12/02/2026
I used to judge my own uncertainty and insecurity in pregnancy and mothering. I felt I should know. I took it as a sign of my not good enoughness.
And then I realised my not knowing wasn't in the way, it was showing me the way.
It is a pathway to awareness. Of the ideals I have been clinging onto, the shoulds I have outgrown. The patterns and beliefs that keep unfolding through these new layers.
One of my teachers, introduced me to the idea of โgrowing downโ. Which is so apt for these seasons of pregnancy, birth and mothering that invite us to dive deeper into the ground of who we are. To emerge as a truer, more authentic - often messier - version of ourselves.
When you feel the unknown rising, here is a practice to explore:
๐ Where do I feel this in my body?
๐ What are the sensations?
๐ Breathe into them, notice what happens.
๐ Explore moving, journaling, drawing, painting from this space - give your uncertainty a creative expression.
๐ Reflect on any beliefs or thoughts that come up.
๐ Is there a message here for you? What are you ready to shed? What do you desire to create? Let uncertainty be your guide.
What are you, or have you held onto in motherhood that no longer fits? How did you know? Let me know in the comments.