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PFV Counselling Hello, My name is Paula Fox-Valsler and I am an Outdoor Holistic Counsellor and Empowerment Coach.

💫When You’re Wondering What It All Means…💫Have you ever had those moments where you stop and think; “What’s the point of...
13/11/2025

💫When You’re Wondering What It All Means…💫

Have you ever had those moments where you stop and think;

“What’s the point of all this?”

As if life suddenly zooms out and everything feels kind of meaningless or just not right? Yup..? Well, that people is the dreaded existential crisis.

Don’t worry, it’s not as dramatic as it sounds. It’s something most of us go through at some point in our lives. It’s that period where you start questioning things like: Who am I really? What do I actually want? Why does everything feel so… empty?

These feelings usually show up when life is shifting... Maybe you’ve lost something important, started something new, or maybe you've hit a point where the “old” version of your life doesn’t fit anymore. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s also your mind’s way of saying, “Hey, let’s pause and figure out what really matters.”

💬 Here are a few gentle things to keep in mind:

You’re not crazy for feeling lost, it’s part of being human.

Meaning isn’t something you find once and keep forever. It changes as you do.

You don’t have to have all the answers right now. Small steps, like doing something kind, talking to someone, or just sitting outside for a bit, can sometimes help.

Talking with a counsellor or a good friend can make a big difference. Sometimes saying things out loud helps them make more sense.

💫 Just remember, you haven’t lost your path, you’re just rewriting it. 💫

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What did the world teach you about pleasure when you were growing up?As adults, pleasure can be complicated. We go throu...
11/11/2025

What did the world teach you about pleasure when you were growing up?

As adults, pleasure can be complicated.

We go through life with so many beliefs around pleasure. But pleasure is natural and its available to you in almost every moment of every day if you allow yourself to open up to it.

We are all born with an inherent understanding and desire for pleasure. As children we would seek out touch, new textures, new sensations and new experiences without apology. But as we grow into adults, our relationship with pleasure changes. It almost becomes conditional.

So have a think, what's your relationship like with pleasure?

▪️What beliefs do you hold around personal pleasure?
▪️Is it conditional?
▪️Does it feel luxurious?
▪️Is it attached to guilt or shame?
▪️Does it leave you feeling uncomfortable?
▪️Would you like to feel more pleasure? If yes, how?

Allow yourself to get curious here. When was the last time you experienced real pleasure?

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📷 Yuri Krupenin

**Scenes like this bring me pleasure**

03/11/2025

Monday Musings.

On that list of things to do, make sure you put down to do something nice for yourself.

Self Care: It's not selfish. It's necessary.

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🗑 Yup, chuck them in the bin!And you know why you should chuck those shoulds in the bin? Because they don't belong to yo...
03/11/2025

🗑 Yup, chuck them in the bin!

And you know why you should chuck those shoulds in the bin? Because they don't belong to you and the weight of their expectations are not serving you.

When you're investing time in those "Shoulds," you're not investing in your own inner wisdom.

You get to write the script of your life. You get to decide what does and doesn't work for you.

Next time you hear yourself saying the word "Should," just take a moment to check in with yourself and ask,

"Who does this should belong to?"

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28/10/2025

Intuition vs. Anxiety

Ever notice how your inner voice speaks in two very different ways?

▪︎ Intuition speaks in calm statements, like;

- “This doesn’t feel right.”
- “I know I can handle this.”
- “It’s time to move on.”

▪︎Anxiety speaks in endless questions, like;

-“What if something goes wrong?”
-“Am I making a mistake?”
-“What hen you’re unsure which voice to trust, pay attention to how it speaks — not just what it says.

Intuition is steady, grounded, and confident.
Anxiety is loud, doubtful, and restless.

Take a deep breath, get quiet, and listen.
Your intuition doesn’t shout — it simply knows.

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27/10/2025

Monday Musings.

Are you a multi tasker? Then try this simple hack.

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🍂 Autumn Feels & the Art of Hibernation 🍁Is anyone else feeling that pull to slow down lately? The darker mornings, long...
22/10/2025

🍂 Autumn Feels & the Art of Hibernation 🍁

Is anyone else feeling that pull to slow down lately? The darker mornings, longer evenings, cooler air, and endless cups of tea are calling for a little seasonal hibernation.

And you know what?
That’s absolutely okay.
We’re not meant to be “on” all year round. Just like nature, we go through seasons too — times of growth and energy, and times when rest and reflection are what we need most.

So if you find yourself craving more sleep, cosy nights in, quiet weekends, or just fewer plans — listen to that. Rest isn’t laziness, it’s your body’s way of rebalancing and re-energising.

✨ Wrap up in a blanket, light a candle, breathe.
✨ Let go of the pressure to “do more.”
✨ Give yourself permission to simply be.

Autumn reminds us that slowing down can be beautiful too. 🌙

How’s everyone feeling as the season shifts? Anyone else in hibernation mode already?

📷 Mariya Kruglova 🦊

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20/10/2025

Monday Musings - learning to befriend the gremlin on your shoulder.

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Inner Child Healing Inside each of us lives a younger part, our “inner child.” This is the part that remembers what it f...
01/10/2025

Inner Child Healing

Inside each of us lives a younger part, our “inner child.” This is the part that remembers what it felt like to be small, needing comfort, safety, and love. Sometimes, when those needs weren’t fully met in childhood, pieces of that hurt or longing stay with us. They can show up later in life as feelings of not being enough, struggles in relationships, or patterns we can’t seem to break.

Inner child healing is about gently reconnecting with that younger self. In counselling, we create a safe space where you can:

Listen to what your inner child is feeling or needing.

Offer comfort to the parts of you that may have felt unseen or unheard.

Practice self kindness and learn how to “re-parent” yourself with the care and support you deserved back then.

Bring healing so those old wounds don’t have to keep shaping your present.

This work isn’t about blaming the past. It’s about giving yourself the compassion and nurturing you may have missed, so you can feel more whole, balanced, and free today.

It can play a huge part within your counselling journey, and although it can sometimes feel overwhelming, it is often a crucial part of a person's growth enabling them to function and respond from a more adult place.

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📷 Alexander Milov

29/09/2025

Monday Musings...

"We often forget that WE ARE NATURE. Nature is not something separate from us. So when we say that we have lost our connection to nature, we’ve lost our connection to ourselves."
~ Andy Goldsworthy ~

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Welcome to the next season change, Autumn.We've just welcomed in the Autumn Equinox, where both day and night are equal....
23/09/2025

Welcome to the next season change, Autumn.

We've just welcomed in the Autumn Equinox, where both day and night are equal.

Let this change in season reflect your own life.
•Do you need to create more balance?
•Do you need to let go of what no longer serves you? •Do you need to shed the old version of you and spend time nurturing and nourishing what is yet to come?

Autumn is a time where traditionally, people would be taking stock of their lives and preparing for change.

Change can sometimes feel scary, that feeling of letting go and surrending into the unknown can feel overwhelming. But we must learn to trust the process of change and know that these feelings will pass. Just like the seasons, we too go through different cycles in life.

I encourage you to look at how your life is reflecting the cycles of change.

🍂 What do you feel you're ready to let go of?

🍂 What's no longer serving you?

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22/09/2025

Monday Musings - How are you showing up in situations that ruffle your feathers or negatively impact your life?

The difference between reacting and responding could be life changing for some people, and here's what it can look like;

Reactions are often based in the moment, are driven by emotion, are often aggressive, and fuel disagreement, triggering psychological responses in the body such as increased heart rate or sweating.
A response is a well thought out action that may result in a positive outcome and can leave your body feeling calmer and mind clearer.

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