Equimotional Performance Coaching

Equimotional Performance Coaching Equimotional performance coaching and training

YES. Let’s say it loud. 📣You are not a burden.Not for needing reassurance.Not for having feelings.Not for taking up spac...
04/01/2026

YES. Let’s say it loud. 📣

You are not a burden.

Not for needing reassurance.
Not for having feelings.
Not for taking up space.
Not for needing rest, time, softness, or support.

You are not “too much”.
You are not “hard work”.
You are not an inconvenience for existing as you are.

You are a human with a nervous system, a history, needs, and a heart.
And that is not something to apologise for.

Say it again .... louder, if you need to:

I am not a burden.
I am allowed to be here.
I matter.

Urgency…That constant feeling that everything is urgent.That if you don’t reply now, decide now, move now ... something ...
04/01/2026

Urgency…

That constant feeling that everything is urgent.
That if you don’t reply now, decide now, move now ... something bad will happen.

The rush in your chest.
The tight jaw.
The invisible countdown no one else can see.

Urgency isn’t motivation.
It’s anxiety wearing a high-vis jacket.

It convinces you that rest is laziness.
That pausing is dangerous.
That you’re already behind — even when nothing is actually wrong.

For many of us, urgency is a nervous system habit.
Learned in environments where being slow meant being judged, missed, or unsafe.

So if your body pushes you to:

over-explain

rush decisions

panic-fix things that don’t need fixing

That’s not a flaw.
That’s protection.

The work isn’t to move faster.
It’s to gently remind yourself:

This can wait.
I am safe right now.
I don’t have to earn calm by panicking first.

Urgency fades when safety is felt ... not forced.

Having anxiety outside of my comfort peopleThere’s a version of me that feels calm, grounded, chatty, even confident.Tha...
04/01/2026

Having anxiety outside of my comfort people

There’s a version of me that feels calm, grounded, chatty, even confident.
That version exists… but only around my comfort people.

Outside of that circle, my nervous system clocks everything.
The tone of voices.
Where to stand.
What to say.
When to smile.
Am I talking too much? Not enough? Being weird? Being rude? Being invisible?

It’s not that I don’t like people.
It’s that my body doesn’t always feel safe with unfamiliar energy.

Around my comfort people, I don’t have to perform.
I don’t have to explain myself.
I can be quiet or loud or flat or emotional and still belong.

Around others, anxiety creeps in quietly:

shoulders tense

breath shallow

mind racing ahead of every interaction

And sometimes I leave social situations exhausted, replaying everything I said — or didn’t say.

This isn’t weakness.
It’s a nervous system that learned safety through familiarity.

So if you see me go quiet, leave early, cling to the person I know, or need time alone afterwards ... that’s me regulating, not rejecting.

I’m learning that it’s okay to honour my comfort people.
They are my anchors.
And it’s okay to take my time expanding that circle.

Safety first.
Always.

Confidence in self isn’t loud.It doesn’t shout, prove, or perform.It’s the quiet knowing that:you don’t need permission ...
04/01/2026

Confidence in self isn’t loud.
It doesn’t shout, prove, or perform.

It’s the quiet knowing that:

you don’t need permission to take up space

you can change your mind without explaining yourself

your pace is allowed to be your pace

Real confidence looks like listening inward instead of scanning outward.
Like trusting your body’s signals.
Like choosing what feels right, even when it’s not popular.

Some days confidence is bold action.
Other days it’s rest.
Both count.

You don’t become confident by fixing yourself.
You become confident by accepting yourself as you are today .....and showing up anyway.

Is it a bird...Is it a plane...No I can assure you all that was a 19yr old me having fun on my lovely coloured pony that...
04/01/2026

Is it a bird...
Is it a plane...

No I can assure you all that was a 19yr old me having fun on my lovely coloured pony that I bought with money I got in a car crash when I was 16.

Now...seeing these stills really made me think...today I posted these as " evidence that I once left the floor....why the heck did I feel I needed to.prove anything 🙈

These thoughts were triggered by a client today who feels not enough as she doesn't do what the others do at the yard....yet she's doing so well at what she wants to do...

Why do we get so lost in others worlds instead of just sitting and being happy in our own..

Because others project their stuff onto others...

Some people feel they get a power trip belittling others....

Are you a better horse person because you jump....

Are you a better horse person because you dressage

Are you a better horse person because you hack

Are you a better horse person because you do it all

Are you a better horse person because you don't ride...

There is always a manufactured hierarchy in life....

I look down on you because...

I look up at you because....

That's all good that's how life is....because how society has developed these categories of power.

I tell you what....why don't we just focus on ourselves and be proud of where we are....

I know its good to have aspirations and people to aspire to be like but we have to have healthy boundaries with this....

And don't you go walking about belitting anyone for what they don't do...

Check yourself. Maybe that person is peacefully happy hacking, dressageing....eventing....etc etc etc...whatever it is that makes them happy and makes them them.

We all have a different world that we view from our eyes.....try imaging what it may be like for someone else in a neutral way. With none of you own thoughts or emotions towards what they are doing.

