10/11/2025
The day I had my son, my late cousin Barrister Vivian Aaron called to congratulate me. She said something profound "Adaukwu, boys are raised differently o". Na now parenting start, she continued. As a mum of 4 boys, she said it with so much concern and confidence.
She said they need a strong and present dad, a mentor, a friend and a coach. You don't leave them to fate because you're raising a generation. Now I understand! Children mirror the men in their lives. So, I'm putting extra effort cos wetin my eyes don see, my mouth no fit talk am. Guide them and show them what respect is. They need to learn boundaries. They need to be empowered. Physical appearance doesn't make a fine man. Sexual strength is nonsense because with age, that also fades. It's a shame and an utter dishonour to God that a man will boldly tell you that every man wants submission. Yet, cannot tell what God requires from him. It is further disservice when a man has no one they respect or listen to, expect those who enable his cohesive behaviour.
In Genesis 18:19 God said.
For I have known (chosen, acknowledged) him [as My own], so that he may teach and command his children and [the sons of] his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is righteous and just, so that the LORD may bring upon Abraham what He has promised him.β
Raising children is not a woman's responsibility. To you men who are aware of Sarah calling Abraham "Lord", Abraham led his family without interference from his father nor Lot. He led them, so much that it was recorded that he took Isaac to worship. Being a man isn't about your gender/muscles. If it were, not disrespect, I pass some men. Being a dad isn't a title, if it were I be woman wey pass 7 men. Being a man and a dad is about responsibilities and accountability so as that transform the younger generation. Those who know me would testitfy; I only respect a man I'm sure most women are like me. Don't blame society or feminism, blame your immaturity and irresponsible behaviour. You no be man, you be narcissist! God help us to submit to authority as prescribed by God.