Have a Word with Yourself

30/12/2025

Life IS what you think...so what do you think!?

According to many sources we typically experience anything from 6000 to 70,000 thoughts per day and of those, 90% of them are repetitive with 80% of them being negative! Yikes

This would suggest that our subconscious minds are at any time 80% full of negative experiences, memories and data which only leaves a measly 20% for the good stuff. Could this be why we're far more likely to replay the insults we receive rather than the compliments or why when feeling joy we limit the experience by ruining it with a negative thought....are we hardwired this way or is it a result of what we've loaded into our subconscious minds from our experiences we've had? whatever the answer, we need to flip these stats!

When we're feeling consumed by our thoughts we tend to start identifying with them rather than just experiencing them as ´just thoughts´ and this is what causes a lot of unnecessary disharmony within. If we could accept that our thoughts are created from our subconscious previous memories, experiences and beliefs we should also be able to accept that they're recycled old news repackaged and therefore probably not relevant to the current situation.

A bad experience with a dog in childhood can cause a persistent fear throughout life when the subconscious memory remains active with the past memory attached to fear and the belief that dogs are dangerous. Without that previous memory, a dog would be perceived as neutral and the fear would not arise. So how can we neutralise the fear that's attached to a memory? - the short answer is, clean up the subconscious memory retaining it.

Cleaning can be done consciously and subconsciously with thought awareness, intention and frequency therapy. The mind is a boggler but the clearer it is, the happier and more confident you'll feel to deal with all that life throws at you. Like seeing through a clean window screen after years of driving around with it covered in mud. A clear view of the road ahead = less road kill.

Our outer world is constantly reflecting back to us our subconscious data via our thoughts, emotions and the situations that arise so we become aware of the things within us that need acknowledging. Our biggest triggers give us the best insights to the things that our subconscious mind is trying to help us to heal and when we don't resist it, we have an opportunity to release and heal it. For all those that choose to do this work, Im here to help and look forward to assisting you with the clean up job!

I wish you all optimal health and happiness, peace of mind and awareness of your thoughts for a cleaner mindset in the new year.

Here we come 2026!
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23/12/2025

16/12/2025

Here we are at the end of 2025 with all the usual activities and preparations keeping us busy as we reflect on the year - the ups and downs, the wins and the loses. As we say goodbye and close the door to what's passed, we start thinking about which doors we wish to walk through in the new year.

I'd like to thank all of you that have been a part of my year in all the various ways and roles that you’ve played both personally and professionally. My Christmas wish is that you all find the happiness, love and peace that you seek and experience it from within.

The teachings of Mornnah Simeona and the ancient Hawaiian prayer of Ho´ponopono feels particularly relevant to what I've been working to achieve with Have a Word With Yourself. The awareness and cleaning of our subconscious data that creates our thoughts, habits and beliefs. Releasing and healing all that does not serve, to experience a clear and clean state of being and a peaceful reconciliation with ourselves.

The Peace Of “I”

Peace be with you,
All My Peace,
The Peace that is “I”, the Peace that is “I am”.
The Peace for always, now and forever and evermore.
My Peace “I” give to you,
My Peace “I” leave with you,
Not the world’s Peace, but, only My Peace,
The Peace of “I”.
- Mornnah Simeona.

I leave you with this powerful and beautiful mantra for accountability, self forgiveness, gratitude and release.

I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you

Happy holidays to you all, with love and gratitude for everything that you've given back to me this year. 🙏

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04/12/2025

Why is our unconscious the key to finding our path to happiness?

¨Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate¨ - Carl Jung.

Now brace, for some not-so festive questions...

What do you hide from yourself and from others? What makes you feel so ashamed that you pretend it doesn’t exist within you? What are you afraid to say aloud or admit to yourself and to others for fear of judgement? What are your hidden motives and intentions behind your behaviours? Do these questions make you feel inquisitive to do some self enquiry or have you already clicked away? 😅

Our subconscious is the store house of all data that we’ve accumulated since we first opened our eyes. The reason we store everything we’ve experienced is so that our brain can sift through the data to create patterns and frameworks that help us to make sense of the world around us. We learn what works and what doesn’t by remembering what’s previously worked and what didn’t. We decide through the emotions and feelings that we associate with the data, if we liked it or not and if it felt safe and trustworthy or not and so on.

