Corry Fawcett Therapy

Corry Fawcett Therapy MNCPS Accredited Psychotherapeutic Counsellor to individuals and couples • Gay Adoptive Mum to one • Crisp Lover to a multi pack
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🖤 🤍 BLACK & WHITE THINKING🤍 🖤It can feel so convincing...When we’re overwhelmed, tired, or hurting, our minds often reac...
06/03/2026

🖤 🤍 BLACK & WHITE THINKING🤍 🖤

It can feel so convincing...

When we’re overwhelmed, tired, or hurting, our minds often reach for certainty.

Suddenly things become all good or all bad, always or never. It’s a very human way of trying to feel safe when life feels too much.

But most of our real, lived experience sits gently in the grey, the place where nuance, context, and compassion live.

Noticing black‑and‑white thinking isn’t about correcting or criticising ourselves. It’s more like placing a warm hand on our own shoulder and asking:

- “Is there a softer truth here?”
- “What else might be possible?”
- “If I eased this thought just a little, what would open up?”

The grey isn’t vague or weak. It’s spacious. It gives us room to breathe, to choose, and to meet ourselves with kindness.

If this feels familiar, you’re in good company. Many of us move in and out of this pattern, especially under stress. And with awareness and support, it can shift.
🖤🤍
A little more grey can be a gentler place.

🌈 As LGBTQ+ History Month comes to a close…🏳️‍⚧️Tomorrow marks the final day of LGBTQ+ History Month, and as part of the...
27/02/2026

🌈 As LGBTQ+ History Month comes to a close…🏳️‍⚧️

Tomorrow marks the final day of LGBTQ+ History Month, and as part of the community myself, I’ve been reflecting on what this month often brings up, not just personally, but in the stories and experiences people share with me.

This month isn’t only about the well‑known activists or the landmark moments (though they matter deeply). It’s also about the quieter histories that shape who we are: the small acts of courage, the relationships that helped us feel seen, the moments we chose honesty even when it meant loss, and the communities that held us when the world didn’t.

For many LGBTQ+ people, this month can stir up a mix of pride, tenderness, grief, hope, and everything in between. All of it is valid. Our histories are layered, complex, and deeply human.

As we move beyond February, my hope is that the spirit of this month continues, that people feel able to live truthfully, to be met with respect, and to stay connected to a community that has always found ways to survive, create, and love.

To everyone within the LGBTQ+ community, and to those who support it: your history is living, evolving, and is deeply valued.

Thank you for reading, for being here ♥️

🌈 Corry 🏳️‍⚧️

💗 HAD TO GET THROUGH IT ALONE💗It’s not always the event itself that stays with us, sometimes it’s the fact that we had t...
25/02/2026

💗 HAD TO GET THROUGH IT ALONE💗

It’s not always the event itself that stays with us, sometimes it’s the fact that we had to get through it on our own.

When there’s no space to process something at the time, the mind and body still try to deal with it.

That can show up later in ways that don’t always make obvious sense, like feeling on edge, shutting down, overthinking, or reacting more strongly than you’d like.

These responses aren’t random, and they’re not a sign that something is “wrong” with you. They’re patterns that developed for a reason, even if they’re no longer helpful now.

Part of the work we do together is slowing things down enough to notice those patterns and understand where they come from.

From there, it becomes possible to respond differently, in ways that feel more manageable and more like you.

If any of this feels familiar, you’re not the only one who experiences it.

Sending loving vibes 🧡

Thank you Ruth 🙂
24/02/2026

Thank you Ruth 🙂

🌿 “I'LL JUST DO IT … ” 🌿"...I don't want to upset anyone"Sound familiar? You offer to help, smile through discomfort, or...
22/02/2026

🌿 “I'LL JUST DO IT … ” 🌿

"...I don't want to upset anyone"

Sound familiar?

You offer to help, smile through discomfort, or say “sorry” one too many times because keeping others happy feels safer than speaking your truth.

Pete Walker (author and therapist specializing in complex trauma) calls this FAWNING.

The term comes from observing animal behaviour, specifically how some animals, like deer or dogs, will display submissive, overly friendly, or appeasing behaviours when they feel threatened. It’s a survival strategy to reduce the risk of harm by trying to please or appease a stronger or more threatening presence.

Fawning is a survival response that our nervous system learned when we needed to stay safe.

