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Gems Guiding Light Holistic Grief Coach What is grief? Many of us have experienced loss in our lives, grief is the natural emotional response from a significant loss. Gem x

While we all will experience it at some point in our lives, everyone grieves differently, there is no right or wrong way. Whether we want it to or not grief has a huge impact on our lives, especially our nervous system. It affects us individually as a person, it impacts our lives and relationships, and it can cause a knock-on effect on our health including problems like depression, anxiety and ill

nesses, if we don’t take care of ourselves. Our process to adapt to a significant loss can vary from one of us to another, the same as what comes up for us along the way is different. Many different factors in our lives can affect our journey with grief, like our beliefs and values or how we were raised. Grief doesn’t have a time line, time doesn’t know how to heal, it doesn’t make our grief any easier or help us to cope any differently. We are not just limited to feeling sad, we can feel many different emotions all at once. It’s important to know that they are not bad emotions, they are trying to speak to us just like our body does through our nervous system. Grief is like the ocean waves, emotions come in waves. They are unstoppable, but we can learn to ride them along the way. What is a holistic grief coach? I am a fellow griever and a holistic grief coach in training. As a holistic grief coach, I support you so you feel seen and heard, we develop self-regulation skills, reconnecting with your values, goals and life purpose and help you to reclaim your life. You may have tried other traditional therapies which haven’t worked for you or maybe you haven’t tried any. Sometimes for some of us who have used traditional therapies like counselling there may not be safety or a supported outcome as you talk about your grief and are triggered or re-traumatised. However, in holistic grief coaching we will acknowledge the grief together with resource which will allow your mind, body, spirit and nervous system, safety and compassion. We don’t fix our grief; we acknowledge it and bring awareness and insight to it. Accepting our journey where it is at.

Let’s be kind and compassionate to each other while we grieve the loss of our parent’s. Losing someone is a huge trauma ...
27/04/2026

Let’s be kind and compassionate to each other while we grieve the loss of our parent’s. Losing someone is a huge trauma and in my opinion one of the hardest things we can go through. Whether our parents are old or young, it is a huge shock physically and emotionally when we lose them. Despite whether this is anticipated or not. I don’t think there is enough talk or realisation about just how difficult it is, and how much of an impact this has on us, our bodies and our lives. I mean it would right, but that doesn’t make it easy or ok and we push through our grief unaware just how much of what we go through in daily life after loss is a reaction and response to grief.

Loss is there for us all, all the people left behind and a loss for the person we have lost too, as their time with us is taken. I know sometimes it is easy to get lost in our own grief, life is hard when we lose a parent and there is such a huge contrast to life before and after. And parenting without our parents here is incredibly hard. They are not a phone call away, or a visit away from providing the valuable love and support that they had done. We miss them of course, and we know our children miss them too, especially if they had such an important vital presence with their grandchildren. Then there is losing a parent before they even got to meet your child and that brings a completely different experience, knowing they deserved to meet someone so special and never had the chance.

Knowing all the time they are missing out on now and in the future brings a new kind of sadness and dread. A longing for what should have been. As our grief needs to be witnessed and felt, it is so important that our children feel seen and felt too. As they navigate the loss of someone so very special to them.

Thinking of you navigating this too.
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I may be a qualified Holistic Grief Coach but I am also human and have needed my own support after grief and loss. I’ve ...
24/04/2026

I may be a qualified Holistic Grief Coach but I am also human and have needed my own support after grief and loss. I’ve tried different things including counselling to help. Though there was nothing quite like seeing a Holistic Grief Coach where the focus is on safety. Something which is so important after loss.

Seeing a Holistic Grief Coach not only made me feel safe, it made me feel human again. I felt seen and so was my grief. I was able to connect to parts of me I thought I had lost and connect with parts of me I didn’t know where there when I lost my identity.

This is why I feel blessed to say I am a Holistic Grief Coach and want to help others feel safe to talk about and explore their grief. Finding ways to move forward with awareness and safety, but also love and compassion for ourselves after the trauma and loss we have gone through.

I would love to hear from you if you have any questions about working with me, a Holistic Grief Coach.

22/04/2026

Grief follows us everywhere, whether we want it to or not. It’s always there.

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As with most things, I believe they are deeply personal. What one person uses is so individual and there isn’t a right o...
20/04/2026

As with most things, I believe they are deeply personal. What one person uses is so individual and there isn’t a right or wrong. I know with grief, there is some discussion on using the term ‘healing’. I personally like to use the term healing in my grief and here’s why.

The definition of healing is ‘the process of becoming well or the process in which a bad situation or painful emotion improves. Now, let me be clear. I don’t believe in the word ‘healed’. You will never find me saying I am healed. Because I don’t think we are ever fully healed. Even physically, when we have a scar, we are still left with trauma, nerve damage, visible change to the skin etc. Nothing is ever as it once was.
Emotions live in the body, but as I feel the emotion, name it & recognise where I am holding onto it, only then can I raise awareness in how grief is showing up in my mind and body.