We create our judgements of the world and others based on what we’ve experienced and felt in our own unique way. This creates our own personal perspective, values and framework for everything that we do.

When we know this, we become aware that all of our thoughts, judgements, preferences, motivations and actions are determined unconsciously and this helps us to understand and accept what we feel, think and behave more easily. It also helps us to realise that our experience of life is in our own hands and with acceptance, we can heal ourselves at the most profound level. By looking at our subconscious data we're making our unconscious, conscious and bringing to light all that influences our outer perception of the world around us.

When we look beyond ourselves as victims of our circumstances and put a spot light on our hidden vulnerabilities and wounds, it helps us to be less judgemental of what occurred and more accepting of why we experienced it. Our subconscious holds all the answers needed for us to heal from the inside out. The challenges and experiences that we face are the opportunities to put into practice what we’ve illuminated and learned from to create new patterns of thought, emotions and behaviours. But, if our fears or ego prevent us from facing our unconscious truths, we passively allow life to live us, through our unconscious reactions rather than, us living life through our conscious choices.

It’s like looking inside a kaleidoscope seeing the patterns within patterns that keep forming different shapes from themselves. If we don’t heal what is in our subconscious data creating our unconscious behaviours, we keep experiencing patterns of the same thing but in different forms.

When we recognise this and start to look at our own patterns of behaviour, we can start to see what we need to address to make changes to our data for better outcomes. We can consciously start to change the patterns that didn’t serve us and work towards creating new patterns that do.

We go from being the victim of fate to the conscious creators of our realities. This act of self love is what changes our future for the better and the future of all those that we are connected to.

If you’re ready to uncover a deeper level of self awareness through making your unconscious, conscious and would like to know how I use frequency based treatments to support the process, please get in touch here and I´ll be happy to explain how it works.
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25/11/2025

Raising our vibration with frequency - what does this actually mean? 🫨➡️🤗

We are vibratory beings and our vibration and energy is created from our physical, emotional, mental states and our conscious awareness. Our vibration fluctuates but it also has a general baseline which is what you class as your 'normal' state. I've seen many click-bait claims online that state that listening to certain frequencies will instantly change your vibration to a higher state or enter a new dimension and whilst I know how powerful frequencies can be, this is not quite how it works.

The most well known frequencies are the Solfeggio frequencies which are associated with each of the energy centres (chakras) in our body. Each of these energy centres governs different aspects of our physical, mental, emotional well being. When we listen to these frequencies as a regular practice, our bodies respond through entrainment to the vibrations and start to regulate and activate. This activation brings about physical, emotional and mental reflections to come to the surface of our conscious mind and it's what we do from here, that really decides if it's going to raise our vibration or not.

When I first started creating my own frequency tracks in 2022 it was with the intention to help regulate my nervous system and allow my body to relax and recover from years of deeply buried stress and anxiety. I was bloated, lethargic, irritable and mentally worn out. I noticed very quickly that listening to certain frequencies helped my mind to focus and my body to relax and this was the impetus for me to start experimenting with different combinations of frequencies and binaural beats. Within days I was sleeping better which helped me to think more clearly and have more energy during the day to start taking exercise again. Daily exercise is really important for increasing your vibration by physically moving your stored energy and waking up your metabolism with the added bonus of an endorphin release.

Within a few weeks of listening to the frequencies I was experiencing noticeable changes within me - I was sleeping better, thinking more clearly, hearing my intuition, exercising, toning up and feeling motivated. The ongoing intention to return to a happier, healthier version of myself along with the new found motivation, helped me to process thoughts and make decisions by facing truths that I'd avoided for a long time.

Feeling physically, mentally and emotionally stronger was the result of having made healthier daily life choices that raised my vibration. These self honouring choices were the launchpad that propelled me into living a happier, healthier and higher vibrational way.

