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23/11/2025

The Purpose of Storms in Your Life: To Reveal What’s Solid and Wash Away What Isn’t

My wife and I have faced and endured a multitude of storms in our life and marriage. Storms are among the most frightening experiences we face—unexpected trials, emotional earthquakes, financial strain, betrayal, illness, or the sudden shaking of foundations we once believed were secure. Yet in both psychology and Scripture, storms are never without purpose. They arrive not just to disrupt but to reveal, to refine, and to redirect. Storms expose what is truly anchored and wash away what is weak, shallow, or built on sand. In life and especially in marriage, storms are often the very tools God uses to uncover truth, deepen intimacy, and strengthen character.

1. Storms Reveal the True Foundation of Your Life
2. Storms in Marriage: Exposing Broken Patterns and Strengthening the Bond
3. Storms Wash Away What Is Not Meant to Remain
4. Storms Refine Your Faith, Vision, and Priorities

Storms force you to ask deeper questions:

What truly matters?
What am I leaning on that is unstable?
Who am I becoming through this?
What is God trying to teach me?

Difficult seasons wash away:

Unrealistic expectations
Codependency
Idealized fantasies of marriage
Negative thinking patterns
Toxic habits or friendships
Emotional immaturity

In marriage, storms refine:

Communication
Emotional intelligence
Trust
Unity
Patience
Empathy
Prayer life

Couples who endure storms together often experience deeper connection afterwards because the storm removed what was superficial and strengthened what was essential.

James 1:2–4 teaches that trials mature us, making us “complete, lacking nothing.”

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/the-purpose-of-storms-in-your-life-to-reveal-what-s-solid-and-wash-away-what-isn-t

22/11/2025

How Strong is Your Self Control?

Self-control is one of the most powerful yet underrated virtues that shapes the quality of our lives and marriages. It determines how we respond under pressure, how we manage emotions, how we speak, and how we handle temptations. The Bible calls it a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), while psychology calls it a core component of emotional intelligence and a predictor of long-term success.

But how strong is your self-control?

And more importantly—what does that strength (or lack of it) produce in your life, marriage, and walk with God?

Negative Traits of Weak Self-Control:

When self-control is lacking, negative patterns emerge.

1. Emotional Reactivity

Outbursts, defensiveness, silent treatment, impulsive decisions, or quick anger.

2. Poor Communication

Interrupting, shouting, stonewalling, passive-aggressive behavior, or shutting down.

3. Addictive or Impulsive Behaviors

Overspending, p**n, alcohol, gambling, impulsive purchases, or unhealthy coping.

4. Inconsistency

Difficulty keeping promises, commitments, and personal boundaries.

5. Relational Damage

In marriage, weak self-control creates insecurity, emotional instability, and lack of trust.

6. Sin Vulnerability

James teaches that desire gives birth to sin—and lack of self-control is the gateway.

Psychology of Self-Control (Why It Is Hard):

Psychologists explain that self-control is linked to:

1. Emotional Conditioning

Past trauma, stress, or childhood environments may weaken impulse regulation.

2. Cognitive Overload

When stressed or overwhelmed, the brain defaults to instinct rather than wisdom.

3. Delayed Gratification Strength

People with strong self-control tolerate discomfort to achieve long-term goals.

4. Habit Loops

We behave in patterns. Without intentional change, emotional reactions become automatic.

5. Lack of Self-Awareness

If you don’t understand your triggers, you can’t manage your responses.

Read more : https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/how-strong-is-your-self-control

21/11/2025

THE POWER OF ENDURANCE: THRIVING THROUGH MARRIAGE AND LIFE CHALLENGES

This past Sunday at Church, our priests sermon was on Endurance and it hit me hard. Endurance is one of the most underrated yet most essential virtues in life and marriage. In a world that celebrates instant results, convenience, and emotional comfort, many people are ill-equipped to persist when life becomes painful, slow, or stretching. Yet every successful marriage, every fulfilled destiny, and every mature Christian life requires endurance.

Endurance is not mere stubbornness. It is the ability to remain steadfast, emotionally regulated, spiritually anchored, and purpose-focused in the face of challenges. It is the bridge between what God promised and what we eventually walk into.

WHY ENDURANCE MATTERS IN MARRIAGE AND LIFE

a. Because storms are guaranteed

No couple escapes:

Financial pressures
Misunderstandings
Family interference
Health challenges
Emotional cycles
Spiritual warfare

Endurance ensures the storm does not destroy the home.

b. Because emotions are inconsistent

Attraction fluctuates. Feelings change. Seasons shift.

