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19/11/2025

We don’t mean to raise people-pleasers… but we do, one tiny sentence at a time.
“Everyone is looking at you.”
“What will they think?”
“Stop crying.”
“What did your friend get?”

Little by little, kids learn to tune out their own voice and tune into everyone else’s.

My new blog is about how that happens and how we can help our children build confidence, courage, and a strong inner voice instead. 💛✨

Full post now live on Familydate.fun ✨

We don’t mean to raise people-pleasers… but we do, one tiny sentence at a time. “Everyone is looking at you.” “What will they think?” “Stop crying.” “What did your friend get?” Little by little, kids learn to tune out their own voice and tune into everyone else’s. My new blog i...

12/11/2025

We teach kids coding, maths, and frameworks
but do we give them space to think, feel, and trust themselves?

My latest blog explores what children really hear when we talk to them and how to raise kids who know how to think and who they are. 💛
👉 Read it on Familydate.fun

We teach children facts and rules, but forget to help them discover who they are.

06/11/2025

My daughter’s first handmade pot broke this week… and what happened next taught us both something about grief, love, and resilience.
New blog is up - this one is close to my heart. 💛

Today I learned that sometimes the best thing we can do as parents is not make it better. Just be there. New blog: How Kids See Us - The Broken Pot.

15/05/2023

Check out my article in the South West edition of Families Magazine, on managing kids behaviours at parties, written with the help of the lovely Agata from Family Date.

https://issuu.com/familiesonline/docs/swl_325_may_june_2023_proof_final?fr=sMTU5NTYwMTY2MTQ

26/01/2023

Children do better when they feel better. Hugs help our kids and us feel better. Next time when your little ones are having a hard time, offer them a hug. If they refuse don’t force it, tell them you need a hug. If they still refuse, tell them that you are ready for a hug whenever they are and walk away. Hugs help us and our kids calm down, control breathing, reconnect our prefrontal cortex so we get out of the fight/flight/freeze state and start thinking rationally (to our capacity). when genuine they are a game changer. Try it next time. .fun

17/01/2023

Is your child ignoring you? Not listening to you? Well, firstly this is normal, kids don't often listen to us and yet it can be frustrating for parents and pushing all our buttons. So, next time your child is not listening to you, rather than screaming your heart out, try these steps:
1. Check how you model listening to them. Are you engaged? Do you make eye contact with them? Kids are copy cats!
2. Use non verbal tools like: a touch or an eye contact. Kids are visual learners. When they are engaged in what they are doing, your voice is tuned out so they need a bit more to actually notice you.
3. Connect with them first before redirecting. Ask about what they are doing and then ask what you wanted them to ask.

For more tips, follow or send your questions my way.

26/12/2022

Merry Christmas! Enjoy the time together with your loved ones! Dirty dishes, cleaning up can wait, it’s not going anywhere! Merry Christmas!

13/12/2022

Action! Not words! My most favourite tool to handle a tantrum. With Christmas around the corner, our kids routines will change. It’s likely we are going to experience a tantrum or a few of them. A child throwing a tantrum is a child that is trying to communicate, we just cannot understand what they are telling us. They could be saying: “I am hungry”, “I am tired”, “I am bored”, “this is too much”, “someone took my toy”, “I miss my toy”….. and more. So if you want to handle a tantrum ACT. Step 1 - take your child to a quiet space where you can be one on one with him. This could be a bathroom, a car, a utility room. Step 2- validate their feelings: it’s ok to feel sad. Stop the urge to lecture, blame or shame your child there! Step 3 - give them as much time to calm down. Step 4 - see if they want to tell you the problem and find a solution. It’s ok if they don’t at the moment and want to go back to play. You can pick it up later! Step 5 - rejoin. This tool is respectful to you, your child and the situation

29/11/2022

Christmas is coming. You are probably pretty busy right now getting ready. On top of that are you wondering how you are going to survive this, how your kids will behave, what your family will think when your kids are misbehaving. I got good news for you, I have a list of tips that will help you get into a driving seat and as a result relax over Christmas and enjoy it! Get in touch and I will send you a list of effective tips to drive your kids’ collaboration, manage misbehaviours when they happen. Get in touch and get the list. Stick it to your fridge as a reminder. Don’t worry, you got this! we, mums stick together! Agata@familydate.fun

22/11/2022

Social interactions is a skill that we need to teach our kids. It’s no different to a skill of reading.

When it comes to reading we start with teaching the basics and then step by step we increase complexity. Right? kids learn phonics, then blending sounds into words, then words into sentences and finally reading pages and books. It takes years for them to become fluent.

Same goes for social interactions. We need to start by teaching our kids the basics and then step by step increasing the complexity.

Unfortunately for some reason we just assume kids know how to behave by default and that they should be fluent at it. Reality is different. Take time to teach your children the social interactions and with time they will become fluent at it. Start small. Manage your expectations. Prep for Christmas.

If you need any help with ideas how to teach kids social interactions by incorporating activities into your daily routines, get in touch.

15/11/2022

Ask your kids for help!

Telling children that they are capable, that they can achieve things is not enough. Children need to experience that for themselves so they believe it. We need to give them plenty of opportunities to do so. One of the easiest way is to ask for help with work around the house! My little ones love vacuuming, stripping the beds, cleaning the floors. When they do these tasks they realise how capable they are because these are grownup’s jobs! This makes them feel good about themselves, it boosts their self esteem and reduces misbehaviour! Try it for yourselves! Any questions DM me.