Be Mindful Fife

06/11/2025

Have you ever felt an overwhelming pull to step back from the world? In this profound exploration, we uncover a quiet phenomenon happening right now: spiritually awakened people are vanishing. Not with drama or announcements, but by consciously choosing silence over the noise and authenticity over performance.

This video explains why this withdrawal is not a sickness or antisocial behavior, but a natural and necessary stage of deep spiritual awakening. We delve into what it truly means to "wake up" from the collective dream and why participating in society's games becomes intolerable for a conscious mind. Discover the difference between loneliness and the sacred aloneness required for inner work, and learn about the essential "hermit phase"—a period of cocooning where you integrate your shadow and meet your authentic self

you ever felt an overwhelming pull to step back from the world? In this profound exploration, w...

05/11/2025

I kept his shirt in my closet for two years. Not because I thought we'd get back together. Not because I was waiting for him to come back. But because letting it go felt like admitting it was really over. Like erasing what we had. Like saying it didn't matter.

Then I read Heidi Priebe's "This Is Me Letting You Go." And I finally understood: holding on wasn't honoring what we had. It was keeping me stuck in what we lost. Priebe writes with the kind of emotional clarity that makes you feel seen in your grief while gently pushing you toward freedom.

5 Lessons That Helped Me Finally Let Go

1. Letting Go Doesn't Mean It Didn't Matter
The fear that kept me holding on: if I let go, does it mean what we had wasn't important? That they weren't special? That it was all for nothing? Priebe teaches that letting go isn't erasing the past. It's honoring it enough to stop letting it control your present. You can cherish what was while accepting that it's over.

2. You're Not Letting Go of Them, You're Letting Go of the Version of Them You Created

This one hit hard. Priebe writes about how we often grieve not the actual person, but the potential we saw in them. The version we hoped they'd become. The relationship we imagined having. I wasn't missing who he actually was. I was missing who I wanted him to be. The fantasy I'd built around our future.

3. Closure Comes From Within, Not From Them
I kept waiting for the conversation that would make it all make sense. The explanation that would give me closure. Priebe gently destroys this myth. Closure isn't something someone gives you. It's something you give yourself when you decide the story is complete, even without all the answers.

4. Grieving Is How You Honor What Was Real
Priebe gives you permission to grieve fully. To be sad. To miss them. To cry over what you lost. Not because you're weak or stuck, but because grief is the price of having loved something real. Rushing to "get over it" or forcing positivity doesn't help. You have to feel it to heal it. The sadness isn't weakness. It is proof the love mattered.

5. Letting Go Is an Ongoing Choice, Not a One-Time Decision
I thought letting go would happen once, you know one dramatic moment where I'd decide to move on and that would be it. Priebe teaches that letting go is daily work. Some days you'll feel free. Other days you'll want to reach out. Progress isn't linear. You'll choose to let go over and over until one day you realize you already have.

Heidi Priebe wrote the book I needed when my heart was breaking. She held space for my grief while showing me that freedom was possible. Not easy. Not quick. But possible. I finally donated that shirt. Not because I stopped caring. But because I cared enough about myself to stop living in the past.

That's what letting go is: choosing your future over their memory.

Book/Audiobook: https://amzn.to/49tBIbZ

04/11/2025

03/11/2025

The Hidden Link Between Shame and Vulnerability - wonderful explanation from Brene Brown.

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01/11/2025

Stop trying to be liked by everyone. You don't even like everyone.

28/10/2025

Ah, friendship! So this is the glue that holds people together—this warmth, this loneliness-dispelling state of mind. Doubting so much, fearing so much, revealing so little, he had sampled friendship far too rarely in his life. ( Yalom 2013)

27/10/2025

Looking for a way to heal? 🧠 At Edinburgh CBT & Counselling Services, we blend Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with various approaches to help you find resilience and strength. Our welcoming environment is rooted in the heart of the Goldernacre community. Explore our services and take that first step toward a healthier you! 😊 Visit us today: https://wix.to/9EYUQxT

27/10/2025

"This is why mindfulness, or paying attention to the present moment with a quality of openness, curiosity, kindness and care can help us to see what a privilege it is simply be alive [...] mindfulness is not constrained to being a stress reduction tool. Rather, it becomes a means to living fully, and with meaning, and it might even increase our capacity to flourish". Amen 🙏

A few Novembers ago, I was travelling through Scotland when I heard a BBC radio show called ‘The Susurrations of Trees’. It took my breath away. In particular, Bob Gilbert’s description of the soun…

27/10/2025

A few Novembers ago, I was travelling through Scotland when I heard a BBC radio show called ‘The Susurrations of Trees’. It took my breath away. In particular, Bob Gilbert’s description of the soun…

24/10/2025

This is a description of exactly how coaching can feel. Not all the time of course, but surprisingly often. What a huge honour and privilege it is to be able to share these kinds of moments together.

It's like you're emerging from the dark tunnel of heavy feelings, stuckness and limited inner vision, into the light of day where your whole life seems illuminated with a new light. One that holds the potential of all that is to come.

21/10/2025

New course announcement! Dr. Tony Bates and I will be delivering a course on how we might find meaning in the challenging times of our lives. We all have moments in life during which it feels like everything is falling apart. However it’s precisely during these moments where we can be stretched into spaces of growth. This course runs from November 2025 to February 2026 with a mix of onsite days and evening online sessions.

To learn more and to sign up:

https://www.sanctuary.ie/programmes/when-things-fall-apart

21/10/2025

Space still available for
Cultivating an Awareness of Energy Moving through the Self and into our Relationships
10.00 – 3.00 pm Saturday 25 October Workshop
Queen’s Hall, Hall Row, Charlestown, KY11, UK
Email: bill@bemindfulfife.co.uk

After 15 years of intense inner work and life experiences, I’ve really come to realise the experiences of life not only creates strong emotions and energy within our bodies; we also place that energy into our social relations and communities. I think most of the time many of us are not even conscious of doing so.
The purpose of this workshop is to recognise and connect to these emotions and energies through reflecting on personal experience of the Eight Worldly Winds (pleasure/pain; gain/loss; praise/blame; fame/disrepute). This will be achieved by drawing on practices from my recent studies.
The aim is to continue to develop compassion for ourselves and others as we experience the energies that come through the body and drive our social relationships and community engagement.

A potential outcome might be that participants begin to acknowledge skilful and unskilful ways of meeting this energy and being in the world.

It will be a day of meditation, reflection and movement, as well as sharing in small groups and writing exercises.

Cost £40.00
Concessions: £20.00 (Two places for Unpaid or those experiencing financial difficulty)

You will need a yoga mat, a blanket, a cushion, a notebook, a pen, and curiosity
Participation will be limited to 15 places.

10.00 – 3.00 pm Saturday 25 October
Queen’s Hall, Hall Row, Charlestown, KY11, UK
Email: bill@bemindfulfife.co.uk