Realignment

14/02/2025

“Happy Valentines Day”
whilst you celebrate with your beloved, your husband your wife, boyfriend or girlfriend and offer tokens of appreciation and love have you ever thought:
why do we only do this one day a year surely every day is special when were together ?
The truth for many is its not, we often get lost in the power struggle bickering like kindergarten kids over unimportant issues,
prioritise the kids, work, fitness, extended family over connection and joyful times together its no wonder we’re left feeling… is this it .
or maybe your pretty happy with how things are , though feel it would be even better if.
welcome to the reality of the unconscious relationship. Plagued by the powerstruggles, by poor communication , effected by avoidance and hidden resentments that neither of you dare to discuss its no wonder you are where you are.
In reality your relationship is not special in this regard, most relationships arrive here sooner or later
why? Because no body teaches us how to do things differently, we were not taught how to communicate safely with empathy and respect, or to actually listen and remain curious whilst parking our reactivity and maintaining connection.
We just keep going round and round using the same patterns that seem to create even more ruptures and disconnection until we learn to do things differently.
Make that day today as part of your valentine celebrations, why don’t you commit to transform your relationship into one that celebrates appreciation and love each and every day not just on February 14th?
Learn to get conscious in your relationship through communication techniques that work transforming your marriage into a conscious couplehood beyond your wildest dreams .
Join the many successful couples who have successfully learnt and applied the secrets of this
fundamental framework to build a successful relationship that is safe, trustful , nourishing, respectful ,caring , loving, sexually fulfilling, joyful and alive.
I look forward to hearing from you .
Matthew
Conscious couples therapy Bristol
www.consciouscouplestherapy.com

14/12/2023

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In addition to the one on one work i offer clients It's now my passion to share the knowledge and tools for successful relating through a unique therapeutic education programme for couples, “Conscious Couples Therapy”.

I have completed the Imago dialogue for Couples Clinical Training for Therapists and I am a certified Imago dialogue educator. I am passionate about creating healthy relationships based on love, respect and desire, creating safety and security for the next generation to flourish.

I support couples to resolve conflict, rebuild trust and heal past resentments through learning new ways of communication that work. I am committed to holding a safe equitable space of unconditional positive regard for all my clients irrespective of race, religion, gender or level of ability.
I look forward to seeing you over there too.
warmest
Matthew

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Conscious Couples Therapy is a transformational approach to couples therapy creating safe, respectful, joyful, passionate and alive relationships, using curiosity, dialogue, safe emotional expression, accountability and forgiveness.

09/02/2023

Q: Can a Leopard change its spots?

My experience personally and professionally is that most of the spots the leopard is carrying are adaptive coping/protective strategies to early childhood trauma. They are place holders, very useful in setting us free in assisting our journey home to wholeness.
Once we become aware of, acknowledge and understand our spots we can discover the core wounds that created them.
Once we are familiar with and make conscious the unconscious false beliefs that created them we can release or reframe them in a way that literally does change or dissolve our spots completely.

A: Yes If he/she desires to and takes the right course action consistently.

If you would like to change some of yours?

Get in touch.

04/02/2023

Are you predominantly self focused?
do you find it difficult to empathise with the needs of others particularly partners? do you often think of them as needy?
or
Are you always sacrificing your needs for others
do you end up resenting those around you particularly partners for giving to much of yourself away? do you often think of them as selfish?

Are you both in relationship with each other?
is it causing conflict and distress?
would you like to understand whats at the heart of your dynamic and learn techniques and tools to harmonise your difference in styles of connection creating healing and growth.

Get in touch.

03/02/2023

"its so much easier to protect the Trusting Open Loving heart of your beloved, than to repair it after its broken " - Matthew

30/01/2023

If your suffering from trauma, CPTSD or PTSD know your in good hands here, book a discovery call with Matthew today on 01179730606 and find out how he can support you.

"I have been working with Matthew now for around 5 months and he has been a great help in overcoming my trauma, and guiding me through the stages of healing. Matthew is really understanding and knowledgeable, I would recommend him to anyone who is feeling like they need a helping hand with talking through and processing life’s battles." - OT

29/01/2023

Happy Sunday !!

What are you doing with your " Life " today?

Today I'm in service co-facilitating the second day a couples weekend workshop teaching couples the act of conscious relating with dialogue by being present grounded focused and empathic.
May your day be blessed with love joy and peace x🙏x

"The adventure of life is to learn.
The purpose of life is to grow.
The nature of life is to change.
The challenge of life is to overcome.
The essence of life is to care.
The opportunity of life is to serve.
The secret of life is to dare.
The spice of life is to befriend.
The beauty of life is to give."
~ William Arthur Ward ~

