01/03/2026
I feel like I’m screaming underwater, and all anyone else sees is bubbles. Does that feel familiar?
At that point in my life, I was in survival mode. I didn’t feel seen. I didn’t feel appreciated. I didn’t feel part of a team. I felt like I was the team — utterly exhausted in ways words can’t capture.
Since childhood, I had learned to manage my own emotions. But when our feelings aren’t acknowledged, we often don’t learn how to ask for help.
Asking for help could mean shame, dismissal, or punishment — messages passed down through generations:
• “It’s not a big deal.”
• “You wait till your dad gets home.”
• “You’re so lazy.”
• “Because I said so.”
• “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to
cry about.”
• “After everything I do for you…”
These statements weren’t just words; they shaped how I saw myself. And like many adults, I internalised them. The critical voice in my head often sounding like mine, when really it was a tape from the past.
You are allowed to turn off that noise.
You are allowed to make space for yourself.
You are allowed to learn new ways — to reparent yourself for the needs you deserved all along.
Self-compassion isn’t just kind; it helps regulate our nervous system, ease anxiety, and quiet the hypervigilance that makes us read every room before speaking, rehearse scenarios before they happen, or jump at sudden movements.
Sometimes the weight we carry is quiet, invisible, and hard to put into words. Therapy offers a compassionate space to come up for air, untangle what feels overwhelming, and make sense of the patterns you’ve learned. With patience and care, you can respond to yourself with the same gentleness you offer others. Healing often begins with learning to name your needs without blame.
Even if you’re simply curious, get in touch with me and let’s chat. Initial free consultation available to explore whatever may be coming up for you.
Much love,
Ezzy