Endurance keeps the marriage steady when emotions feel unstable.

c. Because growth takes time

Healing, maturity, communication skills—these develop over time.

Endurance gives space for transformation.

d. Because love deepens through endurance

What couples endure together becomes:

Their testimony
Their bonding story
Their spiritual strength
Their covenant glue

e. Because life is not linear

Delays, disappointments, setbacks, and spiritual battles are part of life.

Endurance helps individuals remain hopeful, faith-filled, and stable.

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/the-power-of-endurance-thriving-through-marriage-and-life-challenges

20/11/2025

Habits: Building What Helps You & Breaking What Holds You Back

Habits are the invisible architecture of our lives. They shape our attitudes, influence our decisions, and slowly sculpt the person we become. James Clear, in his bestselling book Atomic Habits, explains that habits are “the compound interest of self-improvement.” Spiritually, the Bible affirms that consistent small actions shape character: “Whoever is faithful in little will be faithful in much” (Luke 16:10).

Whether in marriage, spiritual life, relationships, career, or health, your habits either build your future or sabotage it. This article explores how to form good habits and break destructive ones—combining insights from psychology, Scripture, and practical wisdom.

Breaking Bad Habits — Reversing the Four Laws
Every bad habit can be broken by applying the opposite of the habit laws.

A. Make It Invisible
Remove triggers.

Examples:
Block distractions on your phone during work or devotion.
Remove access to toxic people or environments.
Hide or eliminate unhealthy foods.
Reduce exposure to temptations like p**nography or gossip.

Bible:
2 Timothy 2:22 — “Flee from youthful lusts.”

Some habits are broken by removing proximity.

B. Make It Unattractive
See bad habits for what they really are—destructive patterns.

Strategy:

Reflect on consequences of anger, laziness, overspending, overeating.

Create “Pain Associations” (What does this habit cost my marriage? My health? My spiritual life?)

Bible:
Romans 12:9 — “Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”

C. Make It Difficult
Increase friction to reduce temptation.

Examples:

Put locks or passwords on apps that waste time.
Put unhealthy foods where they are hard to reach.
Delay impulse purchases.
Create accountability structures.

Bible:
Matthew 26:41 — “Watch and pray so that you do not fall into temptation.”

D. Make It Unrewarding
Remove the satisfaction that comes with the bad habit.

Examples:

Ask accountability partners to check in.
Track how the habit harms your progress.
Replace it with a positive routine.

Bible:
Galatians 5:16 — “Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”

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18/11/2025

Understanding Mental Health in 2025

In previous generations, mental struggle was often ignored, denied, or treated as weakness. But today, we know better:

Anxiety levels are rising.
Depression is becoming more common.
People are emotionally exhausted.
Families are under pressure.
Couples are struggling silently.

Why?

Key Causes of Mental Health Strain in 2025

A. Overstimulation & Tech Fatigue

Constant notifications, social media comparison, and digital overload overwhelm the brain.

Psychologically, overstimulation raises cortisol levels, disrupts sleep, and increases feelings of inadequacy.

B. Financial Pressures & Instability

The cost of living crisis, unpredictable job markets, and constant economic shifts create chronic stress.

C. Relationship Breakdown

Detached marriages, emotional distance, and lack of communication can weaken mental and emotional stability.

D. Trauma, Loss & Unresolved Pain

Many people are carrying unprocessed trauma — emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically.

E. Isolation & Lack of True Community

More connections online — yet more loneliness in real life.

The Bible warns in Ecclesiastes 4:10, “Woe to the one who falls with no one to help them up.”

If you are struggling — emotionally, mentally, or spiritually — you do not have to carry it alone.

If your marriage feels heavy…
If your family is under pressure…
If your mind is overwhelmed…
If you are silently suffering…

Come Broken is here to walk with you.

Read More :https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/managing-your-mental-health-in-2025

17/11/2025

He Looks Fine - But He's Not. The Truth About Mens Mental Health

Men carry a lot. Not just material provision, but cultural expectations, relationship responsibilities, and the internal demand to “be strong.” For many men those pressures pile up until they experience anxiety, depression, addiction, withdrawal

Men account for the large majority of su***des: in the UK in 2023 around three quarters of registered su***des were male; male su***de rates are markedly higher than female rates.

In the U.S. and other high-income countries men also make up nearly 80% of su***de deaths and male su***de rates are roughly three to four times those of women.

