15/10/2025
Today marks the end of Baby Loss Awareness Week with the global Wave of Light.
At 7pm tonight, families across the world will light candles in memory of their babies, creating a wave of light that spreads across time zones.
In January last year, I experienced an early loss after my first round of IVF. Tonight, I’ll light a candle for my baby, and for yours too.
I’ll mark my baby with a scan picture of my transfer, as that’s all we have.
I am so sorry for the pain you are experiencing. I grieve with you.
Not just for the loss of our babies, but for the loss of the future we had imagined.
The birthdays that won’t be celebrated.
The milestones we’ll never witness.
The life we dreamed of building with them.
We carry them with us forever. They shape our lives always.
And I’m holding space for every loss:
The miscarriages that others minimised.
The chemical pregnancies people said “don’t count”.
The terminations for medical reasons.
The stillbirths that shattered worlds.
The IVF cycles that never made it.
The babies who lived for moments, days, or weeks.
The losses that came after years of trying
Every single one matters. Every single one deserves to be remembered.
If you’ve experienced loss on your fertility journey, you are not alone 🕯️
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Remember: You did not choose this, it is not your fault, and you are not alone.
