10/11/2025
For those who fear love and commitment
“You call yourself a free spirit, a ‘wild thing’, and you're terrified somebody's gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you're already in that cage. You built it yourself.”
This is a quote from ‘Breakfast at Tiffany’s’, and yet, true for many of us. It encompasses some common human characteristics or defence mechanisms, such as avoidance of commitment, playing with people’s feelings, unavailability. All this shows on the surface while the excruciating pain of loneliness lies underneath.
It’s a natural fact that we all desire meaningful connections, however out of fear of being hurt we will often push those who love us away.
How does this defence mechanism work and how can we change it? Facing your own fears, probably one of the most challenging steps forward, may be the key to understanding what keeps the pattern alive. The answer can only be found by you.