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28/09/2025

Used to be a racehorse but has found a little person that he has connected with.

He came to me described as having "adhd" and we seem to have unpicked part of his beautiful brain.....he adores people....đŸ„° people that vibe his energy that is.....đŸ€Ł.

It's so rewarding đŸ„°đŸ„°

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Carla Amos, Charlotte Hardy, Christine Martyn-David, Doli...
23/07/2025

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Carla Amos, Charlotte Hardy, Christine Martyn-David, Dolittle Farm, Grace Dunster, Melanie Day, Ishta Taylor, Alexandra Hinchly, Louise Kelly

22/07/2025
Hell yeah......
22/07/2025

Hell yeah......

20/07/2025

The locus of evaluation refers to where you source your sense of worth, judgment, or validation, either internally (from yourself, based on your own values, beliefs, and self-awareness) or externally (from others’ opinions, societal standards, or external feedback). It’s a concept rooted in Carl Rogers’ person-centered psychology, where an internal locus is linked to self-actualisation (maslow!) and psychological health, while an external locus can lead to insecurity and dependence on others’ approval.
This is the trouble with social media - as it encourages us to live more externally by keeping up.with societal standards and base our worth on likes and shares. (I'm not saying this is always a bad thing! But awareness is key to keep yourself fully confident and internally validated!)

Signs of an External Locus of Evaluation:
- Constantly seeking approval or praise from others.
- Feeling crushed by criticism or rejection.
- Measuring success by external metrics (likes, status, comparisons).
- Difficulty making decisions without others’ input.

Shifting to an Internal Locus of Evaluation:
1. Self-Reflection: Journal about your core values and what matters to you, not others. Ask, “What do I truly want?”
2. Self-Compassion: Practice affirming your worth independent of achievements or others’ views (e.g., mindfulness or self-compassion exercises).
3. Set Personal Goals: Focus on intrinsic goals (growth, learning) rather than extrinsic ones (fame, wealth).
4. Limit External Input: Reduce time on social media or environments that amplify comparison. Research (e.g., Twenge, 2017) links heavy social media use to external validation-seeking and anxiety.
5. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge your efforts privately to build self-trust.

If you’re stuck in an external locus, it’s often a habit, not a permanent state. ❀

Here's some thoroughbreds munching to help you ground, self validate and bring yourself back to the present. ❀

20/07/2025

Any horsey mums, dads, aunties, friends relate..........

Big shout out to you all 😘😘

As riders don't we worry about alot. Alot alot! Worry about welfareWhat people thinkStatusNow our weight and what people...
20/07/2025

As riders don't we worry about alot. Alot alot!

Worry about welfare
What people think
Status
Now our weight and what people may think at shows
Vet bills
Financing
Our ability

The list goes on....

Id we let the worries take over you'll never achieve the things you want to do

Be reasonable- of course our worries are there to keep us in check, but have. Deep think about the ones that stop us so we don't succeed (we may do this on purpose!)

Mistakes. The word alone can make us wince, conjuring images of embarrassment, frustration, or failure. But what if we r...
18/07/2025

Mistakes. The word alone can make us wince, conjuring images of embarrassment, frustration, or failure. But what if we reframed that perspective? What if, instead of seeing mistakes as something to avoid, we recognised them for what they truly are: undeniable proof that you’re trying? Far from being dead ends, mistakes are evidence of effort, courage, and the willingness to step beyond the safety of the familiar. They’re the messy, beautiful footprints of progress, and they deserve a closer look.

Consider some of the greatest achievements in human history. They didn’t spring forth fully formed from flawless ex*****on. No, they were built on a foundation of trial, error, and persistence. Take Thomas Edison, for instance. His journey to invent the lightbulb wasn’t a straight path of success, it was a winding road littered with thousands of failed attempts. When asked about it, he famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Each misstep brought him closer to the solution, proving that mistakes aren’t the opposite of success; they’re part of its DNA.

Or think about the Wright brothers, who dared to make humans fly. Their early experiments were riddled with crashes and miscalculations, yet every tumble in the sand dunes of Kitty Hawk taught them something new about aerodynamics. Without those mistakes, we might still be earthbound. These stories remind us that behind every breakthrough lies a trail of stumbles—and that’s not a flaw, it’s a feature.

Mistakes aren’t just inevitable; they’re necessary. They’re the raw material of learning, the sparks that ignite creativity and problem-solving. When you try something new—whether it’s trying a new discipline, learning an new dressage test, or riding a new horse ,you’re bound to hit a few wrong moments! . But those missteps aren’t wasted moments. They’re feedback loops, showing you what doesn’t work so you can refine what does.

Imagine a child learning to walk. Every wobble, every fall, is a mistake by technical standards. Yet no one calls it failure. because each tumble teaches balance, coordination, and resilience. As adults, we’re no different. Mistakes stretch us beyond our current abilities, forcing us to adapt and grow. They’re the uncomfortable but essential push that transforms “I can’t” into “I’ll figure it out.” In this way, embracing mistakes isn’t just about accepting imperfection—it’s about embracing the very process of becoming better.

Maybe you’ve got your own version of this, a competition that didnt quite go right, or a goal you didn’t quite reach. It’s tempting to bury those moments, but don’t. They’re proof you stepped into the ring, took a swing, and dared to try. And that’s worth celebrating.

So how do we make peace with mistakes and use them to our advantage? Here are a few practical ways to shift your approach:

Pause and Reflect: When a mistake happens, resist the urge to react with frustration. Take a breath and ask: What went wrong? What can I learn here? Reflection turns a stumble into a stepping stone.

Own It:: There’s power in admitting you messed up. It’s not about blame, it’s about taking responsibility so you can take control of what comes next.

Adjust and Retry: Use what you’ve learned to tweak your approach. Mistakes aren’t endpoints; they’re invitations to try again, smarter.

Celebrate the Effort: Even if the outcome wasn’t what you hoped, give yourself credit for showing up. The courage to try is its own victory.

These steps don’t erase the sting of a mistake, but they transform it into something constructive, a tool for growth rather than a source of shame.



Mistakes only feel like failures if we let them. When we fear them, we play it safe, sticking to what we already know. But when we embrace them, we unlock a world of possibility. Suddenly, risks don’t seem so scary, they’re just experiments. Setbacks don’t define us, they refine us. And every “oops” becomes a badge of honor, a sign that we’re in the game, not on the sidelines.

So, the next time you trip up, don’t beat yourself up over it. Instead, stand tall and say, “I’m trying.” Because that’s what mistakes really are: proof of your grit, your curiosity, and your willingness to keep going. They’re not the end of the story—they’re the middle, the part where the hero learns, adapts, and rises stronger.



In the end, life isn’t about avoiding mistakes, it’s about what you do with them. Every great inventor, artist, leader, or dreamer has a collection of missteps behind them. What sets them apart isn’t perfection; it’s persistence. So keep trying, keep stumbling, and keep rising. The road to success isn’t a straight line,it’s a winding path paved with lessons, and every mistake is a step forward. You’ve got this.

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17/07/2025

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