02/06/2021
There is a concept that has been around for thousands of years that has the power to bring hope where hopelessness has taken hold. It was one espoused by Epictetus, the Stoic philosopher in his teachings recorded in The Enchiridion almost 2000 years ago when he said “Men are disturbed, not by things, but by the principles and notions which they form concerning things.”
Take two people facing an exam. Imagine they are virtually clones of each other - they have the same intellectual capacity, they have studied the same amount, have the same dreams riding on the outcome of the exam. One is thinking “I’ve done all I can for this exam, worked hard and now it’s time to show all I know.” The other is plagued by thoughts of “I should have studied more, the exam is bound to bring up the bits I missed, there’s no way I’m going to get the result I need.” Same situation, different thoughts and consequently different feelings. The exciting part of this is that, while we cannot necessarily control the external things, we can take control of the way we view them.
More recently Viktor Frankl echoed these ideas in ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ (1946) which describes his survival of four concentration camps during the Second World War and how he found hope in the darkest of times. He summed up the authority we have over our own lives in this famous quote: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” We don’t always get a say in what happens to us. What we do get to choose is how we respond.