Michele Willmott

Michele Willmott Couples and Mens Crisis Coach & Mentor for High Achievers. Radically Transform Your Relationship. Creator of the Profound Permission Method®.

Training Select Coaches in Energetic Mastery. Book A Call: https://michelewillmott.as.me/relationshipmentoring Relationship Mentor for Women & Couples. Creating real relationships. Where you feel fully accepted &deeply loved for who you are. No games, no having to hide. Find Michele at http://michelewillmott.co.uk

09/04/2026

Depression & Anxiety can be turned into magnetic energy, which is highly attractive...yes you read that right...

07/04/2026

Here’s what AI will always do, time and time again, despite it being pretty amazing in many ways.
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It will default to the status quo voice every time...and I know this because I work with it to help me refine the language in my work.
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It is not built with nuance in mind, and unless reminded, it cannot provide answers to relationship problems that require precision and nuance.
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I know one person who has used it in her relationship to good effect, and I’m not saying it hasn’t helped people.
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But I also know many others who think the information they’re getting sounds good, and they go on to use the advice…
and it doesn’t actually help their relationship.
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Anything that satisfies the rational mind and supports your case when it comes to something as complex as love…
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needs questioning.
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Because this is the very mind that is often the instigator of self-sabotage in the first place.
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The advice might help you present a better case.
It might help you prove that you are right and your partner is wrong.
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But that is not how this works.
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Truly healthy expression invites connection.
It doesn’t create more separation.
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When you realise you are always playing a role in the dynamic,
you are in a very different position.
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A position where you can create something that far outweighs any ongoing struggle.
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But the trick is not letting the status quo voice run the show.
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That requires a level of intimacy with yourself that most people haven’t been shown how to access.
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Surface creates surface.
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Always.

06/04/2026

Disappointment in lovev isn't something to try and get rid of.

It's something most people misread and then spend months and years reacting from.

They try to manage it but it comes through in their behaviour and words.

Natural magnetism comes online when you know how to use it.

03/04/2026

If you are struggling in your relationship you need to know this...

03/04/2026

If you are struggling in your relationship you need to know this..

There was a time I felt palpable frustration when my husband didn't seem to be able to stay for longer than a couple of ...
31/03/2026

There was a time I felt palpable frustration when my husband didn't seem to be able to stay for longer than a couple of seconds in a kiss.

I was absolutely feeling the absence of masculine presence that so many women are craving.
This wasn't the only way it wasn't showing up.

I thought it was just his issue at the time.

But I soon discovered I was self-sabotaging in ways I could not see.

Keeping the deeper, more connected love at arm's length.

It was a humbling but also a huge relief because it was then I realised I was better placed to do something about it.

Fast forward a whole load of inner work that led to the uncovering of a unique method that 'undoes' triggers like nothing I've ever come across and the situation is vastly different.

Kisses that are held, eye contact that makes us smile, the feeling of being nourished.

And above all deep trust of self and each other.
Open hearts that don't have to force love in the face of lack or pressure but that guarantees a natural desire to come together.

No conversations are too difficult. Sometimes they might be uncomfortable but we go there in the knowledge that it continues to help our love thrive.

Completely priceless and valuable compared to pretty much most things in life.

It's in your hands.
Full permission is required.
Permission to go beyond the mind that you use to make sense of everything...
..because I'm telling you now, that mind is the cause of the most cunning, subtle sabotage that I now know to be very real for the majority of people.

My clients issues demonstrate just a microcosm of what happens in most relationships.

If you want to create a better love Profound Permission® - The Method will make that possible.

My self study programme with live support is on its way. Dm me to be kept in the loop.

