23/11/2025
🌀 Sharing this for those of you who are still waiting for ‘the right time’.
🌀 There will never be ‘a right time’ - you just get tired of waiting and it dawns on you you’ve wasted decades waiting for ‘something’.
🌀 My ‘readiness’ came from realising I couldn’t continue with how things were and that the fear was of my own making.
🌀 Take small steps, start with doing one thing differently in your week.
🌀 I tried to rename ‘fear’ to be ‘excitement’ - lots of small things help to make big changes.
Most people think confidence arrives first —
as if one morning you’ll wake up overflowing with certainty, clarity, courage.
But that’s not how it works, especially for trauma survivors.
When you’ve lived years in survival mode,
your nervous system isn’t wired to feel “ready.”
It’s wired to stay safe.
It waits for the perfect conditions…
the perfect timing…
the perfect guarantee of no failure, no rejection, no risk.
But those conditions never come.
If you sit around waiting for fear to quiet down,
or for confidence to suddenly rise up and carry you,
you’ll wait your entire life.
The turning point is subtle but profound:
when you whisper to yourself,
“I’m doing this scared.”
“I’m doing this unsure.”
“I’m doing this without the illusion of perfect timing.”
That’s the moment change begins.
Because confidence isn’t the prerequisite —
it’s the outcome.
It grows from exposure, from trying, from showing up anyway.
It’s built in the doing, not in the waiting.
And the first step is always the most disorienting.
Not because you’re incapable,
but because you’re breaking a lifetime of conditioning
that taught you to shrink, to freeze, to hesitate.
This next version of your life
won’t arrive when you finally “feel ready.”
It will arrive the moment you decide
that waiting has cost you enough.
Do it softly.
Do it slowly.
Do it imperfectly.
But do it.
Your future is built one brave, shaky decision at a time.
