21/11/2025
It’s at 12 noon (UK) today, Many celebrants, including me are going live with — drop your questions below and I’ll answer honestly. I have put below some of the questions I often get asked as a starter.
Let’s lift the lid on funeral choices and celebrate the power of a well-made farewell.
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Can I have hymns even if the service is not in church?
Yes of course you can! Many crematoria (like (Rushcliffe Oaks, Gedling Crematorium, Bramcote Crematorium) have the Obitus music system which has musics from all ages and genres on it - including hymns. You can chose everything from Abide With Me, Morning Has Broken to I Am Woman (that's one I'm going to have at my farewell), Twisted Firestarter, Always Look on the Bright Side and everything in between. Just chose what is right for your loved one and you. Also for hymns, Obitus music for hymns doe shave voices signing on it already so no need to worry about it being quiet... or anyone just hearing your voice or whether you will be able to sing on the day.
Can a Celebrant say the Lords Prayer - yes a celebrant can. We can say many prayers and also help chose the right readings for the service that will sum up either your feelings or bring back some lovely memories of your loved one.
Is it OK to laugh at a funeral service?
Absolutely! You laughed with your loved one so why won't you laugh when remembering them? It's not disrespectful but it should be part of your loved one's legacy to you - memories of love and laughter.
Do I have to have the celebrant the Funeral Director suggests?
No you don't. You have a choice. It may sound strange to say - but do your research. You don't have to say Yes straight away when you are sat with the FD. You can go away and either search on Google, ask family or friends or go look on websites like www.independentcelebrants.com which is run by AOIC - the leading trade association for funeral celebrants. Use this to talk to some celebrants so you can pick the one that is right for you.
Any other questions - then please ask away.
Remember just like in life, in death - you have choice.
A well-made farewell, a fantastic goodbye - whether that be in a church, a crematorium, a pub, a beach or wherever - helps the grieving process.
And grief is the price we pay for love.
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