Myaku Psychotherapy

Home
United Kingdom
London
Myaku Psychotherapy

Counsellor and Psychotherapist offering sessions in London and online

25/02/2026

"Traditions are just peer pressure from dead people" - Eliot Schrefer

Lunar New Year took place last week and depending on the traditions you follow, you are either fully done with it, or you still have a few more days' worth of festivities ahead.

Or maybe you are still upset over disagreements with other family members over what traditions to follow.

Instead of labelling some traditions as 'outdated' or 'incorrect' , it will be more effective to explore the meaning behind the activities, and find new ways to achieve it within modern day sesibilities.

Most traditions mean well for their context and history, but some methods can be discriminatory or limiting by modern standards.

You can respond in a few ways:

Reinterpret – Keep the ritual, change the meaning.
Adapt – Keep the value, update the practice.
Retire – Let it go entirely.

Having a frank discussion can often lead to new options and opportunities going forward, and for everyone to feel acknowledged and their wishes respected.

#輔導

04/02/2026

" Be watchful, therefore, of the choices of others, but not judgemental. Know that their choice is perfect for them in this moment now -- yet stand ready to assist them should the moment come when they seek a newer choice, a different choice, a higher choice." -- (Walsch, 1997, Conversations With God, p.47)

The path to genuine help and longlasting empowerment embodied nicely in the quote above, and that is my approach with my clients. Stay ready and prepared, never unsolicited. You can be your true selves here, as many selves as you have.

#輔導

22/01/2026

Came across this Star Ferry display, an iconic transportation mode in Hong Kong, in a German flea market, among tens of thousands of other memorabilia pieces from around the world.

I wonder what sort of journey has it had? What meaning did it carry for its owner?

We often collect things to affirm our identity, sense of belonging, and emotional connection to aspects of our lives.

How do you choose what to collect, what to keep, and what to toss away?

As it goes with physical collection, so does your mental collection. Do you sometimes find it hard to make room for your new self? Let go of old traits and thinkings that are no longer the current you?

#輔導

06/01/2026

Welcome back. I hope you made some good memories during the hoilday period.

If January means going back to your day job or school, take time to welcome the return of routine, and here's why:

Structure: You found out what worked for you in 2025, time to go back to good habits without all the holiday distractions.

Connection: We often use the holidays to reconnect with distant friends and relateives. But it is the people closer in proximity to us that can offer support readily.

Progress: An ongoing job or school responsibility can help us feel validated, promote self worth, and sense of achievement as we compare to ourselves from last year.

Rest: No more party invites, no more Christmas Pop Ups, .. yes it's time to give yourself time to recharge. Enjoy the mundane yet beneficial things you have brought into your life.

So go ahead, load up the laundary machine with your favorite detergent and optimal spin cycle and catch up on some Netflix.

#輔導

23/12/2025

(Part 7 of 7)

Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over.

Remember you are not the only one feeling this way.

- Think of years past how would people deal with being away from family and friend?
- Think of your parent's generation, how did they deal with being away?
- Create your tradition with the resources and connection that you have. It doesn't have to be the same as what other people do.
- Sets goals for yourself to achieve this hoilday season, try something different, add to your own experiences.
- Make plans for after the holidays so you have other things to look forward to.

#輔導

22/12/2025

(Part 6 of 7)

Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over.

6. Not Creating New Meaning

Beware:�Waiting for holidays to “pass” can make them feel empty and endless.
What helps:
* Volunteer (shelters, community kitchens, spiritual or community groups).
* Start a personal ritual: a yearly hike, letter to yourself, special meal.
* Focus on contribution, not just celebration.

#輔導

20/12/2025

(Part 5 of 7)

Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over.

5. Silence About Your Feelings

Beware:�Thinking “others have it worse” or “I should be grateful” can keep you from acknowledging loneliness.

What helps:
- Remind yourself it's ok to be in need. It's ok to text a friend because you want to chat.
- Talk about it with a trusted person - a friend, community member, or therapist. Even a familiar barista or barberer will do.
- Remember: gratitude and loneliness can coexist. It's ok to be the friend in need sometimes.

#輔導

19/12/2025

(Part 4 of 7)
Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over.

4. Overworking or Over-Scrolling

Beware:�Using work or screens to numb feelings can increase emptiness later.

What helps:
* Set gentle boundaries on work and phone use. Mix it up with interactions with people.
* Balance distractions with something grounding: journaling, walking, cooking. So you are not passively receiving information.
* Ask yourself: Is this helping me rest, or helping me avoid? If it is to avoid, go outside for a walk, call a friend, text a friend, initiate conversations.

#輔導

18/12/2025

(Part 3 of 7)
Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over.

3. Isolation Through Withdrawal

Beware:�Loneliness can push you to stay inside, avoid invitations, or tell yourself you “don’t belong.”

What helps:
* Say yes to low-pressure invitations (coffee, walks, volunteering).
* Create structure: plan your days instead of letting things happen as if on auto-pilot.
* Even brief human contact (gym, phone calls, café) is good to instill sense of connected ness.

#輔導

17/12/2025

(Part 2 of 7)
Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over.

2. Cultural Disconnection

Beware:�Seeing others celebrate traditions you don’t share—or missing the ones from home—can intensify isolation.

What helps:
* Recreate one small tradition from your culture (food, music, a ritual).
* Share your culture with someone else—it can create unexpected connection.
* Allow yourself to grieve missing home; that feeling is valid.

#輔導

16/12/2025

Spending holiday seasons away from family and loved ones can be very tough.
Maybe you are away due to work, studies, or other factors outside your control.

Here are some key things to beware of—and ways to manage them—so loneliness doesn’t quietly take over:

(Part 1 of 7)

1. Unrealistic Holiday Expectations

Beware:�Movies, social media, and coworkers may make it seem like everyone is surrounded by family, traditions, and joy.

What helps:

* Remind yourself that many people (including locals) feel lonely during holidays.
* Limit social media if it amplifies comparison.
* Redefine what “a good holiday” means for you, not what it’s “supposed” to look like.

#輔導

08/12/2025

Relieved—a bit giddy, really—to finally be able to say that I have become an accredited member psychotherapist with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

Thousands before me have achieved this distinction, and thousands more hold similar beacons of excellence through other platforms.

But I am here simply happy for myself: that I can set and achieve new goals, that life doesn’t go downhill after 25, and that I am greatly blessed with friends and family who support me and allow me the opportunity to achieve such feat.

This coming from a rejected enginner-wanna-be and an amateur-everything who came to accept it's ̶g̶o̶o̶d̶ ̶ great to hone in his passion for understanding and uplifting those around him.

With the accreditation comes the recognition for my practice compentency and my personal and professional development, and a promise to ever-improving the quality of my service to my clients.

This giddiness rank right up there with the time I changed my car's suspension all by myself and didn't die.

Letsgooooo

What are your unique goals and wins?

Address

London

Website

http://www.MyakuPsychotherapy.com/

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Myaku Psychotherapy posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Practice

Send a message to Myaku Psychotherapy:

Shortcuts

Featured

Help Mind Body

Want your practice to be the top-listed Clinic in London?