Healing frequencies are great catalysts to open and activate our energy centres but, it's what you do with what arises from within you that counts and how you use it to improve different aspects of your life that ultimately raises your vibration.

If you'd like to learn more about the many different frequencies that can play an influential role in improving your health and well-being, please feel free to get in touch the usual way and I'll be happy to share what I know.

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17/11/2025

How we perceive the world is how we receive the world

'Perception' is an ongoing fascination of mine so when it came up in a recent ACIM lesson, I was glad of the opportunity to revisit it and apply it to my circumstances. The idea that everything we see outside of us is a projection of ourselves can be a tough cookie to chew on especially if we don't like what we see around us.

The idea that by changing our perception of the world, creates a new reality, can be difficult for us to grasp because it makes us wholly responsible for our lives and the things that we experience. We might argue that we didn't want X,Y or Z to happen so why did it? whether we wanted it or not, if we believed / perceived that it would be, we created it into being....for better or worse.

Having recognised some of my own reoccurring trust issues recently, I decided to put it to the test and see how I could consciously alter my perceptions to improve it. Like anyone that's felt let down in one way or another in the past, even with a positive and optimistic mindset, trust can take time to recover. To trust, is to be open to the the potential of being let down again which, if you're still raw from previous hurt, the safer option for your nervous system is to climb back inside your shell! Knowing this about myself and having worked through similar trust issues with others gave me the motivation for a do-over.

Instead of perceiving people or situations through the eyes of potential distrust based on past events, I consciously decided to see people as being well-intentioned and helpful in the same ways that I try to be with others. Whenever I found myself replaying old memories, I would remind myself that that was from my previous perception of 'X,Y or Z' that had already played out and these thoughts were no longer valid unless I wanted to recreate what had already been.

The effect this had on me during my week was remarkable 😲

To say that my week was without challenges would be a lie, but to say that my perception of these challenges was peaceful and easily handled is the truth! The challenges I experienced were resolved by my trusting in people to be well-intentioned and wanting to help, and they were. By expecting and projecting the best from people and situations, my new perception reflected the same back to me. I've always been a firm believer in what you give out comes back to you and from having tried and tested this in my own daily life, it was a nice confirmation.

The consequence of my change in perception of others, changed how I was perceiving the events playing out around me which helped me to see how my previous perceptions had created the unfavourable situations and reactions in people - a bitter pill yes but, one with a sweet aftertaste as I no longer felt that it was anyone else's doing other than my own and this gave me a much more peaceful and empowered state of being and a clearer perspective to see people and situations in a new light.

How we perceive it, is how we receive it but don't take my word for it, try doing it for yourself and see what you experience as a result. If you'd like to know more about mindset shifting methods and simple ways to implement them into your lifestyle, please get in touch at wordwithyourself@gmail.com
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08/11/2025

The sacred pause

A pivotal moment that helps you after something or someone has triggered an emotional response within you. It's the difference between you reacting in an automatic sensory-led unconscious way or responding with controlled conscious awareness of your words.

Most people don't realise that they have the power to decide in this moment how they'll behave when they're only focusing on the physical sensory input that they're experiencing in their body. The sacred pause exists to give you the opportunity to become instantly aware of your choices and free will in any given moment.

To react or to respond - that is the question.

When we react without awareness it's usually a defensive reaction as a result of the sympathetic nervous system being triggered. In sensing threat, the body goes into fight or flight mode heightening the intensity of the sensory input which often leads to reactive responses. Having a balanced and regulated nervous system is really beneficial for all aspects of health and especially useful in situations where the sacred pause is called for. The easiest way to quickly calm your sympathetic nervous system is by taking a deep breath and then inhaling an extra bit before releasing your breathe slowly.

How does the sacred pause help to navigate life's challenges?

As mentioned already, the sacred pause prepares us for how we are going to respond to any given situation by flicking on the self awareness switch. From here you can decide if you're going to give your energy to a situation or not. Ask yourself, Is it worth it? Is it something that's going to allow me to express myself authentically and represent me truthfully or is it going to draw me into an emotionally reactive state that makes me feel dreadful / regretful later? Is my response coming from my ego or is it coming from my heart? What is my intention in reacting or responding this way?