I had to rebuild my relationship and my business from the ground up because whatever I seemed to try just didn't shift t...
30/03/2026

I had to rebuild my relationship and my business from the ground up because whatever I seemed to try just didn't shift things.
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And I just went round in circles.
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The same pain and hurt. The same doubts and fear.
Questioning over and over whether either were meant to be.
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Coupled with a horrific menopause, I felt like I was being hugely tested.
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All my certifications in Imago Dialogue, psychotherapy and coaching were not helping. No matter who I signed up to work with for support, I still kept going round in circles.
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And so I started searching online. I was desperate to find an answer.
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I found one article after days of searching that shifted something in me.
In fact it was a huge relief because it reinforced a ni**le I had inside, that surely I was creating this for myself.
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The idea that I was self-sabotaging in ways I just could not see.
And if I was sabotaging, then surely I could do something about it.
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Up until that point I thought I might have to leave. Give everything up.
And I was petrified.
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Now, if I was creating it, then maybe I didn’t have to lose everything after all.
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So I made a decision.
I started working with shadow work more deliberately.
And it did help.
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But it still felt like something was missing.
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I could see some of the patterns more clearly, but the more hidden and cunning forms were far more elusive.
The subtle thoughts that sound normal. The ones that don’t get questioned.
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And this when my own proprietary method began to unfold.
A nuanced method that made me realise that the worst self-sabotage is not in the places you would think to look.
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The more I used it on myself, the less my relationship triggers took over. I started feeling more open, more loving with my husband and he started meeting me in the ways I had wanted to be met. Today I am beyond happy with where we are now.
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In my business I gained more confidence in my work and started to see real changes in my clients' relationships. It gave me the confidence to niche myself at the higher end of the market and increase my prices to reflect the transformation I was helping my clients achieve.
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The results went beyond relationships and many clients started telling me that my method was a game changer for their mental and emotional health.
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One client told me 7 years of OCD had gone after 3 sessions.
Another said “it is brilliant", explaining that it gives an added depth and dimension to how you relate to yourself.
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I decided, as a result, to get my method trademarked officially and knew it was time to get it out there on a wider scale.
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Fast forward to today and The Profound Permission Method® has helped me rebuild on stronger, safer and more magnetic grounds. I knew something felt off about how I was approaching my life and this is the method that uncovers the 'off', makes it seen and felt without dressing it up, bypassing it or explaining it away.
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It is a highly nuanced Shadow to Power Work method, which rather than pathologising uncomfortable feelings, helps you work with them in such a way that activates hidden magnetism and supports more aligned action.
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We are conditioned to self-sabotage more than we realise in very subtle ways.
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All the awareness in the world doesn't help many people because it is that exact mind that is the instigator of the sabotage.
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And the biggest problem is it sounds completely normal and rational.
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I am now offering a 4 month programme for individuals who want to experience this work for themselves and bring it into their life and work.
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This is a journey, at the end of which you receive a licence to use the method in your own private work.
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It includes:
Weekly live calls (to work directly with what’s coming up in real time)
Hot seat coaching
The opportunity to practice with peers
Group support

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If you would like to find out more about the licensing side of the method and have any questions you can book a complimentary call - link to programme details below.

When your partner isn't prioritising you and you start thinking things like:They don’t careI’m the one making the effort...
28/03/2026

When your partner isn't prioritising you and you start thinking things like:

They don’t care
I’m the one making the effort.

You even have the evidence to back this up.

But...big but,

What’s your point?

If this is true then what?

You have to leave?
You’re not enough… or too much?
They might leave?
It's not worth the hassle?

It is this conclusion that starts driving everything without you even realising.

How you speak.
How you feel.
What you assume next.

It might feel justified.

But this is exactly where it all starts to turn against you.

If it's time to turn the tide, my Turning Point experience is the place to start, see link in bio.

If your relationship is in crisis and you want to save it, all the communication tools in the world will not work.Why?Be...
23/03/2026

If your relationship is in crisis and you want to save it, all the communication tools in the world will not work.

Why?

Because the problem goes far deeper than that.

In any relationship crisis there will be multiple unconscious fears that are driving the behaviour and communication, on both sides. These fears end up creating unrecognised self sabotage.

And until the self sabotage, which can be very very subtle, is dismantled the relationship will not change in the way that is needed to ensure its survival.

The good thing about self sabotage is that once you can see how and where it is showing up, you can actually do something about it.

And when the most painful triggers start to be dismantled, they reduce significantly over time. This means far less conflict, far less avoidance, and far less of the reactions that keep you and your partner disconnected and stuck.

If it’s time to turn things around and save your relationship, I offer comprehensive programmes designed to create the exact shifts needed to change the dynamic at its root, so the same patterns stop taking over.

