18/04/2024
There are things I think you should think about as you prepare to get married.
They are more important and serious things than the 'Bigness' of your wedding ceremony!
* What kind of marriage would you like to have?
I'm talking about the marriage itself, not the wedding ceremony. They're two different things my darlings.
* The wedding ceremony is only ONE DAY, the marriage is as long as you two decide to be married.
* Weigh the ceremony or the marriage, which one is more important to you and your spouse. Think!
When you weigh the ceremony and the marriage itself, one weighs higher than the other, so put in more thought, planning and preparation for the marriage - I wouldn't advise you to put in more thought and planning on the ceremony.
* What are your values, your character, your dreams, goals and vision.
Think about your role and contribution in the union and invest alot of time in preparation for all that you'll be bringing to the table.
Both the man and the woman, everyone is bringing something to the table.
* Invest good amount of time thinking about the kind of person you have chosen to get into marriage with, study qualities and characters that contributes to building a joyful and beautiful home and then ensure those qualities are there.
The quality of the person you choose to marry is also an indication of your level of transformation, development and maturity.
So, while choosing, you must be on a personal development project yourself, so you can be able to see and reason clearly.
* Go for counselling together.
The first stage of counselling is to ascertain if the two of you should even be talking about marriage, while the second stage is to build a system and structure for your marriage.
It is the stage where you align your dreams, expectations and vision and then you plan on how to work together towards making your marital dreams and desires a reality.
* Some people are dàm. aged, so they need therapy before marriage.
The amount of traum.atic experiences you have survived have left serious negative impact and affected you and you are living out these everyday and the people around you are suffering for it.
Now, If you get married without dealing with the trau.ma you carry, you will deal with whoever marries you, no matter how good the person is.
Go for therapy first because, you will enjoy marriage more if you are a whole and a healed individual.
Do what is more important. Focus more on the marriage that last longer and not waste all your resources and time on a wedding that won't be more than 2 hours. Some of you are already thinking of where to borrow from. For just wedding ceremony ooo 😂
Know yourself, know your pocket and make a wise decision, wisdom is profitable.
I'm telling you to resist that urge to go into debt for a ceremony.
If you can afford all these and still have a massive wedding ceremony that will 'pepper' your assumed hàtèrs, without running into debt, then, enjoy your desires.
The truth is, at the end of the day, no one really cares about how big your wedding ceremony was 5 years later, all eyes will be on the quality of marriage you have and how well you are raising your children. THINK!
Good morning.
