01/02/2026
Let me formally re-introduce myself.
I have lots of new followers again this week, and many of you are here because of my work fighting against the pathologisation and labelling of women’s trauma, abuse and distress.
I was 17 and 19 when I had my children, I struggled to provide for them, I had no support network, and I vowed I would pull us out of poverty and out of suffering. I am 35 now, and it feels like I’ve lived several lifetimes already. My kids are 17 and 15, I’m married to my wonderful wife, I achieved all my dreams. CEO. Sunday Times Bestsellers. Financial security. PhD. Chartered Psychologist Yada Yada Yada…
But I am not going to pretend that it was easy or that the trauma is not still there, that nothing affects me, that I just ‘got over it’ or that I have some magic formula to sell to you. I don’t have any magic to give to you at all.
But what I do have is a very consistent and strong message - that you will see across all of my books, research, articles, mentoring, and my media -
Trauma is NOT a mental illness. It’s not a disorder. You are not broken. You are not flawed. Abuse was never your fault. You are not defined by what someone else chose to do to you. Women and girls are being routinely told to come forward and discuss what happened to them, only to be funnelled into mental health services and medicated.
My work against this process of pathologisation is spreading all over the world, and I am leading projects across UK, USA and AUS.
We must ensure that mental health is not used against women and girls who have been subjected to abuse and trauma.
I come at this from an endless evidence base of literature and research - but also from a very personal place. I don’t hide who I am behind fancy titles. I don’t pretend I’ve got it all together. I am BOTH a success and a victim. I am BOTH healed and still healing. I am BOTH confident and also scared.
Come and follow my work if you resonate with the complexity of our lives - and with my messages against the pathologisation and weaponisation of our traumas and abuse histories.
All my love,
Jess x