28/11/2025
Reprogramming the Mind: Understanding the Patterns That Shape Our Reality
From a young age, we begin forming beliefs about how the world works. These beliefs are largely influenced by our parents, our environment, and the experiences we repeat. This early conditioning teaches us what to expect from life — and those expectations, whether positive or negative, often become self-fulfilling.
This is closely connected to the law of attraction: what we focus on tends to expand. As children, we observe patterns — what happens when we act a certain way, how people respond, what situations repeat — and we subconsciously assume that’s how life will always be. Without realising it, we begin programming our minds to expect certain outcomes.
Our parents don’t necessarily teach us this directly, but when they show or tell us “how the world works”, they pass on their own beliefs and limitations. Over time, these become the foundation of our subconscious expectations.
Trauma plays a powerful role in this process. When a painful or frightening experience occurs, it captures our focus completely. We think about it often — trying to avoid it, replaying it, fearing it — and in doing so, we give it energy. Because the subconscious mind and the universe respond to our dominant focus, even fear and avoidance can attract more of what we don’t want.
Similarly, repeated circumstances — whether they’re patterns in relationships, finances or emotions — often persist because we continue to think about them in the same way. When we say things like “this always happens to me”, we reinforce that belief, and the subconscious works to make it true.
The key idea is that our thoughts and attention are creative forces. The subconscious mind doesn’t distinguish between good or bad, wanted or unwanted — it simply creates more of whatever we consistently focus on. To change our lives, we must learn to change our mental focus and break the old patterns of thought that keep us repeating the same experiences.
By
Monika 🩷
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.”― Marcus Aurelius