💛 Why we fawn:

Often, it comes from growing up in situations where:

* Speaking your feelings might have led to anger, criticism, or rejection.

* Your needs were overlooked or dismissed.

* Putting others first was a way to survive emotionally.

🌱 How it shows up in daily life:

• Agreeing to do extra work even though you’re drained.

• Laughing at jokes that make you uncomfortable.

• Smiling and nodding while hiding resentment.

• Cancelling your plans to meet someone else’s.

• Saying “sorry” for things that aren’t your fault.

🌿 Tender ways to start healing:

✨ Notice your patterns – pause when you feel compelled to say “yes” out of fear.

✨ Check in with your body – tension, shallow breathing, or a racing heart can signal fawning.

✨ Practice small “no’s” – start in low-stakes situations or with trusted friends.

✨ Set gentle boundaries – they remind you that your needs matter too.

✨ Validate yourself – your feelings are real and deserving of respect.

✨ Seek support – friends, groups, or a therapist who can help you practice authenticity.

✨ Be patient and compassionate – unlearning a survival skill takes time, and that’s okay.

Remember: fawning is not a flaw, it’s a survival skill that can transform into self-respect, authentic connection, and a life where your voice matters. 💛

Thank you for reading, Corry.

🤔"YOU’VE CHANGED."🤔Has anyone ever said that to you?Or said it about you to someone else?Did anyone ask you why, with ge...
22/02/2026

🤔"YOU’VE CHANGED."🤔

Has anyone ever said that to you?

Or said it about you to someone else?

Did anyone ask you why, with genuine care and curiosity?

And did you quietly think to yourself…

Yes. I've changed...
I grew.
I healed.
I set boundaries.
I stopped shrinking myself to make others comfortable.

I changed because I’m learning to find happiness within myself.

I changed because I did the work.

I faced the hard things.

I outgrew the version of me that accepted less than I deserved.

Do you say - now I choose to spend time with people who feel safe, people who accept me as I am, who support my growth, encourage my healing, and want the best for me.

Sometimes 'YOU"VE CHANGED" is said with judgment, not understanding - change is often a sign of growth not something going wrong.

It can mean:
• You’ve started setting boundaries
• You’re no longer abandoning yourself
• You’re healing from things you once had to survive
• You’re choosing relationships that feel safer and more supportive

Change can feel uncomfortable, not just for you, but for the people who were used to an earlier version of you.

And not everyone will understand it.

But growth isn’t about staying the same to keep others comfortable. It’s about becoming more aligned with who you truly are.

You’re allowed to grow.

You’re allowed to change.

You’re allowed to take up space in your own life.

So ask yourself - if I’ve changed…
Is it because I finally chose me❓

I'm happy you're here ❣️

❣️ PHOTOS OF CHANGE ❣️Looking at this collage, I see many versions of me, different ages, different chapters, different ...
21/02/2026

❣️ PHOTOS OF CHANGE ❣️

Looking at this collage, I see many versions of me, different ages, different chapters, different life experiences.

And yet… the same smile.

It makes me pause and wonder... how much do we really change?

Life shapes us in countless ways.

We grow
We adapt
We heal
We learn

Some parts of us evolve beyond recognition, while others remain quietly constant, like threads woven through every stage of our lives.

When I look at these photos, I find myself crying… but they are tears of love 🥰

Love for each version of me, for her strength, her resilience, her courage, and for the way she has carried me, step by step, to where I am today.

That smile in each photo reminds me that even through change, something essential stays the same.

In psychotherapeutic counselling, we often explore both of these truths:

✨ the parts of you that are ready to change

✨ and the parts of you that have always been there, waiting to be seen, understood, and accepted

Maybe growth isn’t about becoming someone completely new…

Maybe it’s about coming home to yourself, gently, in your own time.

I wonder if you might take a moment today to reflect:

❓ What has changed in you and what has stayed the same❓

❓ Are you kind to every version of yourself that got you here ❓

I know for me, that kindness didn’t always come naturally. It’s been something I’ve chosen to learn, slowly and gently over time.

✨ Learning to soften the way I speak to myself.

✨ Learning to meet myself with compassion instead of criticism.

✨ Learning to offer love to the parts of me that needed it most.