Why men are suffering: the pressure map (psychological + cultural + practical)

1. The burden of provision and role strain. Societal and personal expectations that men be providers — financially, emotionally, and practically — make setbacks (job loss, debt, illness) feel like profound identity threats. Role strain increases shame and hopelessness when men can’t meet perceived obligations.

2. Cultural norms about masculinity. “Be strong. Don’t show weakness. Fix it yourself.” These norms discourage emotional expression and help-seeking. Shame and fear of appearing inadequate push men toward solitude.

3. Different symptom expression and underdiagnosis. Men may show depression as irritability, anger, substance use, or withdrawal rather than tearfulness. Clinicians and loved ones may miss these signs, delaying help.

4. Practical isolation. Men often have smaller emotional networks and fewer close friends who know how to recognise or respond to mental-health decline. This isolation amplifies crises.

5. Intersecting social factors. Unemployment, economic insecurity, relationship breakdown, bereavement, chronic illness and social marginalisation (housing, rural isolation) increase risk — and men in these situations often face higher fatality.

Read more : https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/he-looks-fine-but-he-s-not-the-truth-about-mens-mental-health

17/11/2025

The Trap of Avoidance

In psychology, avoidance is known as a maladaptive coping mechanism. When you avoid something that brings fear, anxiety, or shame, your brain temporarily rewards you with relief. But this relief is short-lived. Over time:

Avoided fears grow stronger
Avoided emotions become heavier
Avoided conflicts deepen
Avoided responsibilities become overwhelming

Avoidance reinforces the belief that you can’t handle the situation, making the situation feel more powerful than you. As a result, what you avoid begins to control your thoughts, behaviour, and emotional wellbeing.

Facing issues—whether through honest conversations, therapy, prayer, or intentional action—helps the brain rewire itself. This is why exposure, truth-telling, and emotional processing are central in healing.

Biblical Perspective: Freedom Comes From Truth and Courage

Scripture shows that God calls His people not to run from problems, but to face them with His strength.

Jesus teaches, “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32).

Freedom does not come from hiding truth but confronting it.

David did not avoid Goliath; he faced him. What Israel avoided controlled them through fear, but what David confronted brought victory.

Moses confronted Pharaoh, even before he felt confident. God empowers those who step toward the challenge, not away from it.

The Bible warns that hiding sin or emotional wounds keeps us in darkness, but bringing things to the light leads to healing (1 John 1:7).

Avoidance produces bo***ge, but confrontation—done with wisdom and the Holy Spirit—brings breakthrough.

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/what-you-avoid-controls-you-what-you-confront-sets-you-free

15/11/2025

How to Break Generational Curses Over Your Life and Family

Many families today suffer under unseen patterns—cycles of poverty, addiction, anger, divorce, sickness, or spiritual stagnation—that seem to repeat from one generation to another. These are often referred to as generational curses. While the term may sound ancient, the reality of such patterns is still visible today. The good news is that through Christ, these curses can be broken, and you can establish a new generational blessing over your life and lineage.
Before you can break free, you must identify if there’s a recurring pattern that needs breaking.

Recognizing the Signs of a Generational Curse

Some signs include:

Repetitive cycles of failure, poverty, divorce, or premature death.

Chronic illnesses that follow family lines.

Addictions that appear generation after generation.

Spiritual stagnation or rebellion that affects children and grandchildren.

Mental or emotional bo***ge such as depression, anger, or unforgiveness that seem inherited.

These patterns are often clues that something deeper is at work and needs to be addressed spiritually and practically.

PRAY THIS PRAYER TODAY --

Prayer to Break Generational Curses:

Heavenly Father,

I come before You in the name of Jesus Christ.

I repent of every sin in my family line that has opened doors to curses.

I renounce every evil covenant and destroy every demonic pattern operating in my bloodline.

By the blood of Jesus, I cancel every curse and claim the freedom You purchased for me on the cross.

I decree that from today, my family and I are blessed, favored, and free.

My generation shall serve the Lord.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

You do not have to live under the weight of your family’s past. Through the power of Christ, you can break every generational curse and release generational blessings.

The cross is not just about forgiveness—it’s about freedom and new beginnings.

“If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” – John 8:36

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/how-to-break-generational-curses-over-your-life-and-family

14/11/2025

Discernment for Different Seasons of God Provision

When life feels confusing → God is calling you deeper into His Word.

When you lack direction → Wisdom is the provision.

When facing spiritual battles → His Word becomes your weapon.

When God wants to elevate you → He sends people.

When God wants to protect you → He removes certain people.

When you feel isolated → He may be preparing you for the right community.