When we pause before we speak we give ourselves the opportunity to check the intentions and motivations of our words, something that can change the entire outcome of a situation for better or worse. It's a tool that gives us back the power to remain true to ourselves and respond with awareness - a sacred virtue indeed!

If you'd like to explore more on this theme or would like to know how to regulate and balance your sympathetic nervous system using frequencies and binaural beats alongside breathing techniques, feel free to get in touch at wordwithyourself@gmail.com

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26/10/2025

'Forgiveness' I feel, is something I chose in my life's plan to experience for my highest good. At 40 something I finally understand the depths of what it truly means to forgive and how to get there. I thought I'd figured out forgiveness when I'd initially moved beyond the hurt of a situation, to the understanding of it. Making logical sense of things helped me to look at it objectively and feel acceptance and even compassion but, when even the tiniest scrap of dirt (bitterness, anger, resentment) remains, it festers and infects the healthy parts nearby which later erupt as fresh pain when pressed. After being indirectly triggered recently, I decided to go back and clear out a wound with iodine and yes it stung like f@&! but now it's clear, it's closed and finally healing.

In making a conscious decision to choose peace by fully healing something, everything else worked itself out effortlessly. They say that when the student is ready, the teacher appears and this was absolutely true for me being at the right place at the right time with the teacher sharing their insight. Ripping off the plaster was a lot easier to do with the kindness and support that followed.

So here's what I learnt..

We all create our own ideas of morality and what we consider to be right and wrong, in order to define ourselves as people. When this is challenged by someone else's differing perspective, we often judge them as being wrong. Our definitions of what we think is right and wrong change as we do and vary greatly in different cultures, gender and locations. In some countries it's illegal to drink alcohol and in others it's not. This doesn't make one country right and the other one wrong, it just reflects each country's own code of conduct defining what works for their culture.

When truly forgiving someone it's necessary to accept that their perspective of the situation was true and correct in their eyes, they didn't see it as wrong based on their definition of what's right and wrong and their moral code. The role they played is one that prompts us to make a choice - do you want to be right (in your perspective) and remain angry, hurt and victimised? or do you choose peace and freedom and dissolve all hurt by seeing the bigger picture? If we want to live in a state of peace and happiness we have to consciously choose to be those things and recognise that being 'right' at the cost of your peace, is just not worth it.

Sometimes we have to forgive and let go without having received an apology and this is yet again making a conscious choice to choose your peace and closure over living with ongoing resentment.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
Matthew 7:12

Those that truly want to live peacefully and happily in this world know that we must learn to treat others as the extensions of ourselves however different our perceptions are. We've all experienced being hurt by others and we're all guilty of hurting others intentionally or not. Does this not show us how we're all experiencing the same challenges in different forms? how forgiving others helps us to forgive our own wrong doings? and how learning to forgive and let go is the golden ticket to living a happier life?

We've all experienced pain and suffering in different ways and we all have free-will to decide what we do with it. Personally, I choose to live in peace because it feels so much better than living with resentment and sadness and stops me from projecting hurt on to others. We don't need to keep painful things active in our thoughts or feelings when we consciously choose to better ourselves for the benefit of our present reality.

In choosing to experience Forgiveness, I'm grateful to those that have given me the opportunity to fully learn to embody it through my life's experiences.

If you'd like to know more or have any questions or comments, feel free to email me at wordwithyourself@gmail.com

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14/10/2025

Imagine if life was just a sort of game - a game to see how much you would remember about your true core self whilst picking up layer upon layer of story and identities along the way. Imagine if all the worldly noise and distractions were just obstacles to coerce us into focusing our energy onto external things that distract us from being able to connect to our inner-world for clarity and truth. But, what if we knew this and started to reject the distractions that were keeping us from our inner peace and we learned to protect our energy with discernment and conscious awareness of who we really are...what's the worst that could happen?