Thank you for reading this and I hope it brings something gentle or helpful to you 🧡

🎹 TRYING SOMETHING NEW 🎹Trying something new can feel uncomfortable… even a little scary.That makes sense because our br...
20/02/2026

🎹 TRYING SOMETHING NEW 🎹

Trying something new can feel uncomfortable… even a little scary.

That makes sense because our brains are wired to keep us safe, not necessarily to help us grow.

But growth often lives just outside of our comfort zone...in the challenge zone!

Lately, I’ve been noticing something in myself.

I’d love to learn to play the piano… and yet, I keep avoiding it.

Not because I don’t care but because of those familiar thoughts:

✨ “What if I get it wrong?”
✨ “What if I’m not any good?”
✨ “Shouldn’t I be better at this already?”
✨ "They'll laugh at me"

Even as a therapist, I’m not immune to the pull of self-doubt or avoidance. In fact, it’s something I sit with both personally and alongside my clients.

Avoidance can feel protective in the moment, but it can also keep us stuck and disconnected from things that might bring us joy, growth, or meaning.

So this is my gentle reminder, to myself and to you:

You don't have to hide your self doubt, you can name it.

You don’t have to be good at something to begin.

You’re allowed to be a beginner.

You’re allowed to try, imperfectly.

What’s something you’ve been avoiding that a part of you is curious about?

Maybe this is the week we take one small step towards it 🌱

Sending love 🧡

I find this article on vicarious trauma interesting - you might too...
20/02/2026

I find this article on vicarious trauma interesting - you might too...

🟡 GROUNDING TIP 🟡Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or scattered?Here’s a grounding exercise you can try using your imaginati...
19/02/2026

🟡 GROUNDING TIP 🟡

Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or scattered?

Here’s a grounding exercise you can try using your imagination to help your mind and body feel more present.

The Red → Purple → Yellow Bouncy Ball Exercise

1️⃣ Start with a Red Ball
Close your eyes (if comfortable) and imagine a solid red ball in front of you.
Notice its size, shape, and texture. Is it smooth, soft, or shiny?

2️⃣ Shift to a Purple Ball
Imagine the ball slowly changing to a rich purple.
Observe the colour and any changes in how it feels in your mind.

3️⃣ Transform into a Yellow Bouncy Ball
Now imagine it turning bright yellow and bouncing lightly.
Feel the gentle energy as it springs and moves. Imagine catching it or letting it bounce higher.

4️⃣ Engage Your Senses
Notice the imagined sound as it hits the ground.
Feel the rhythm, the movement, and how your body reacts.
Let yourself focus on this ball and its motion for a few breaths.

5️⃣ Return to Awareness
Let the ball rest in your mind.
Take a deep breath and notice your body and surroundings.

Feel how your mind and body may feel calmer and more present.

❓Why this helps:

🟡 Shifting focus to a simple object anchors you in the present moment.

🟣 Changing colours and adding movement keeps your attention engaged and reduces anxious spirals.

🧡 The bouncing adds a sense of control and gentle energy, helping your body and mind feel connected.

Try it whenever your thoughts feel overwhelming or you need a quick moment to ground yourself.

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🧡TENDERNESS🧡Tenderness is easy to overlook.We can often think strength means pushing through, ignoring the ache, or hold...
19/02/2026

🧡TENDERNESS🧡

Tenderness is easy to overlook.

We can often think strength means pushing through, ignoring the ache, or holding ourselves together at all costs.

But real strength sometimes looks quiet.

It looks like noticing the part of you that’s been overlooked, the part that still carries old hurt.

It’s letting yourself feel what you’ve been avoiding, not to dwell, but to truly see it.

Tenderness is pausing in the middle of a busy day to breathe and whisper to yourself: “It’s okay. You’re allowed to feel this. You don’t have to fix it all at once.”

It’s listening to your own story with patience, giving space to the soft, vulnerable pieces, and letting them exist alongside the resilient, capable parts of you.

And here’s the surprising part: when we treat ourselves with tenderness, we open a quiet doorway to change.

Healing doesn’t come from force or rushing. It comes from gentle attention, from presence, from saying, “I see you, and I’ll hold you carefully while you find your way.”

Tenderness is not weakness.

Tenderness is courage 💛

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Creative Infusions Music Education CIME 189 Newland Avenue Hull
Kingston Upon Hull
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