Reach Out Therapy

01/03/2024

So guys I was asked to do a pod cast for struggle to strength! This about my journey from my struggle, trauma, sexual abuse, addiction, drugs! To freedom and recovery!

Robbie uses his experiences to connect with and support veterans facing similar challenges. His work at Tom Harrison House embodies compassion and understanding, drawing from his journey to inspire and aid those on their path to recovery.

Robbie also discusses how music and Dj'ing is a huge part of his life, and how that has been a massive part of his journey.

Robbie's story, shared on the 10th episode of 'From Struggle 2 Strength', is not just a testament to personal triumph but a powerful message of hope, illustrating how the depths of struggle can forge unbreakable strength and purpose.

Robbie uses his experiences to connect with and support veterans facing similar challenges. His work at Tom Harrison House embodies compassion and understanding, drawing from his journey to inspire and aid those on their path to recovery. Rob...

11/01/2023

The Four Adult Attachment Styles in Relationships

When it comes to relationships, attachment styles play a significant role in the way individuals interact with their partners and perceive themselves within the relationship. An individual's attachment style is formed in early childhood and can be carried into adulthood, influencing the way they form and maintain intimate relationships.

Secure Attachment Style:
* Positive view of self and others
* Can trust and depend on others
* Comfortable with intimacy and independence
* Able to regulate emotions effectively

Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style:
* Negative view of self
* High levels of anxiety in relationships
* Struggle with trusting others
* Need constant reassurance

Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style:
* Negative view of others
* Independence is highly valued
* Difficulty with intimacy and emotional connection
* May suppress or minimise feelings

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style:
* Negative view of self and others
* Desire for intimacy, but fear of being rejected or abandoned
* Difficulty with trusting and relying on others
* May suppress or minimise feelings to avoid vulnerability

It's important to note that attachment styles are not fixed and can change over time with different life experiences and relationships. It's possible for an individual to move from one attachment style to another, and it's also possible to have a combination of attachment styles.

In conclusion, understanding one's attachment style and that of their partner can help improve communication and strengthen the relationship. It's important to be aware of one's own tendencies and to work on becoming more secure in their attachment style to foster healthy, fulfilling relationships.

05/10/2022

Hey, strong woman, and a strong man both have strong personal boundaries. What does this mean this means they respect themselves enough to not allow themselves to be treated in a bad way by another human being! Holding respect love and integrity for themselves. Loving themselves in a way, that is not egotistical, but kind and respectful, having healthy boundaries is the strongest thing anybody can do for themselves. It’s simply means you love yourself enough to not be treated in a bad way by anybody and having the strength to be able to hold that boundary and walk away. If anybody else does that to you, harm could be caused in many different ways, emotionally, putting people down constantly making them feel worthless unlovable, physically by abusing that person, physically hitting smacking, punching, controlling, not allowing that person to be who they really want to be, financially abusing withholding money and sexually abusing making the person engage in sexual act they don’t want to do. Being strong, is simply being afraid and having courage not to be treated that way by anyone!

26/07/2022

PTSD, TRAUMA, RECOVERY!

On the 24th July 1982 at 1am in the morning my life changed forever! I was 11years old, I woke up to my mum horrifically screaming, her screaming still haunts me today! Feeling scared, I got out of bed and went to the top of the landing to look down stairs, I saw neighbours from next door in the hallway and I asked why is my mum crying, they told
Me to go to bed, that she was having a bad dream! I new something was wrong, but was dismissed. I eventually got down stairs, to witnesses a doctor sedating my mum and my dad crying! I’d never seen my dad cry. My stomach was doing somersaults. My heart was bounding and I was consumed with panic, the house was full of neighbours I get asking what was wrong and nobody would tell me! I was sent back to bed, later a auntie arrived and told me, your brother david is dead, he’s gone to heaven and I needed to be good and go back to sleep otherwise it would make my mum Ill.
The next day The house was completely different my mum was emotionally unavailable lost in her head and my dad was drinking! I remember being sent with my younger nephew to go to the doctors for a prescription. I remember the walk people
Was stirring at us, the man who sold the echo was shouting, murder at the rocket! That day I witnessed lots of police searching bushes, near the doctors which I now know was close to the murder scene!
Life just changed if a split second and it would never go back! I remember the music, being played at the time, Survivor eye of the tiger! Dexys midnight runners, come on Eileen. Yazoo, don’t go. The kids from Fame, Michael Jackson, Billie Jean.
I remember my sister, cleaning the house and spraying, lavender air freshener,
and Gladiola flowers being delivered.

This is my TRAUMA!!….. and it always will be! I had to learn to except it, understand it and learn how to self sooth it. I can be triggered at any time!
If you asked me what happed 3 days ago and I’d struggle to tell you! But trauma feels surreal like your if a dream you can’t get out, it’s like your watching it in slow motion it’s imprinted in your mind!

PTSD can be triggered at any time through your senses! So if I hear one of those track on the radio or I see gladiola flowers or smell lavender. I can suddenly be triggered back to that terrified 11 year old boy in complete panic!