Why does he shut down every time something important comes up?​You try to talk and you stay calm.You explain what you me...
20/03/2026

Why does he shut down every time something important comes up?
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You try to talk and you stay calm.
You explain what you mean.
Or you are vulnerable and take a risk in saying how you feel.
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But somehow he goes quiet, changes the subject, gets defensive
or says he doesn’t want to get into it.
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It really feels like he’s the one blocking the relationship.
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But when the same reaction keeps happening,
it’s never just one person’s pattern.
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Both of you are creating a dynamic that neither of you wants to be in.
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But until you can see what’s actually getting activated in those moments, it keeps looking like the problem is the other person.

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But what’s really driving the reaction never gets looked at.
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And that’s how couples end up going round the same loop for years, even when they love each other and both want it to work.

Two things are crucial here:
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i) Being able to see what is really happening underneath the surface reactions means you are in a far better position to take responsibility for your part. When you can both do this, your relationship will start to course correct.

ii) Being able to work with your trigger inside of yourself means that you shift your state into a more open, loving and compassionate one. This makes it far easier to move towards your partner and for them to do the same. There is simply less threat and pressure present.
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If you aren't having healthy repair conversations and the same triggers keep coming up you are playing a surface game.

Most people settle for this
and this is why so many relationships ends up breaking down.

You simply cannot expect to have a beautiul, deeply loving and intimate relationship when you are not taking full responsibility over the fact that you are always playing a role in the dynamic.

And if you truly want something special, you have to be willing to go deep and do the work.

Why does she turn everything into a problem?You say something simple.You don’t mean anything by it.And suddenly the atmo...
19/03/2026

Why does she turn everything into a problem?

You say something simple.
You don’t mean anything by it.
And suddenly the atmosphere changes.

Now she’s upset, or distant, or questioning what you meant.

After a while it feels like whatever you do, it ends up being wrong.

It's like treading on egg shells.

It’s easy to assume this means she’s too sensitive, or looking for issues.

But what is really happening is much faster than that.

Certain words and behaviours activate a reaction in the nervous system before either of you has time to think.

And once that reaction is there, the conversation stops being about the present and starts being about something older.

Unless you can see what is actually being activated under those reactions, the same dynamic will keep appearing,
just with a different surface issue each time.

This is the level where it’s not enough to understand or talk about the pattern.
The reaction underneath it has to be dismantled in the body,
otherwise the same dynamic keeps happening again and again, causing the same old hurt that gets you to seriously question the relationship.

Private programmes for high achieving couples. Please Dm or book your complimentary call (link to website in comments).

What about… mindset being defunct when it comes to magnetism in your love life?​You do actually do not need your mind to...
17/03/2026

What about… mindset being defunct when it comes to magnetism in your love life?
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You do actually do not need your mind to create this.
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Your body knows what to do.
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In fact it doesn't want the mind meddling because it knows how much it does just that, meddles.
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The mind creates pressure.
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Pressure constricts the relational space.
Pressure creates a lack of safety.
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No-one is going to feel chosen when that's going on.
No-one is going to be super magnetic when that's the name of the game.
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Choose your game wisely.
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And this doesn’t only show up in love.
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The same pressure that kills magnetism in a relationship
is often the same pressure that stops things flowing in the rest of your life.
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Trying harder.
Thinking more.
Holding yourself tightly.
Not feeling safe to let go.
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You can be intelligent, capable and very self-aware
and still be running your life from tension in the body.
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An open mind capable of nuance, precision and insight is hugely useful
BUT you have to dismantle the old conditioning in the body first.
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If you are highly self-aware, capable, and used to holding a lot together, yet still feel pressure, tension or lack of ease in love,
and in other areas of life too you are not lacking mindset...
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You are running old conditioning in the body.
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6 week Private 1:1. DM for details.

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Mentor for Couples, Men & Women

To become a magnet for what you truly want in Love & Life, it is essential to take a stand for your desires & fully align yourself with your values & standards.

This involves a commitment to taking full responsibility for the thoughts, feelings & behaviours that you show up with on a consistent basis.

Once you an do this you will realise that you have EVERYTHING you need within you to create exactly what you want & MORE!

The only thing that has been holding you back so far.... ​will be the fact that you have given your fear & resistance more power than yourself.