When God closes doors → He is redirecting, not punishing.

When opportunities require stretching → it might be His invitation for growth.

When everything dries up → God may be shifting you to a new assignment.

When everything is beyond your ability → it is a miracle season.

When God delays → He is stretching your faith.

When God answers unexpectedly → He is showing He is your Source.

Supernatural provision often comes after obedience, sacrifice, and expectation.

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/4-ways-god-will-provide-for-and-bless-you-and-how-to-tap-into-them-in-every-season-of-life

09/11/2025

When Marriage Becomes an ATM: How “Get-Rich-Quick” Marriages Happen

What do we mean by “marriage as an ATM”?

When I use the phrase “marriage as an ATM” or “get-rich-quick marriage,” I’m referring to relationships where financial gain (directly or indirectly) is the primary motive for entering, maintaining, or dissolving a marriage. That can take many forms:

Marrying primarily for access to a partner’s income, assets, business connections or visa/status benefits.

Using the marriage to improve social standing, gain introductions, or access high-value networks.

Prioritising short-term monetary gain in a divorce — e.g., extracting settlements, alimony, property, or favourable custody/arbitration outcomes.

Important caveat: not every marriage that ends with a financial settlement involved a “gold digger.” Many divorces are complex and legitimately require financial remedies for fairness and protection of children. The point here is to understand patterns, incentives and red flags — not to stigmatise every divorced person

Read More : https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/when-marriage-becomes-an-atm-how-get-rich-quick-marriages-happen

08/11/2025

Dodging Consequences: How Avoiding Accountability Fuels Narcissism and Pride

In every generation, humanity has struggled with the tension between humility and pride, accountability and avoidance. One of the most dangerous traits that can form in a person — and deeply destroy relationships, families, and even ministries — is the inability to take responsibility for one’s actions. When individuals habitually dodge the consequences of their poor decisions, they set themselves on a path that nurtures narcissism and spiritual blindness.

The Psychology of Dodging Accountability

From a psychological standpoint, accountability is foundational to emotional maturity. When a person makes a mistake and learns from it, they develop resilience, empathy, and wisdom. However, narcissistic individuals often find accountability intolerable because it threatens their carefully curated self-image.

Narcissism, as described in psychological literature, is characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. When such individuals consistently escape the consequences of their behavior — either through manipulation, charm, blame-shifting, or denial — they reinforce the belief that they are above correction or consequence.

Each time a narcissist avoids being held accountable, their inner delusion grows stronger. They begin to internalize the idea that they are “special,” “misunderstood,” or “victims” of others’ jealousy or misunderstanding. Over time, this erodes their ability to self-reflect, stunts emotional growth, and fosters pride — a psychological defense mechanism that masks deep insecurity.

This cycle of avoidance also affects their relationships. Partners, family members, or coworkers often find themselves walking on eggshells, constantly trying to manage the narcissist’s ego and avoid conflict. This creates an unhealthy environment where truth and accountability are suppressed — and only the narcissist’s narrative prevails

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/dodging-consequences-how-avoiding-accountability-fuels-narcissism-and-pride

07/11/2025

Do Arranged Marriages Work Better Than “Normal” Marriages?

The question of whether arranged marriages work better than “normal” (or love) marriages has stirred debate for centuries. In an era that celebrates freedom of choice, many still find themselves intrigued by the stability often observed in arranged unions — particularly in traditional, Eastern, and religious cultures. But is stability the same as happiness? To answer this, we must explore arranged marriages through cultural, biblical, and psychological lenses, while weighing their pros and cons.

Pros of Arranged Marriages

1. Family Support: Families actively participate, providing strong emotional and financial backing.

2. Cultural Alignment: Shared traditions and values reduce conflict.

3. Commitment-Oriented: Partners enter with realistic expectations of duty and perseverance.

4. Reduced Pressure of Courtship: Less emphasis on dating or finding “the one.”

5. Longevity: Statistically lower divorce rates in some cultures due to stronger external support systems.

Cons of Arranged Marriages

1. Limited Personal Choice: The individual may feel pressured into a union.

2. Emotional Disconnect: Love may take longer to develop — or may never fully blossom.

3. Family Interference: Overinvolvement of extended family can cause tension.

4. Gender Inequality: In patriarchal systems, the woman’s consent or happiness may be secondary.

5. Social Conformity: Couples may stay together for appearance’s sake, not for true fulfillment.

Read more: https://www.comebroken.co.uk/post/do-arranged-marriages-work-better-than-normal-marriages

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