Teen Therapist Rachael Martin

06/03/2026

Teenage Sons... bit of a minefield right 🤔

I had the pleasure of speaking with Jason Dean from A Band Of Brothers Crawley & Men Share Listening Group Crawley about parenting teenage sons!

This episode could in all honesty have been 12 episodes as there is a lot too this but in just over 30 mins Jason shares his experience and expertise in working with young men and teenage boys from working with the 2 above awesome groups... he also shares some of his own parenting journey too!

Thank you Jason for your time, such a cracking episode!!

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05/03/2026

When your son snaps, slams doors, or gives attitude…

Look underneath.
Teen boys are rarely just angry. 😡
They’re overwhelmed and don’t know how to say it. 😟

Instead of: “Why are you so disrespectful?”

First Try Listening with EMPATHY

Consider what today, this week, this month has been like for your son?

If you had lived through that experience... How would it feel? ...NOT in your shoes but in your SONS shoes... with his priorities, his beliefs and his values!

Be in his team... not agreeing or judging along with the rest of the world!

Anger is an emotional response that usually hides another... what is that for your son?

And not forgetting the ever important... Where might he have learnt this? If you think it could be partly from you get working with that...and speak with him about how you know its not simple...because you have done the same. Not shame, blame or guilt... more understanding and EMPATHY for what's going on INSIDE!

Its easier to calm down when you feel understood — not controlled or judged.

In my conversation with Jason Dean, we break down why boys default to anger and how parents can approach this and use a sense of belonging to give your sons a grounding place to learn control.

This one is an important one!

Go listen.

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05/03/2026

🥳 No World Book day!!! Wahoo!!! 🥳

You have to sn**ch every little win when raising teenagers!!! 😃👏👏

02/03/2026

Teen boys don’t need harsher discipline.

They need stronger leadership.

Here are 3 actionable shifts:
1️⃣ Regulate yourself first.
If your voice rises, his defenses go up. Pause before responding. Lower your tone. Slow your pace.
2️⃣ Respect before Advice
Embarrassment builds distance. Advice secretly says "you can not do this" Respect builds influence and your ever important relationship.
3️⃣ Believe in his capability.
Call out who he’s becoming.
Instead of “Why would you do that?” try:
“That’s not the kind of man you’re becoming.”
Boys rise to identity.

If you want the deeper breakdown — I unpack it in my episode with Jason Dean.

🎧 Go listen. It will change how you parent your son!

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27/02/2026

🎧 Supporting Teenage Sons - New Episode

Jason Dean from A Band Of Brothers and Men Share Listening group shares his expertise in ways to support teenage sons.

You’ll walk away with fresh perspectives, practical tips, and a deeper understanding of how to support your teenage son.

Listen here

https://open.spotify.com/show/69N5WjQ13d2yQ54gfaUiyw

More info on A Band Of Brothers work and to contact Jason here is their page!!

22/02/2026

19/02/2026

Here is something freeing:
Most parenting mistakes don’t come from lack of love…
They come from nervous system reactions.
When we feel triggered, we reach for control.
But control often fuels the very behaviour we’re trying to stop.
Regulated parenting isn’t permissive.
It’s leadership.
And it is a skill — not a personality trait.
If learning how to stay calm in hard moments is something you want more of…
🎧 The newest episode is waiting for you.

18/02/2026

This is why I do what I do! 🥰

He was an awesome client and it was a privalidge to work with him!

17/02/2026

Parents often try to reason with a teen who is emotionally flooded.
But logic cannot reach a nervous system in fight-or-flight.
Instead:
✔️ Sit down
✔️ Soften your voice & face
✔️ Say less
✔️ Validate & understand first
Then — problem solve later.

I go deeper into exactly how to stop emotional spirals in my new Podcast episode.
🎧 It’s one every parent should hear.

https://open.spotify.com/show/69N5WjQ13d2yQ54gfaUiyw

12/02/2026

Most parents think anger is the problem.
But anger is often just anxiety with nowhere else to go.
And here’s the hard truth…
Children release their biggest emotions where they feel safest.
Yes — that usually means you.
Inside this week’s podcast episode, I walk you through:
✔️ What’s really happening in those explosive moments
✔️ How to stop taking it personally
✔️ One powerful question that can instantly de-escalate conflict
If you’ve ever walked away from a parenting moment feeling hurt — this episode will feel like exhaling.
🎧 Go listen now
https://open.spotify.com/show/69N5WjQ13d2yQ54gfaUiyw

03/02/2026

When we listen before we advise

and stay curious instead of urgent,

we send a powerful message to anxious teens:

You are enough — even when you don’t feel like you belong yet.

More on this in the new Parenting Teen Podcast episode

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