Tran-scent-ence

21/12/2024

What an amazing woman to stand up in court to so many men that abused her, let us hope that this is the future and that abuse can stop

12/06/2022

I read this on another social media site, I believe this is put very succinctly and would ask people to think about your own addiction. We all have our own way of coping, do you recognise yours? Ask yourself these questions.

What is your ‘cage’?
Do you want to change?
Is your life put on hold whilst you carry it out?
What can you do to instead to be more in the moment and be with the ones you love and who love you?

Put a rat in a cage and give it 2 water bottles. One is just water and one is water laced with he**in or co***ne. The rat will almost always prefer the drugged water and almost always kill itself in a couple of weeks. That is our theory of addiction.

Bruce K Alexander comes along in the ’70s and said, “Well, hang on. We’re putting the rat in an empty cage. It has nothing to do. Let’s try this a bit differently.” So he built Rat Park, and Rat Park is like heaven for rats. Everything a rat could want is in Rat Park. Lovely food. Lots of s*x. Other rats to befriend. Colored balls. Plus both water bottles, one with water and one with drugged water. But here’s what's fascinating: In Rat Park, they don’t like the drugged water. They hardly use it. None of them overdose. None of them use in a way that looks like compulsion or addiction. What Bruce did shows that both the right-wing and left-wing theories of addiction are wrong. The right-wing theory is that it’s a moral failing, you’re a hedonist, you party too hard. The left-wing theory is that it takes you over, your brain is hijacked. Bruce says it’s not your morality, it’s not your brain; it’s your cage. Addiction is largely an adaptation to your environment.

Now, we created a society where significant numbers of us can't bear to be present in our lives without being on something, drink, drugs, s*x, shopping... We’ve created a hyperconsumerist, hyperindividualist, isolated world that is, for many of us, more like the first cage than the bonded, connected cages we need.

The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. And our whole society, the engine of it, is geared toward making us connect with things not people. You are not a good consumer citizen if you spend your time bonding with the people around you and not stuff. In fact, we are trained from a young age to focus our hopes, dreams, and ambitions on things to buy and consume. Drug addiction is a subset of that."
Credit: Johann Hari

05/03/2022

Today is St Piran’s day, patron saint of Cornwall. This is a nod to my roots, my parents being proud to be Cornish.

It made me think today about how individuals feel about their roots.

Perhaps today you may also feel like remembering where you came from (good or bad) and how you have evolved and become the person you are today.

26/09/2021

Ever wonder why you are always ill? Take a look at this and see if it resonates with you.

19/09/2020

The power of the media!
Many of you will have seen the death of Chantelle in Eastenders brought about by domestic abuse.
I chose to show the ‘happy’ photo of their relationship, as it would have been to start with.
Many people do not see the creep creep of the self doubt, alienation from friends and family, reliance on abuser, financial restrictions, the list goes on.
Please keep an eye on your friends and family, yes it can happen to people close to you and you may not see the signs until it is too late.
If anyone is in this situation, love yourself, you are worth more. Trust someone with the truth and seek help. You are vulnerable, please do not leave it too late like Chantelle.

19/08/2020

When a friend comes to you out of the blue feeling like their life is crumbling around them, how do you react?
Your initial comments can make all the difference, be kind and empathetic.
Don’t judge, don’t blame. Let them work it out for themselves, maybe a listening ear is all they need to set themselves back on the right path.

06/08/2020

Relationships are about understanding someone, if you don’t, spend some time asking yourself what you can do to make it better for them.

19/06/2020

On evaluating the current crises, it is my view that I feel the best way forward for Tran-scent-ence is to not actively start again until September. That said, I am sure that if you are in need of my services we can arrange something before that. We can discuss the best way for Counselling to be beneficial to you. I can offer walk and talk to stay in the open or video links over social media platforms. Unfortunately, other therapies will have to wait until September.

This has been a difficult time for many people, socially distancing, shielding etc has been something we have never known and I hope, will never know again in our life time. You may have even have lost people close to you. This may have brought up many different feelings and emotions and maybe even the thought of reevaluating your future. This can be a time where you need to talk to someone impartial, someone who can empathise with your situation and help you to understand how and what your feeling and how to move forward.

I am here to listen, to help you refocus, to be your space in which to explore whatever you need to.

11/04/2020

I seen this and thought about abusive relationships in this current crisis. I’m always available to anyone in need

02/04/2020

Be thankful for the life you have, for the gift of a free society....... what is up to three months out of your life to be able to still see your loved ones, the next generation growing up.
Life is precious, savour it in the days to come.
Work out what’s important to you, what you have wasted on insignificant possessions.
Think about your work/life balance and come out the other end a significantly changed person from the one who entered the ‘Lockdown’.

Love life ❤️

Terry Waite, 1763 days as a hostage in appalling conditions.
He just told us all to stop complaining!
Change your mindset he said, you're not STUCK at home,you're SAFE at home
His advice:
*Keep your own dignity - get out of your PJs!
*Form a structure for the day
*Be grateful for what you have - shelter, home, possessions
*Read and be creative

29/03/2020

11/03/2020

I believe we are made of strong stuff down here in the west county. I know some of you with respiratory problems will be worried, so here are the symptoms list from the NHS website regarding covid-19 or coronavirus.
Remember to wash hands regularly and use a hankie for coughing and sneezing.