02/12/2025
If we are honest with ourselves, most of us can’t rest not because we don’t have time. But because there is a very old voice inside that says:
“You can’t be lazy.”
“Someone just has to do it.”
“You have to pull yourself together.”
“But you have children (your parents, your pet, your business, etc.), you have to take care of them.”
“You can’t rest, we’ll rest in the grave”
I heard the latter from my grandmother, for example, who was proud of the fact that she never rested.
These sentences were built into us when we were children, and the adults around us worked this way. They also kept going because they had to. They weren’t allowed to stop either. They weren’t taught, so they didn’t teach us either.
And our bodies learned that resting is dangerous.
Slowness is suspicious.
Slowed pace = trouble, illness
Doing nothing = worthlessness, which only the very young or very old can afford.
And that's why it happens that as adults, when our nervous system would shout "slow down!", we rather add another level. We try to perform better, be tidier, organize smarter, do things faster... because somewhere inside there is still a child trying to comply. (I'll write about this compliance later)
But no matter how much we try to override a biological process - the body always wins in the end.
Always.
It's just that we listen to it in time... or it forces us to rest.
Real change begins when you first hear the voice of your own body.
Not your head, not your expectations, but your body.
How do we hear our body's signal?
By occasionally stopping for a moment and asking ourselves:
“How am I now? If I were alone on a deserted island, where I have everything, what would I do now? What would I need now?”
And we pay attention to that first, quiet, subtle answer that we usually suppress out of reflex because “I don’t have time for it”, “it’s not that important, I can handle it”.
But THAT answer is the point.
That body.
And if you give it 5-10 minutes a day, it will thank you.
You don’t have to light a candle, meditate, or do exercises. (only if you feel like it)
Just enough:
– a walk in nature (or even in the apartment or garden)
– a few minutes of soft music
– a mug of warm tea or coffee in your hand
– a warm bath
– something delicious
– something beautiful
– a minute of deep breathing
It’s not that big of a deal that you do these things. It’s that you ALLOW yourself to. In fact, you call it necessary and practice it like brushing your teeth in the morning.
From these experiences, the nervous system rebuilds itself, because you teach it that slowing down is safe.
Tapping (EFT) phrases – for nervous system overload and releasing childhood patterns:
The key phrases are soft, gently allowing, not violent. Say them slowly, with an exhalation, or however you feel like it. If you don’t know the EFT points, it’s enough to tap the sternum in the middle of the chest with your fingertips.
1. Up until now, I have pushed my own needs into the background in order to meet expectations.
2. Up until now, I have not given myself time, even when my body asked me to slow down. 3. Up until now, I have taken on other people’s responsibilities to my own detriment.
5. Up until now, I have taken on other people’s tension, just to have peace.
6. I have been silent so far to avoid conflict.
7. My body is my friend, now I pay attention to its subtle signals.
8. Now I choose the pace.
9. Now I am able to say no and preserve my strength.
10. Now I allow myself to rest and look inward.
+1. Slowing down is safe, my nervous system is now healing and recharging.
A few minutes a day is enough when you are not thinking about what else you still have to do.
When you are just with yourself. At peace.
❤️
Csete Krisztina
You can find the first part here:
http://supraniti.uk/2025/12/01/amikor-az-idegrendzer-tultelitodik-1-resz/