Also sometimes we have to stop trying to be who we were.......this was me then....I am me now.

(But I'm still riding a coloured pony 21 years later 🤣🤣🤣)

🙏

I cannot do anything without being interrupted.....Curious cats.....
04/01/2026

I cannot do anything without being interrupted.....

Curious cats.....

Writing this to ok it for me, and maybe for you too…Ahhh… the school is frozen.The roads are frozen.We don't have a hea...
04/01/2026

Writing this to ok it for me, and maybe for you too…

Ahhh… the school is frozen.
The roads are frozen.
We don't have a heated indoor school 🤣
Or underfloor outdoor school heating system...

Alas ... no riding, no exercise until it thaws.

And that’s… ok.

To make myself feel ok, I remind myself:
Pony does need to move.
Movement matters for his body.

And he is moving.
He’s out.
He’s walking.
He’s being a horse.

We can gently re-establish the exercise routine in the week.
Nothing has been lost.
Nothing has been ruined.

It’s ok to pause.
It’s ok to adapt.
It’s ok to let nature decide for a bit.

The world won’t explode.
We won’t undo progress.
We will be ok 🤍

Just a dog, a tree, and some dig digs… 🐕🌳Whilst in a session this morning,Ramos became completely hyper-fixated on this ...
04/01/2026

Just a dog, a tree, and some dig digs… 🐕🌳

Whilst in a session this morning,
Ramos became completely hyper-fixated on this tree.

Dig dig dig.
Sniff sniff.
Woof woof.

Fully committed.
Deeply invested.
Absolutely convinced this tree had something important going on.

After digging the perfect hole,
investigating it thoroughly,
and deciding all was well with the world…

He simply sat by the tree
for the rest of the session.

No agenda.
No rush.
Just present.

Sometimes regulation doesn’t look calm.
Sometimes it looks like digging, sniffing, investigating
and then settling.

Ramos reminded us this morning that:

the body knows what it needs

curiosity can be grounding

and once you’ve done what you needed to do…
you can just be 🤍

Shout out to all the equine wellbeing coaches navigating sessions in winter ❄️🐴To those holding space while your fingers...
04/01/2026

Shout out to all the equine wellbeing coaches navigating sessions in winter ❄️🐴

To those holding space while your fingers are numb.
Reading nervous systems through gloves and layers.
Adjusting plans around frozen ground, short days, mud, wind, and sideways rain.

Winter sessions take a different kind of presence.

You’re:

regulating others while battling the cold

adapting sessions when the weather says “absolutely not”

keeping horses comfortable, safe, and settled first

holding emotional depth in environments that are physically demanding

There are no cosy rooms.
No perfect conditions.
Just you, the horses, and whatever the day brings.

And yet…
some of the most powerful work happens here.

Because winter strips things back.
Less distraction.
More honesty.
More attunement.

Clients show up differently.
Horses respond differently.
Sessions slow down ... and often go deeper.

So this is for the coaches who:

walk fields before sessions

carry hot water, extra rugs, spare gloves

reschedule without guilt

model flexibility, self-care, and realism

keep going with compassion and integrity

Your work matters ... even when it’s cold, muddy, and unseen.

Especially then 🤍

Half pony… half hay 🌾🐴The life of a pony who helps in Equimotional sessions.One minute:holding spaceregulating nervous s...
04/01/2026

Half pony… half hay 🌾🐴

The life of a pony who helps in Equimotional sessions.

One minute:

holding space

regulating nervous systems

teaching children about boundaries, trust, and calm

being patient, present, and quietly powerful

The next minute:

absolutely immersed in hay

wearing it as a fashion statement

smelling like it

becoming one with it

pony life is a balance:
🧠 emotional intelligence
🌾 aggressive hay consumption

They give so much
and then they refuel properly.

Because even the most emotionally intelligent ponies
are still… very much ponies 🤍🐎

Not all change comes from crisis.Sometimes it comes from clarity.It’s that quiet knowing that something no longer fits.N...
04/01/2026

Not all change comes from crisis.
Sometimes it comes from clarity.

It’s that quiet knowing that something no longer fits.
Not wrong.
Not bad.
Just… no longer aligned.

Knowing it’s the right time often isn’t dramatic.
It shows up as:

feeling drained instead of stretched

repeating the same questions in your head

outgrowing roles you once worked hard to earn

needing more space, not more effort

realising you’re surviving something you don’t need to anymore

The right time isn’t when everything is perfect.
It’s when staying the same costs you more than changing.

And here’s the important part
making changes for you doesn’t mean burning everything down.
It can be subtle.
Intentional.
Kind.

It might look like:

choosing rest where you used to push

setting a boundary you’ve rehearsed a hundred times

saying “not anymore” without a long explanation

letting go of something that once kept you safe

choosing yourself without waiting for permission

You don’t have to justify change with a breakdown.
You don’t need a dramatic reason.
Growth is reason enough.

If something inside you is nudging ... quietly but consistently ....
that’s worth listening to.

Because the right time
is often when you finally decide
that your life is allowed to feel like yours.

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