18/12/2023
Hi everyone, I’m Jessica & I’m an Emotional Intelligence & Relationship Coach 🩵 The part I HAVEN’T shared with you, though, is that I’m what I playfully label a “recovering codependent“ or a “recovering hopeless romantic”.
I’ve been a “fixer” my whole life. So I easily fell into the Princess Fairytale of (a) wanting a partner to “save me”, and (b) finding partners that I needed to “fix” in order to get them to “love me”. I was convinced I could be the woman that “changed” them for the better.
See, my abandonment issues have run DEEP. And when I was in my Disordered Attachment Style, I’d do anything to self-protect and meet my ego’s needs, so I ended up attracting partners that did exactly the same. We complimented each other perfectly, each fueling the other’s Adaptive Child and negative relational patterns. And the more I tried to “fix” myself and the other, the deeper of a hole I dug myself into. It was a vicious cycle.
So the reason I coach is because I genuinely KNOW, at an energetic and cellular level, how horrible it feels to be “stuck” in self-destructive patterns. I’ve had moments where I didn’t want to exist anymore because LIFE felt like the more painful option when compared to not existing at all.
If you’ve ever experienced ANYTHING similar, please know that you’re NOT alone. Suffering is an embedded part of the human experience, but a friend once taught me that in quantum physics, our suffering is NEVER an isolated variable. Due to the interconnectivity of the Universe, everyone’s suffering is universal and connected. Therefore, our suffering and joy are ALL connected. This is why it is LITERALLY pointless to hurt someone else - in doing that, you’re hurting YOURSELF, according to quantum physics.
In helping others heal through my coaching and workshops, I heal wounded parts of myself, as well. In healing with someone else, I heal through them, too.
Thank you to everyone who has been with me on this journey. I love and appreciate you. Thank you for supporting me and my healing, and thank you for letting me heal you, too 🩵🙏🏼✨
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