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12/12/2025

12/12/2025

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12/12/2025

You Can Feel More Than One Emotion at the Same Time

We talk about emotions like they’re single, neat, tidy things.
But they’re not.
Humans are complex.....and so are our feelings.

You can feel grateful and exhausted.
You can feel happy and sad.
You can feel relieved and heartbroken.
You can feel proud and uncertain.
You can feel love and anger.

You can hold contradictions, layers, and opposites…
and that doesn’t invalidate anything.

Two emotions can be true at the same time.
Your experience doesn’t need to fit into one box.

Mixed feelings don’t mean you’re confused.
They mean you’re human.

Give yourself permission to feel the whole spectrum
not just the parts that are tidy, convenient, or easy to explain.

Your emotions can coexist.
They can overlap.
They can contradict.
And they are all valid.

Every. Single. One.

12/12/2025

When Someone Won’t Hear Your Story....

It’s one of the most frustrating human experiences —
trying to share your truth with someone who’s already decided on theirs.

You speak from the heart.
You explain calmly.
You offer clarity, context, the parts they didn’t see.

But instead of listening, they hold tighter to their own perspective…
as if hearing yours would threaten their entire narrative.

And that hurts.

Because real connection requires two-way understanding,
not one person talking over the other
and calling it communication.

Here’s the truth:

✨ You can be honest, and they can still misunderstand you.
✨ You can be calm, and they can still get defensive.
✨ You can tell your story beautifully, and they can still refuse to hear it.

That doesn’t make your story less true.

Some people listen only to respond.
Some listen only through their wounds.
And some aren’t ready to see beyond the version of you they've created in their own mind.

But their inability to hear you
is not a reflection of your worth, your clarity, or your effort.

It simply means the conversation isn’t balanced
and you can’t force balance where someone won’t meet you.

You deserve to be heard.
You deserve dialogue, not dead ends.
And you deserve connections where your voice isn’t treated as an inconvenience.

If someone can’t hold space for your story,
it says more about their limitations than your truth.

12/12/2025

Last weekend we went to see James B Partridge (seriously go follow him!) And as I'm all over the pace theory at the moment, this just filled me with the right amount of nostalgia and silly.

So it inspired me.........

🎶 THE 12 DAYS OF HORSES CHRISTMAS

(A chaotic equestrian parody)

🎵 On the first day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
A spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the second day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the third day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the fourth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the fifth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the sixth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the seventh day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
7 feeds a-mixing,
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the eighth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
8 sweats a-foaming,
7 feeds a-mixing,
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the ninth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
9 bucks exploding,
8 sweats a-foaming,
7 feeds a-mixing,
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the tenth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
10 reins a-tangling,
9 bucks exploding,
8 sweats a-foaming,
7 feeds a-mixing,
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the eleventh day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
11 spooks for nothing,
10 reins a-tangling,
9 bucks exploding,
8 sweats a-foaming,
7 feeds a-mixing,
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree.

🎵 On the twelfth day of Christmas my horse gave to me…
12 yards of chaos,
11 spooks for nothing,
10 reins a-tangling,
9 bucks exploding,
8 sweats a-foaming,
7 feeds a-mixing,
6 rugs a-slipping,
FIIIIIVE HAY-NETS DOWN!
4 muddy legs,
3 lost shoes,
2 naughty nibbles,
and a spook at a leaf on a tree! 🎶🐴

12/12/2025

🧠 The Id, The Ego & The Superego — A Quick Guide to Your Inner Trio

Freud described the mind as three parts constantly negotiating with each other.
Think of them like roommates with very different personalities:

🔥 The Id — “I want it NOW.”

This is your impulsive, instinctive side.
It’s driven by pleasure, desire, hunger, comfort, and emotion.

The Id says things like:

“Eat the cake.”

“Buy the horse.”

“Stay in bed.”

“Run away from stress.”

It doesn’t care about consequences — it just wants relief right now.

⚖️ The Ego — “Let’s be realistic.”

This is the rational part of your mind.
It negotiates between what you want (Id) and what you should do (Superego).

