31/10/2025
What’s unkind is going along with what you don’t want, pretending it’s fine when it’s not. That’s not generosity — it’s self-abandonment dressed up as politeness.
And the cost? Resentment. Quiet at first, then louder. It builds. It leaks out in snide comments, in cold silences, in pulling away from the very person you’re trying to protect.
You can’t have true intimacy without honesty.
You can be loving and assertive. If something doesn’t work for you, the kindest thing you can do — for both of you — is to say so.