I struggled for years, I thought it was normal, to think, feel and behave the way I did. I picked up many unhelpful self destructive coping strategies on my journey to recovery. Drink, drugs, I became controlling, manipulative and was dishonest pushing my love ones away! Through talk therapy, grounding, mindfulness, and Breathwork and personal self development, I have learnt better and more helpful, less destructive ways to manage my
Trauma.

If you have suffered trauma and your struggling! Don’t do it alone and in silence, seek help and support so you can learn to understand it, except it and work with it!

Later this week I will release a mix marking my brothers 40th anniversary of his death with all the music I inherited and helped that scared, petrified little boy escape his reality.

Please re- share this message of hope!

17/07/2022

Feeling humbled and massively connected on their retreat working alongside these courageous, brave men fighting for there lives! Helping them reframe their PTSD and complex trauma

14/07/2022

classic Simpsons of somebody who is suffering with past trauma!
please re-share this post and keep raising awareness for mental health.


***deprevention

17/05/2022

You are far more powerful than you know.

Unhealed and unresolved trauma stops you from taking what’s in your mind’s eye and making it real.

Isolation and trying to do it alone reinforces all the beliefs formed earlier in life that think it’s not possible.

It takes courage and persistence to do your inner work consistently, but the rewards of the trauma work are massive.

Keep it up and know this: you can be, do or have anything.

Heal any part of you that disagrees.

And remember that getting started is one of the best ways to begin to heal.

Remember to get out there, take action and make it real!

01/03/2022

Are you a victim of childhood emotional abuse? Do you struggle to form meaningful adult relationships?
can help

Types of emotional abuse
Emotional abuse includes:

humiliating or constantly criticising a child
threatening, shouting at a child or calling them names
making the child the subject of jokes, or using sarcasm to hurt a child
blaming and scapegoating
making a child perform degrading acts
not recognising a child's own individuality or trying to control their lives
pushing a child too hard or not recognising their limitations
exposing a child to upsetting events or situations, like domestic abuse or drug taking
failing to promote a child's social development
not allowing them to have friends
persistently ignoring them
being absent
manipulating a child
never saying anything kind, expressing positive feelings or congratulating a child on successes
never showing any emotions in interactions with a child, also known as emotional neglect.

29/01/2022

THIS IS BEAUTIFUL! TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT ❤️

my brain and
heart divorced

a decade ago

over who was
to blame about
how big of a mess
I have become

eventually,
they couldn't be
in the same room
with each other

now my head and heart
share custody of me

I stay with my brain
during the week

and my heart
gets me on weekends

they never speak to one another, instead, they give me the same note to pass to each other every week and their notes they send to one another always says the same thing:

"This is all your fault"

On Sundays my heart complains about how my
head has let me down in the past and on Wednesday my head lists all of the times my
heart has screwed things up for me in the future
they blame each other for the state of my life.
There's been a lot of yelling and crying so,
lately, I've been spending a lot of time with my gut who serves as my unofficial therapist

most nights, I sneak out of the window in my ribcage and slide down my spine and collapse on my gut's plush leather chair that's always open for me and I just sit sit sit sit until the sun comes up.

last evening, my gut asked me if I was having a hard time being caught between my heart and my head

I nodded, I said I didn't know if I could live with
either of them anymore "my heart is always sad about something that happened yesterday
while my head is always worried
about something that may happen tomorrow,"
I lamented my gut squeezed my hand.

"I just can't live with
my mistakes of the past
or my anxiety about the future,"
I sighed

my gut smiled and said:

"in that case, you should go stay with your
lungs for a while,"

I was confused, the look on my face gave it away
"if you are exhausted about
your heart's obsession with
the fixed past and your mind's focus
on the uncertain future

your lungs are the perfect place for you

there is no yesterday in your lungs
there is no tomorrow there either

there is only now
there is only inhale
there is only exhale
there is only this moment

there is only breath

and in that breath
you can rest while your
heart and head work
their relationship out."

this morning, while my brain was busy reading
tea leaves and while my heart was staring
at old photographs I packed a little bag and walked to the door of my lungs

before I could even knock
she opened the door
with a smile and as
a gust of air embraced me
she said

"what took you so long

22/01/2022

This just sums up how I feel presently: ( fantastically writtten) ❤️

I'm a failure
So don't try to tell me
There's so much potential inside me
Because at the end of the day
I'll never find a job
I need more experience
I've been out of work too long
And don't try to convince me that
There is real value inside of me
Because deep down I know
I am useless and unemployable
And nothing you say will make me believe
I will make it in this world.

(Now read bottom up - life is about how you see things )

by Daniel Abrahams

21/01/2022

Please share to raise awareness and around this
💚Those who are suicidal often get dismissed, not taken seriously, and stigmatised for their struggle - this INCREASES hopelessness, despair, loneliness, and social withdrawal
Instead let’s embrace those in their dark moments, make time for deep conversation, check in on each other regularly, and take one’s struggle seriously
👇Comment below: What message do you think needs to be shared with the world about su***de prevention? What’s important for people to understand to help break the stigma?
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13/01/2022

When we start to change the critical voice in our head and replace the thoughts that bring us down with the thoughts that lift us up. Promise to be kinder and gentler with yourself. Respect yourself and recognise you are enough. Care for yourself enough to keep these promises.” Have a good day 🙏🏼❤️x