27/02/2026
Day one: "I'll keep an eye on it."
Day thirty: "They've gone off sick."
That's how fast it happens.
Most managers I work with are good people. Empathetic. Observant. They notice when someone on their team isn't right.
The quiet withdrawal. The change in energy. The person who used to contribute in every meeting and now says nothing.
They see it. But seeing it and knowing what to do about it are completely different skills.
And here's what makes it harder — the longer you wait, the bigger the gap feels.
Day one, you think: "I'll keep an eye on it."
Day five: "It's probably nothing."
Day ten: "I should say something but I don't know how."
Day twenty: "It's been too long now. It'd be weird to bring it up."
Day thirty: "They've gone off sick."
The Keep Britain Working review found that employees off sick for months often receive little or no contact from their employer. Not because nobody cares — but because of what the report calls "mutual risk aversion." Everyone's too afraid of saying the wrong thing, so nobody says anything at all.
One employee quoted in the report said:
"My employer didn't know what to do. I didn't hear from them for six months while I was off sick."
Six months No contact! Not because the organisation was heartless. Because nobody had the skills or confidence to pick up the phone.
And here's the data that should stop every HR leader in their tracks:
→ When someone is supported within 4-6 weeks of going off sick, they have a 96% chance of returning to work
→ After more than a year, that drops to less than 50%
→ Someone out of work for less than a year is 8 times more likely to return than someone out for more than two years
Every day of silence isn't neutral. It's a countdown.
I've lived this. As a manager. As a colleague. As someone who struggled himself and watched people around me do exactly this — notice, hesitate, wait, regret.
The instinct is almost always right. The gap is in the response.
And that gap is smaller than you think. You don't need to be a therapist. You don't need the perfect words. You just need to be willing to say:
"I've noticed you've seemed a bit different recently. I just wanted to check in — is everything OK?"
That's it. That's the start. Not a diagnosis. Not a solution. Just a door being opened.
So here's my question for you this Friday:
What's one sign you wish you'd acted on sooner — in someone else, or in yourself?
You don't have to share details. But I think there's something powerful in admitting that most of us have been there.