Wellbeing and Me Centre

04/02/2026

My therapist told me: When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the caretaker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.

And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong.

They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.

Hi, it’s me. Guilty as.

Caring for others is just a part of me , always has & always will be

03/02/2026

✨️Best advice we need ⭐

🔥Consistency always wins.🔥

It's not what you do once in a while or waiting to feel “ready” that matters.

It’s the small things you do
when no one’s watching. When you don’t feel motivated.When life feels busy, loud, or heavy💪

🩷Five minutes still counts.
🩷Showing up messy still counts.
🩷Doing something instead of nothing counts.

🔥That’s how confidence builds.
🔥That’s how energy shifts.
🔥That’s how you change your life, quietly, daily, steadily.

Keep going. You’re closer than you think. 🫶

Happy Tuesday Team!

🩷Love, hugs & laughter always 🩷

02/02/2026

Missed ADHD in women doesn’t destroy lives loudly.
It does it quietly.
Over years.
Through shame.

Awareness doesn’t label you.
It frees you.

02/02/2026

✨️Monday Reminder:

Some people make you dream bigger after every conversation.

Some people drain your ambition without saying a word.

Pay attention to how you feel after you’ve been around someone.🩷

Do you feel lighter? Seen? More like yourself?

Or do you feel heavy, doubtful, and smaller than you were before?

Choose the people who water your vision, not your worries.

Protect your energy. It matters.🫶

Love & huge hugs today & always

Also - wellbeing Friday this week 💟🩷💟❤️‍🩹 🔥 Sauna, 🧊 ice baths, 🌊 sea swim , hot tub (what’s not to love )

02/02/2026

Happy Monday beautiful people. After a rough Six months I’m looking forward to getting back to Wellbeing days and back at helping you be the best version of yourself 🩷💟 message me to book 🩷💟

26/01/2026

Women need other women ❤️🩷❤️💟❤️

Not everyone is capable of helping a woman step out of her masculine era and reconnect with her feminine era. To nurture , to love & support . That’s what good support does. Collective , positive & a safe space.

That kind of shift requires emotional safety, consistency, and real nurture — not negativity , not control, not ego, not empty words. It takes someone who can hold space without making her feel like she has to stay guarded, independent, and on survival mode all the time.

A woman doesn’t soften for just anyone. She softens when she no longer has to protect herself. When she feels chosen, supported, and secure enough to rest instead of always having to be strong. People want the benefits of her softness but never provide the stability that allows it to exist.

That transformation isn’t triggered by promises or pressure — it’s earned through actions, maturity, and presence. And not everyone is built for that responsibility.

17/01/2026

Day 78

15/01/2026

Protecting an empathic ADHD nervous system

If you have ADHD and high emotional empathy, your nervous system is doing a lot of invisible work.

You don’t just notice distress.
You absorb it.

And without protection, that can lead to:
• emotional exhaustion
• tearfulness that feels “out of proportion”
• shutdown or overwhelm
• deep guilt for needing space

So what helps an empathic ADHD nervous system stay well?

Not “thicker skin”.
Not “learning not to care”.

But intentional buffering. Make a conscious effort to meet your own needs aswell as others.

Here’s what the neuroscience tells us

Name what’s happening
Labelling emotional overload reduces amygdala activation and brings the prefrontal cortex back online.
(This is empathy, not weakness.)

Create micro-boundaries

Even small physical or sensory boundaries (stepping outside, deep exhale, grounding through the feet) signal safety to the vagus nerve.

🧊 cold water helps keep a calm of that Amygdala and stops the fight or flight feeling when overwhelmed

Limit repeated exposure to distress. That is anything that makes u feel unsafe or flighty

ADHD brains habituate slowly to emotional stimuli. Continuous exposure keeps the stress response switched on.

Regulate with the body
Cognitive reassurance isn’t enough. Slow movement, warmth, pressure, or rhythm helps discharge absorbed emotion.

Recover deliberately
Empathy requires recovery time. Quiet, nature, familiar voices, and predictable routines help reset emotional load.

This isn’t about becoming less compassionate.
It’s about staying well enough to keep caring.

If you’re an empathic ADHDer feeling depleted right now, nothing has gone wrong.

Your nervous system just needs care.

What helps you protect your energy when you feel other people’s emotions deeply?

14/01/2026