The Ego is the mediator, constantly saying:

“Okay, how can we make this work?”

“Let’s think this through.”

“What’s the best decision for right now?”

It tries to keep everyone calm and functioning.

🌟 The Superego — “Do the right thing.”

This is your inner critic, moral compass, and rule-follower.
It’s shaped by your upbringing, culture, values, and expectations.

The Superego says:

“Be responsible.”

“Don’t disappoint anyone.”

“Work harder.”

“You should be better.”

It aims for perfection — sometimes too much.

🧩 How They Show Up in Adult Life

Id: impulse buying, emotional eating, staying up too late, avoiding tasks.
Ego: making plans, solving problems, balancing needs, communicating.
Superego: guilt, pressure, self-criticism, high standards, people-pleasing.

A healthy mind isn’t about silencing any one of them
it’s about balancing all three.

💡 Why This Matters

Understanding these parts helps you:

recognise why you react the way you do

reduce guilt around impulses

understand your inner critic

make decisions with more self-awareness

shift from self-judgment to curiosity

When the Id wants fun, the Superego wants perfection,
and the Ego is just trying to keep you alive…
give yourself some grace.

You’re not “too emotional” or “too critical.”
You’re a human with a whole internal committee trying to be heard.

12/12/2025

Today I discovered a new riding challenge:
👉 Attempting comfort without a VERY important item of clothing.

Between rushing to get ready and the horse box throwing a full tantrum and refusing to start…
something crucial was left behind.

And let me tell you…
Sitting trot was no5mt fun....
10/10 would NOT recommend. 🤣🤣🤣

Meanwhile, Leo stood there like:
“Hmm. Choices were made.”
But at least he didn’t openly judge me…
not to my face anyway. 👀😂

So now I need to know —
have YOU ever forgotten something vital or ended up looking like an equestrian fashion disaster?
Please share…
I need emotional support. 🤣🙌

12/12/2025

I love love love the pace theory...like love it. Like I'm a bit obsessed with it .

I like to use it in my own life as I just love the vibe it brings

Here is a short, clear, social-media-friendly post about PACE theory — educational, simple, and easy to share:

What Is PACE Theory......I hear you ask. And How Can Adults Use It?

PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy) was created to support children with trauma and attachment wounds…
but it turns out it’s just as powerful for adults.

It’s not a technique — it’s an attitude that builds emotional safety.

✨ P — Playfulness

Lightness. Softening intensity. Letting joy in. And play we can still play and be silly as adults!!!!

✨ A — Acceptance

Accepting feelings without judgment.
“You’re allowed to feel this.”

✨ C — Curiosity

Understanding instead of assuming.
“What’s really happening underneath this?”

✨ E — Empathy

Being present with someone’s emotions — or your own.
“I get why this hurts.”

How adults can use PACE:

To speak to themselves with kindness instead of criticism

To communicate better in relationships

To reduce conflict and increase connection

To regulate the nervous system

To understand emotional reactions rather than shame them

PACE reminds us:
Connection heals more than correction ever will.

Here is am at 40 years old having had lots of joy riding at a pole clinic, Accepting who I am, being curious around the feels ive had today and being empathetic to myself

12/12/2025

The Spanish Rescue Dog

From far across the sun-soaked land,
a dog once wandered, unsure, unseen
a quiet soul with a history held
in the deep wisdom of his eyes.

But fate has a way of guiding hearts,
and he found his way to mine
Not just a rescue,
but a reunion of spirits
that somehow always knew
they were meant to meet.

Now he has found his family
his place, his people, his peace.
No longer a stray in the world,
but a presence woven into my days.

He is my shadow,
moving softly beside you,
mirroring your steps,
your moods,
your heart.

He is the protector of the house,
standing guard with quiet strength,
as if he knows he finally has
something worth guarding
a home
and the love he always deserved.

And in return,
he brings the wisdom of where he’s been,
the softness of who he is,
and the gratitude of a soul
who has finally come home.

A Spanish rescue,
no longer lost.
A loyal companion,
forever found.

For Ramos

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