28/12/2025
I saw a woman recently, loaded up with bags, trying to retrieve her child's school bags off the floor of the backseat of her car. Her child was standing right next to her looking at his phone, carrying nothing, completely oblivious to his mother trying to do something for him that he was perfectly capable of doing himself.
And earlier today I saw a post from a husband talking about how his wife is always there doing everything for the family, the children and him and how she's always carrying such a heavy burden. He went into a lot of detail about everything she does for everyone else and even stated that she always puts her own needs at the bottom of her list. He then thanked her and said he appreciated her for all she does. He was so proud that he allowed this to happen to his wife and most of the comments were praising him for his 'real' post.
I know these patterns and I know what they become if we don't break them and learn how to hold healthy relationships with ourselves and with others.
Some children grow up learning that others are always there to do things for them, even things which they can do themselves. They learn to expect people to 'please' them, to meet their needs and they don't learn how to have healthy, balanced, fair and reciprocal relationships.
Some children grow up learning to be the over-giver, the people pleaser, the self-sacrificer, the fixer, to put themselves and their own needs at the bottom of their list. They don't learn how to have healthy, balanced, fair and reciprocal relationships.
We call the child who learns to expect their needs to be meet before everyone else's the GOLDEN CHILD, sometimes referred to as the SPOILT BRAT.
We call the child who learns to put everyone else's needs above their own the PEOPLE PLEASER.
We frequently put the GOLDEN CHILD down and big up the PEOPLE PLEASER.
Both of these stereotypes, these ways of being, are as unhealthy as each other.
Both types of people have learnt ways of being / behaving that will only bring pain, suffering and karmic lessons.
And as they grow up and travel through life they will continuously attract each other's stereotypes until they either finally learn what a healthy relationship looks like and break out of their self sabotaging patterns or they ascend to the spirit world and attract more opportunities to learn when they reincarnate.
People pleasers, if they don't learn how to have healthy relationships with equal give and take, will generally die relatively young as they literally give away all of their life force.
Golden child personality types, if they don't change their behaviour, generally live longer lives but often attract lots of long term loneliness, pain, dis-ease, discomfort etc.
I was the people pleaser. I have broken out of hundreds of different self sabotaging behavioural patterns and mindsets over the past 9 years. And I have helped many other people break out of their own unhealthy patterns too.
You WILL keep attracting the same types of experiences / people until you learn to love healthily and unconditionally in ALL areas of your own personal life experience.
I can help you overcome anything and align with the love, peace, truth, power, wellbeing and abundance that is exactly what you are.
Contact me on 07831 404040 for personal & group tarot readings, spiritual guidance sessions (personal & groups), my WOO WOO Workshops and to chat about bespoke services / talks etc. I work in person from my home in Mayland, Essex UK and globally via video calls.
Sharon ###
Lightworker, Metaphysician, Heart Alignment & Spiritual Life Coach, Intuitive Tarot Reader and Speaker.