Maybe we'd experience life through a more peaceful lens, one that's not provoked into hatred or coerced into temptation or controlled by fear and social conditioning. Maybe this individual shift would bring about a new kind of world, a world that doesn't feed and profit from fear, separation, manipulation, lack and greed but one that's reflective of peace, equality, unity, connection and respect. A world where pulling in the same direction as a united force would result in experiencing clarity and peace on an individual and collective level. Peace that comes from knowing that there's more than enough for all of us to share and enjoy without the need for fear and separation that stem from lack and greed.

Being open-minded to be able to envision a world of unity rather than separation is a challenge for those so deeply entrenched and invested in the physical external life experience. Asking them to perceive something so different to their current experience of reality is not easy but it's not impossible either. Some however, won't want to go there because they'd have to face the reality of there being another way to be and live. They'd prefer to ride and die on their current reality because it's a comfortable and familiar path that their thoughts and actions are well practiced in telling themselves and others. This is the same for any perception or identity that you may have about yourself. The more that you think, feel and talk about it, the more it becomes reaffirmed in your subconscious mind. To change and rewrite a well versed perception or identity, requires you to re-think, re-feel and talk differently about yourself so that your subconscious mind has new fresh data to feed from that supports this change within you. When your thoughts align with your words and your actions align with your emotions, powerful changes to your perception and reality take place.

We all have the capacity to change and improve our lives and live more peacefully and harmoniously. It takes just person at a time, one family, one community and eventually one world.

If you're interested to experience a more peaceful and harmonious reality by regaining balance with your inner and outer world, I'm running a new 7-day rebalance and reconnect course that intends to do just that. To learn more email me at wordwithyourself@gmail.com and I'll be happy to share more information with you.
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30/09/2025

Detachment - a word that used to spark negative feelings within me, feelings of loss and abandonment but now it does the opposite. Instead of seeing detachment only in it's negative form, I made peace with it in all forms and learned to trust it's important role in my life. Looking back on the times when I resisted detachment, I can see how that resistance caused me to become trapped in a stagnant loop, I wasn't ready to let go of things, situations and people that were negatively affecting me and the familiarity of keeping these things around was the breadcrumb of hope that I used to convince myself that it was the right thing to do. As with any life lesson we're here to learn, it keeps on playing out in various ways with various individuals and situations until something happens that you can't ignore any longer. The wake up call arrives.

My wake up call may have appeared sudden on the outside, but it was really the accumulation of all that had been playing out previously that I'd chosen to ignore, deny and keep repeating over the years. As with all things we discover about ourselves, it starts with the awareness of ourselves. We become aware of our circumstances, our feelings and emotions and start to take action towards understanding them better. Through our feelings we gain understanding and acceptance of whatever's occurring and through acceptance, we find peace with it.

To detach from situations, people and things that are not positively impacting our lives or supporting our growth is a form of self love and self honouring boundaries. It's not a selfish or unkind act, it's self preservation and protection and we all have the right to do it to maintain our own peace and well-being.

Being an ex pat of 15 years in Valencia, I've become accustomed to seeing many people come and go and have made peace with the transiency of friendships and connections. It doesn't make me value these connections any less or hold me back from enjoying the experiences at the time but instead it helps me to recognise the ebs and flows of connections with others. I trust and have faith that the right people come in to my life and leave my life as and when they are supposed to. We all impact each other in many ways and we all bring different nuggets of wisdom and care to each other during different chapters of our lives. When we're not resisting letting go of things, we're allowing ourselves to be open to the new experiences and connections that are waiting to unfold.

Detachment is often hindered by fear and when we're being overly influenced by fear, it's very hard to detach from the things that we perceive as necessary to our survival, even if they're not. Fear debilitates our sense of personal power and motivation to act, it's what keeps us in the loop of non-action. To detach from fear means being able to identify what's causing the fear to arise within you. How can you perceive that fear to be less threatening? and how can you accept and make peace with it so that it doesn't hinder your forward movement?

I use frequencies to stimulate and balance the energetic centres of the body that help to release fears and allow for detachment to the things that are creating blocks, delays and stagnancy. If you'd like to know more or have any questions about the sound treatments that I provide, please get in touch via email at wordwithyourself@gmail.com