02/09/2025
Fiona’s husband, John, had chosen direct cremation with Pure Cremation. It was a decision she respected and upheld. But when she thought about his ashes being returned home, the home they had built together, the home that still held his presence in a thousand quiet ways, she found herself standing at a threshold she had not expected.
It was not the finality of death that unsettled her, but the lack of recognition that it had happened. There would be no moment of pause, no voices speaking his name, no collective act to acknowledge that the man she had loved was now held in her hands as ashes.
So, she reached out to me to help her create a moment that had, until then, been missing.
Together, we shaped an online gathering. A quiet, reflective space and an open invitation for the wider family to join if it felt right for them. Not everyone chose to, and that was perfectly okay with Jayne. She understood that grief is deeply personal, and there is no single way to navigate it. What mattered was that the space was there for those who needed it.
This is Fiona’s review of working with me.
To read more about John’s alternative funeral, visit the blog on my website.