28/01/2023

Managing Triggers in relationship
Following on from the post last week in my relationship mastery group about triggers in relationship being never about what its about and never about the other person. Here is an ancient piece of magic that can heal ruptures and de-escalate the seeds of conflict to avoid small resentments building into massive ones in an instant.
Ensure that both of you read this post ahead of time and are in agreement that you are both willing to give it a go next time either one of you triggers the other ie , does or says something or not does or not says something that the other feels aggrieved over.
As soon as you become aware that the energy between you is becoming strained, request to do the Hawiian prayer or poem (if the word prayer holds a trigger for you) Ho'oponopono.
Key here is that it matters not who is feeling aggrieved either party can instigate the healing process as soon as the rupture if felt.
Partner A: Are you available?
Partner B: Yes I'm available Now / No im still mad ill be available in an hour when I've calmed down
when you're both available given that you both agreed to the process well before the current rupture arose.
The partner who call for the prayer goes first .
stand or sit facing each other with eyes closed
take 3 deep breaths together
open your eyes with open expression and soft gaze
say the persons name and the following phases slowly and clearly with a full deep breath between each line to allow the energy of the words to be fully sent and received.
Name........
I'm sorry - deep breath
Please forgive me - deep breath
I love you - deep breath
Thank you .
Then swap roles and repeat.
Only caveat is must be sincere if your not able to be wait until you are. in some instances you can do it one way to the partner who is feeling aggrieved though not ready to send, this often opens them up to be able to, after they have received a sincere apology love and gratitude.
Go on use it today and post your results in the comments below.

22/01/2023

Happy Sunday !!
You have powers you have never dreamed of, You can do things you never thought you can do, There is no limitations to what you can achieve except the limitations of the mind.
Set yourself free today
x🙏x

21/01/2023

When ever we get triggered by our partner of close family member remember,
Its never about what its about and Its never about the other person despite how it appears and the emotions that arise.
When we get triggered by an event in the present moment by what the other says or does or not says or not does.
It often highlights areas in our psyche of growth attempting to happen the larger the trigger the greater potential.
With steady and diligent practice one may come to recognise all such events as opportunities for healing which can consistently contribute to a feeling of freedom, grace and wholeness.

If you and your partner would like to learn the transformational methodology I teach to rebuild trust and resolve conflict and resentments through good communication to return more intimacy and passion.
DM or call Matthew on 01179730606

20/01/2023

MIND - The Foundation
How do we begin to gain mastery over our life? how do we create more of what we want in our experience of reality and less of what we don't want?
"All is mind" the universe is Mental - The kybalion
"He who grasps the truth of the Mental Nature of the Universe is well advanced on The Path to Mastery."
THE ALL (which is the Substantial Reality underlying all the outward
manifestations and appearances which we know under the terms of "The Material Universe"; the "Phenomena of Life"; "Matter"; "Energy"; and, in short, all that is apparent to our material senses) is SPIRIT, which in itself is UNKNOWABLE and UNDEFINABLE, but which may be considered and thought of as A UNIVERSAL, INFINITE, LIVING MIND. - The Kybalion
Ok so ...
in a simplistic summary.
The whole of reality we experience as " life" is created by a collective consciousness of all there is ,
All humans sharing this collective experience contribute to a lesser or greater degree and our subconscious minds account for the vast majority of "programme script" writing due to the superior creative power the collective subconscious over our conscious mind.
So returning to the opening question "how do we begin to gain mastery over our life? ...."
Despite being a far more dominant force in creating our external reality our subconscious mind responds to the nature and input of our conscious minds thinking, attention and awareness.
Knowing this is the Key.
Acting on it is the Work.
Think of the subconscious mind as a solid state drive that runs simulation programs for you "the avatar" to experience.
Then think of your conscious mind as the "programmer"
(It is a little more complex than this though my intention is to keep this brief)
To gain a level of mastery over mind and subsequently your experience of the universal collective mind we call " life " , discipline of your thoughts, words and actions attributed to your conscious mind is required.
Pay attention to what arises, I dont know about you I have all sorts of nonsense popping in my mind from time to time, witness the madness and let them go for they too will pass.
None of the thoughts that arrive in your conscious mind are yours until you own them.
Discernment is king.
Only validate the thoughts that arrive that are helpful and positive to think, allow the others to pass without fixation or attachment.
Energy goes where attention flows, focus your attention on what you want and you can also convert or replace negative thoughts into positive ones that you can make habitual.
doubt the doubts, believe the beliefs
One such consciousness hack I use daily is affirmations.
Create positive affirmations that communicate in the present tense that which you wish to experience and say them out loud a number of times a day whilst feeling the emotions of what it feels like for the statement to be true and before long it will be so.
Ie . The power of universal mind leads me and guide me in all that I do. I am so grateful and happy that my family and I have perfect health, an abundance of wealth , and the wisdom and guidance to live a life of fulfillment and aliveness aligned with our highest purpose. My life overflows with harmony, beauty, love and peace and I know feel and experience my sub-conscious mind responding to my conscious minds thinking.
I came up with this one for this post Try writing one of your own today and share in the comment box below .
SHARE! ENCOURAGE! INSPIRE!

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