I might use the term healing personally for my own grief, because when we are aware that grief never ends, that we grow around our grief, I believe healing is necessary. It’s not that the grief or emotion is bad, it’s that it needs to be witnessed. We go from learning to survive after the loss of our loved one and we witness & support our grief, looking at how we can support our grief in all aspects of our life, physically, emotionally and in spirit. Making room around it so we can live alongside it. Grief sucks, and we are doing the best that we can do.

I believe we are always healing, in all areas of our life & that is a belief I carry into my own grief journey only.

As a Holistic Grief Coach, I am here to listen to you. I don’t have the answers & you will not hear my beliefs or story in our sessions. While I believe in healing you might not – and that is completely ok. Together we find out and support what you believe, what you need and how you can move forward safely with your grief.

I didn’t always know I would end up being a qualified holistic grief coach. But I believe my journey led me here and in ...
17/04/2026

I didn’t always know I would end up being a qualified holistic grief coach. But I believe my journey led me here and in my heart I felt drawn to take this path and witness and support others who are grieving.

Grief sucks, it’s lonely, life shattering and leaves you in survival mode. Nothing is ever the same, you loose so much along the way, relationships, self worth, identity, safety and every day becomes a battle.

I get it, and I believe no one should have to go through it alone. From my own experiences I understand that just talking about it or even avoiding it, is not enough. Grief lives in our body, we have to listen to it.

With love
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15/04/2026

Grief shows up at the most expected and unexpected times. As a parent without parents here, I know how difficult, lonely and heartbreaking it is to parent without them. Wishing they were just a call away. It isn’t just the special dates and anniversaries but every part of daily life.

I understand how grief is always there. It is everyday but feels really raw when it makes a surprise appearance, on the days when you wish they were here, enjoying the fun and precious time together but instead their absence leaves a heavy mark. It isn’t the same when they are no longer here.

I know from my own experiences that when you are in the thick of grief, it can be easy to look back and question yoursel...
13/04/2026

I know from my own experiences that when you are in the thick of grief, it can be easy to look back and question yourself and how you handled what happened, your loss and how you are coping with what has changed in your world. So this is a gentle reminder to say I hope you are able to feel proud of yourself for how you coped before, during and after loss.

You are still showing up in a world that looks and feels different. You didn’t ask for your loss, you are doing the best you can.

Love to everyone grieving

Gem
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After the funeral is over, it can be so easy for life to go back to normal, and through no real intent life carries on. ...
10/04/2026

After the funeral is over, it can be so easy for life to go back to normal, and through no real intent life carries on. It doesn’t stop. Sometimes it can be hard to know what to say to someone who is grieving, as there is this expectation that grief goes or gets better with time. When that is far from reality.

If you know someone who has lost someone a simple ‘how are you?’ Can feel difficult to answer. A few things I found helpful and kind is simply to have people around who get it, who understand the realities. Who simply tell you they get it, that your not alone and who ask you about your loved one. That way we can continue bringing them into our daily lives and keep their memory alive. That is a few of the things I needed to hear.

Sometimes just being able to witness and support someone in grief is enough, you don’t have to say the right thing, just be present.

What else would you add to the list of things you needed to hear when you lost your loved one?

08/04/2026

In grief it can be harder to fill your cup, especially as we are in survival mode. What is one thing you can do today to fill your cup? X

Any content shared on this platform and all other platforms by me for Gems Guiding Light is my opinion and my own. My co...
02/04/2026

Any content shared on this platform and all other platforms by me for Gems Guiding Light is my opinion and my own. My content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, therapy, or treatment. While these practices may support emotional wellbeing, they are not a replacement for medical or mental health care. Always seek the advice of your doctor, therapist, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. If you are in crisis or experiencing significant distress, please seek immediate support from a healthcare professional or crisis service.

If you have had a loss in your life and experienced grief maybe you have tried therapy & other forms of support. Or mayb...
27/03/2026

If you have had a loss in your life and experienced grief maybe you have tried therapy & other forms of support. Or maybe, like me, you tried for so long to cope on your own. Feeling lonely and too scared to seek support.

Something you may not have heard of or experienced is working through grief in a supportive and safe space with a holistic grief coach. It is not therapy or counselling & so it might be a bit hard to understand what it actually involves. We talk about your grief and how it is impacting your daily life, but safely & in a trauma informed way we allow emotions, create safety & regulation and move forwards together building capacity & healing around your grief & into your life. We look at grief in the body, not just in the words.

If you are interested in the idea of speaking with & working with a holistic grief coach but you have questions, please reach out. As these can often be discussed in our FREE discovery call.

25/03/2026

Grief is messy, it’s hard, it’s lonely and isolating. We can’t walk in each others shoes, we won’t ever feel or experience loss the same, but we have experienced our own. Though it feels so lonely and isolating, we understand and we can relate to grief, the process and all that comes with it. Grief feels so much less lonely when we walk beside each other.

I will walk beside you.
Gem x

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