Space for Healing

31/03/2024

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13/03/2022

Time is not linear and productivity cannot be measured in the same way across the board when circumstances can vary widely. Show yourself grace and acknowledge that you’ve probably accomplished a lot more than you think you have. Your brain has survived and thrived even through the worst of circumstances. That itself is a great feat. ❤️

19/02/2022

The state of being in which a person no longer internalizes all the negativity projected onto them is possible, but for some it may require a special commitment of love and care, along with a willingness to truly believe in their inmost worth. If you are like me, it includes inner-work —and might still come and go depending on the circumstance, trigger material, or physical health.

You see, it’s a human response to feel dejected in the face of unexpected criticism. We can’t easily shift our mindset from attaching to what other people think of us. Those murky feelings are brought forward by the tarnishing applied over time and insidiously tucked away inside each negative message during the tenderest years of our development.

Messages conveying you’re too this, or too much of that, or simply not enough. It was being ridiculed. Heartlessly shamed. Unfairly blamed. Guilted or rejected. Messages left inside to sour and often leading us to turn on ourselves when what we really need is encouragement. If you were once left in the open seas of crashing criticism—or all alone, treading through a fusillade of immobilizing judgement—there is a valuable part of you somewhere inside asking to be validated.

It’s important to support all the parts of you desiring expression. It’s alright to feel any way you do, whether it’s your innocent Inner Child or your sensitive Inner Teenager who had to consciously or unconsciously assimilate throughout their existence, and now stands trembling as an adult bearing the brunt of the moment.

We don’t want to attach to what’s untrue or unnecessarily harsh or what is really nobody’s business. For some of us, it will take more than developing a thicker skin or instantly rising above in feathery indifference. Maybe for you, there is a child crying out for you to please come back and untie the restraints that have unjustly bound them over time. It may not come easily or quickly, but they implore us to unlearn many of these debilitating messages.

Our early wounding looks for a caring Inner Adult to find healthy ways of tearing down false accusations and working through the pain of it all. And it’s the invincible strength of this dependable Adult that will outlast any squawk of fleeting disapproval or any hefty condemnation with no merit and can’t survive.
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01/10/2021

27/09/2021

I guide people into re-experiencing their state of being and flow, gently holding the space whilst people rest there, witnessing their transformation as they open up to the possibilities within themselves.

Whatever the issue that is presenting in your life - simple or multifaceted, physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual - I can help you reach a place of resolution, enabling you to continue on your journey free from unnecessary burdens and limitations.

27/08/2021

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11/07/2021

Everyone deserves to live a life free from unnecessary restrictions and limitations, many of which arise from beliefs we developed, absorbed or had imposed upon us in childhood, from those around us or through our experiences.

These beliefs can hold us back, often in ways in which we are not aware. Our beliefs effectively run our lives and we feel powerless to change them.

Think of some of the beliefs, feelings and thoughts you have which are stopping you from living your life to its full - the full width, depth and breadth of your life - to your full potential. Think how different your life could be if you eradicated the beliefs, feelings and thoughts that are holding you back.

If you knew there was an easy way in which to change your beliefs, your life and to effect positive change, would you take it?

EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques - is a simple tool which can resolve physical, mental, emotional and spiritual issues, freeing up your energy and empowering you to challenge the limitations that are holding you back. It is an effective way of creating transformation and change, enabling you to tap into the magic of life, at the end of your fingertips. An easy way in which to change your beliefs, shed your unnecessary limitations and restrictions, and create positive change. Will you take it?

04/06/2021

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Through the healing path you will come face-to-face with many dismissive comments about your reality. This is unjust, however if you can decide now to quickly dismiss toxic projections onto your healing, you will not only empower that inner survivor to speak boldly about their truth, but you will feel the long overdue affirmation that what happened to you was never ok and YOU will honor your pace in healing.⁣
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Who is with me? Drop 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻⁣
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Take care of you today.... as you are, where you are. 🙏❤️⁣
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***Link in bio for inner child journaling guide ***

22/04/2021

Easier to victim shame the abused than to put the responsibility where it belongs - on the abuser.

A study of 104 therapy clients who sought help after being abused, those clients who were told that they were codependent or else that they had chosen the abuser and abusive relationship, the helpfulness of the therapy is, needless to say, not terribly effective.

The study authors pointed out that these therapists had attributed the cause of the abuse to the victim rather than the abuser....that somewhere deep inside the victim had personality problems such that they sought out their abuser and wanted that kind of relationship.

Victims who do research on pages like this one wish the therapist had told them about sociopaths and narcissists. Then they may look for a therapist who does understand narcissistic abuse. Then they'll be told the truth. The therapist will recognize the typical patterns of narcissistic abuse and explain that the survivor is a victim of their abuser, not the cause of the abuse.

Essentially, an ineffective therapist doesn't believe the survivor. it's incredibly important to believe survivors because not believing them is invalidating. 'Emotional invalidation is when a person's thoughts and feelings are rejected, ignored, or judged. Invalidation is emotionally upsetting for anyone, but particularly hurtful for someone who is emotionally sensitive. Invalidation disrupts relationships and creates emotional distance." (Psych Central).

08/04/2021

Why did you stay??? I HATE that question. I really think it's rude AF. Why do people think they are entitled to judge victims of abuse? One thing that really bothers me is the stigma attached to being a victim of domestic abuse. I am treated very differently by people now that I openly say I am a victim of domestic abuse. I can see people visible recoil when I mention it. It is like I immediately lose respect. I know a lot of people think it's best to not mention it. But I absolutely refuse to be ashamed of being a victim of a crime. The shame is NOT mine. We live in an abusive society. Domestic abuse touches everyone. We need to start talking about it and not stop until it ends. The stigma isn't going to stop by our silence. Education and awareness are absolutely 💯necessary for change. I stayed because I had nowhere to go. I stayed because I knew he would try to kill me if I left. I stayed because I knew he wouldn't pay the court ordered child support. I stayed because I knew he would stalk me. I stayed because I am disabled. All those things happened. Everyone's judgement did nothing to help change my situation for the better. All it did was hurt me. I had worked as a mental health advocate prior which gave me an advantage in obtaining the resources I desperately needed. I doubt I would have been successful without my training. Still I doubt myself everyday for staying as long as I did even though I know it's a miracle I even made it out alive.

29/03/2021

We live in a society obsessed about fixing wounds and finding remedies. We judge, analyze, and create theories about our wounds. We think we are not ok b...