest developments in neuroscience in the last 50 years. I also studied with Deb Dana, a leading clinician in the field.

Understanding the different ways your nervous system responds is so freeing.

Having a frame of reference, or being able to say “oh that’s what’s going on” allows you to take a sigh of relief as you understand why you behave the way you do.

It takes away shame or guilt and you understand that your body is doing it’s thing based on the information it has coded from the past into the present.

What you sometimes need to do is help your body and brain to upgrade the software. By running a new programme, you stop perceiving threats in safe situations. When this programme is somatic based the odds are stacked in succeeding. You can’t talk yourself out of feeling unsafe, but you can climb the Polyvagal ladder and move through different states of being.

Having a map of your nervous system helps, as does using Taoist practice to tone your vagus nerve so that you’re operating as much as possible from a place of feeling safe and connected.

Many women disassociate when having s:x which shows up as going through the motions, feeling numb, going silent or into shutdown. This a primitive or limbic response - what’s known as dorsal vagal.

Together we can figure out what’s at the root of that and some strategies to have a more embodied and meaningful experience.

One of my clients who’d experienced s:xual trauma said to me from our first connection call she felt safe within minutes “I don’t know how you do it, you just create a feeling of safety”.

I’ve been through my own lived experiences of s:xual trauma and I feel passionate about helping women heal from this.

There is hope, so much hope. Embodied intimacy is possible.

I’m taking on 5 new 1:1 clients in September. If you’re interested let’s have a chat - set up a connection call through the link in bio.

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10/08/2023

Sharing a little more of my story, my path: My background is rooted in health science. I’ve a degree in Occupational Therapy from Trinity College and I’ve been studying the mind body connection for over 20 years.

I worked in mental health for a number of years both in Ireland and New Zealand. From being on a su***de crisis team to facilitating therapeutic group programmes in the community… I’ve always appreciated that we never know what people are going through and life can be a struggle.

I veered into paediatrics with my OT skills after that. And dived deep into the nervous system, sensory processing and the science of learning.

For many years I had my own clinic and private practice, working with young kids, teenagers and parents, which I just closed in 2020, focusing on Tao full time.

How our sensory system works is such useful information in terms of managing emotions and concentration and our ability to take in information.

In my 1:1 coaching sessions I share with you how to combine sensory strategies with the Tao practice.

Take for example meditation - it’s not easy for everyone, in fact in the age of distraction, meditation is our Everest. 🏔

There are ways to prime your body and nervous system to be able to sit in meditation. And there are ways to meditate without sitting!

I’ve had many people say to me “I didn’t think I could meditate until I learned with you”.

09/08/2023

Post 1/4 ☯️ Taoism found me. Through a series of books, dreams and serendipitous encounters.

When I did the practice for the first time, I had the warm feeling of coming home. Not only that but within a few short weeks I noticed significant changes within myself.

I was drawn to it’s wisdom on s:xual energy which was a gaping hole of knowledge in my education. Society had failed me badly on that one.

Tao opened a new framework on what it is to be empowered as a s:xual woman, of how to harness this life giving essence to be stronger physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I felt it with every beat of my heart 🫀 that more women should have this knowledge. That was 15 years ago and I’ve been deep in the practice of Taoism and s:xual alchemy since.

I trained with the world famous Taoist Grandmaster, Mantak Chia and certified as a Universal Tao Instructor with him. He’s often attributed as bringing the Tao to the West, in particular the s:xual energy secrets.

Having a direct lineage has been really important for me. The essence and purity of the practice is amplified, and not diluted like so many modalities sadly are. Or worse cherry picked 🍒 out of context, leaving a feeling of fractured learning.

Having a direct link to Source, the Great Way, the Cosmos, the Universe - whatever words sits with your soul is a gift. Your gift. I love softening into intuition and wisdom, and creating space for another to feel into that too. We all have this access.

The first step is your connection to yourself, to your body, the physiology and energetics of your organs, sensing your nervous system and the subtle Qi that flows within.

I’m taking on 5 new coaching clients in September. Would love to chat if you’re interested.

Just set up a connection call with the link in bio and we’ll take it from there.

08/08/2023

Ask for what you need, unapologetically.

Nobody knows or cares as much about your body as you do.

Pop over to the bio to read the full blog. Link in bio

08/08/2023

Ask for what you need, unapologetically.

Nobody knows or cares as much about your body as you do.

Go to the link in bio to read the full blog.

27/07/2023

Over the years traveling, when I said I was Irish, the amount of people who simply replied back to me “Sinéad O’ Connor” made me smile.

I loved that. And felt so proud of her and the impact she made internationally - even now seeing all the global news reports posting about her, it’s heart-warming to know how far-reaching this woman’s truth was.

She was a prophet of her time, an activist, a warrior of the heart, a tender soul but most of all she was a true artist, making art.

Not the washed down kind of art we see now, where record companies call the shots. When asked if she ruined her career by ripping up a photo of the pope on live TV- she said it ruined the careers of the guys in the record company who wanted to buy a house in the Caribbean. It forced her to play more live gigs and that was the fuel of her soul.

Sinéad, more recently known as Shuhada’ Sadaquat was completely mesmerising.

I remember as a kid listening to her singing - she carved a path to the emotions of my heart with her otherworldly voice, that came from deep inside her gut, from the knowings of the wild woman, from the core of the earth.

It was her potent energy, her unshakability from speaking the truth, of making a social impact, championing weaker voices, seeing through the bullsh*t and having the bravery to speak out loudly that made her so loved by everyone.

Her honesty and rawness was piercing.

If you listened to her music, your soul moved by at least an inch or more.

Your heart and fist pumped simultaneously.

And you knew that others were somehow feeling the same as you.

She is a master of being your unstoppable self.

“They tried to bury me, they didn’t realise I was a seed”.

Sinéad/ Shuhada’ , we will always be inspired and moved by your timeless art and your seeds.

Rest in peacefulness, rest in power 🕊✨

20/07/2023

On a recent EU programme I was part of that supports women’s businesses making a social impact, I found out that only 3 out of 380 women in it identified their project as addressing gender equality.

I was one of that 3!

The programme organisers were surprised that so few women are working on this.

Given that gender inequality shows up in almost every sphere of life - from pay, healthcare, education, career opportunities, parenting, reproductive health, abortion, politics, sports coverage, finance & investment, and s:xual wellness - why is this not seen as important?

When I filled out the form, I immediately thought of the orgåsm gap and how I’m working to change that.

Heteros*xual women have the least amount of orgåsms. A shocking 30% less than heteros*xual men.

Here’s the stats:

When questioned if you ‘almost always’ or**sm during s*x - the following demographics said ‘Yes’:

📈 95% of heteros*xual men
📈 89% of gay men
📈 88% of bis*xual men
📈 86% of le***an women
📈 66% of bis*xual women
📈 65% of heteros*xual women

So it’s time not just to mind the gap but actually close the gap!

I help women connect with their bodies, release stress and have more vitality - all of which helps the greater ecosystem of orgåsmic pleasure.

Follow for more insights.

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19/07/2023

Summer Sale time! There’s 15% off all our books.🍦

July rain, what ya gonna do? Read 📚 Check out our Mantak Chia Qigong books:

✨ Iron Shirt Qigong
✨ Inner Alchemy Astrology
✨ Wisdom Qigong
✨ Tendon Nei Kung
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Enjoy!