Rebecca P. Fox - Psychotherapist

17/10/2025

Why is it that some people seem to breeze through friendships… but always leave a trail of hurt and confusion behind them?

A client said to me recently:
“Rebecca, I don’t get it. She was my best friend one week and then suddenly, she dropped me like I didn’t even matter. And yet somehow, I feel like I’m the one in the wrong.”

And maybe you’ve felt that too. The friendship that seemed so close, so genuine - until it wasn’t.

Here’s what I often see going on 👇

🔹 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝗿𝘁-𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.
Narcissists rarely invest in friendships for the long haul. They move from person to person, focusing on who can meet their needs in the moment. And once you’re no longer “useful,” the friendship fades.

🔹 𝗖𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺 𝗳𝗹𝗼𝘄𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘆.
They’ll put you down, often wrapped up as “harmless jokes.” But the moment you tease back, even lightly, they react with outrage, defensiveness, or the silent treatment.

🔹 𝗗𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗮 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.
Somehow, they’re always the innocent victim. Yet when it’s your turn to share, your pain gets minimised, dismissed, or quickly redirected back to their story.

And the truth is - if you’ve ever walked away from a friendship feeling confused, hurt, or doubting yourself… you’re not imagining it. These are classic signs of toxic, narcissistic dynamics.

The first step is recognising the pattern. The next is learning how to protect your peace.

👉 If any of this feels familiar, you don’t have to navigate it alone. In my book ‘Taming Toxic Egos’ available worldwide on Amazon you can understand these difficult dynamics on a deeper level and also how to deal with them in the most effective way.https://mybook.to/TOXICEGOS

13/10/2025

Two weddings. Three engagements. Six wins...

These are the moments that make my work so satisfying!

This year, I was invited to weddings in the US by clients whose journeys I’ve had the privilege to walk beside. Sadly, due to health challenges, I wasn’t able to attend - but I’m hopeful that next year I’ll be celebrating in person with my newly engaged clients. In fact the flights are already booked for one persons wedding which is taking place in Ibiza!!

𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁: watching people come to me from such dark, frightened places and transform into who they were always meant to be.

💡 𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝘁 𝗯𝗿𝗼𝗸𝗲𝗻 𝗯𝘆 𝘁𝗼𝘅𝗶𝗰 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 - now standing tall, mentally and emotionally strong.

💡 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 - now winning in court and securing stability.

💡 𝗠𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗼𝗻 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 - now engaged, married, and building the healthy, connected relationships they always deserved.

And the best part? The updates I still receive from past clients. ☺️ The wedding photos, the regular picture updates showing their children thriving, and the joy of watching them live fully again - it all makes my heart so happy.

That’s why I do this work. Because healing isn’t just about surviving trauma - it’s about reclaiming joy, creating stability, and building futures filled with love, safety, and connection.

👉 If you’re in that dark space right now, wondering if things can ever change, please know this: they can. And I’d love to help you take those first steps toward your own transformation. My DMs are always open.

08/10/2025

Feeling lost in life is more common than most people admit.

I see it all the time in my work. On the surface, people look like they’re holding it all together - but underneath, there’s a constant sense of:

💔 “I don’t know what to do next.”
💔 “I feel completely exhausted, I don't want to do 'life' anymore.”
💔 “No one truly sees me, values me, or has my back.”

That combination of exhaustion and feeling undervalued is crushing. It leaves people stuck at a crossroads, unable to move forward because they don’t even know which direction to take, and sometimes it can take you to an even darker place.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱:
“I don’t know what to do with my life” is rarely the real issue. There’s always a deeper meaning - old wounds, unresolved trauma, or toxic dynamics that drain the life out of you until you can’t see clearly anymore.

That’s where I step in. Helping people find clarity is what i'm really good at. Together, I work with my clients to uncover what’s really going on beneath the surface and once they see it, they finally feel able to move forward.

Because you don’t need to stay stuck. You don’t need to keep living in a cycle of exhaustion and doubt. You deserve clarity. You deserve to feel valued.

If you’re at a crossroads right now, unsure of where to turn or who to talk to, my DMs are always open. Let’s go deeper and find the clarity you need to take your next step.

06/10/2025

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve seen women fall for the guy who has it all - on the surface.
10/10 looks. Confidence. Charismatic.
But underneath?
No emotional intelligence. No empathy. No accountability.
And yet he still gets constant attention.
He doesn’t even have to try.I know this because I’ve seen it first-hand.
Still, women chase them. Sleep with them. Leave healthy relationships for them.
Every. Single. Day.

And here’s what I hear from women in my therapy practice:
✨ “I know he’s wrong for me, but I can’t stay away.”
✨ “It feels electric when I’m with him… even if it ends in tears.”
✨ “I keep attracting the same kind of man - what’s wrong with me?”

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵: when you haven’t healed your attachment wounds or regulated your nervous system, toxic dynamics can feel a lot like love. The emotional highs and lows mimic the patterns you grew up with - they feel familiar, addictive, even exciting. But that’s not real connection - it’s chaos. This is the cycle I help women break. I guide them in rewiring their emotional blueprint so they stop confusing emotional unavailability with attraction, stop believing they have to earn love or prove their worth, and finally stop giving their hearts to people who leave them feeling empty.

If you’re done with the cycles and ready to attract someone who is healthy, grounded, and emotionally available - send me a DM.
This is what I do - and I’d love to help you break free and find real love.

29/09/2025

What would it feel like to hand over the most stressful part of your life and finally breathe again?”

For the parents I work with, toxic co-parenting is relentless.

➡️ Endless toxic messages.

➡️ Court paperwork piling up.

➡️ Constant handover battles.

By the time they find me, they’re exhausted.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝘆 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗹 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗲:

✅ I take care of the paperwork, statements, and applications alongside them.

✅ Every toxic message is reframed before it ever leaves their phone.

✅ Boundaries and routines are locked in so handovers stop being war zones.

One dad told me: “Working with you meant I could finally let go of the chaos and put my energy back into running my business and actually enjoy time with my kids.”

Because being a parent isn’t about surviving constant battles. It’s about protecting your peace and your child’s future.

👉 If you’re ready for that relief, my DMs are open.

28/09/2025

It’s Sunday. For a lot of parents I work with, that means one thing: handover day.

And handovers with a high-conflict ex are rarely smooth. They’re often the most stressful part of the week.

You notice your child’s behaviour change. They seem agitated, worried, on edge. They start asking questions that don’t quite make sense. Sometimes, they even beg to stay with you… and your heart breaks, because you know you have to hand them over.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘁, 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗮 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵-𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗰𝘁 𝗲𝘅 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗿𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗺𝗼𝗼𝘁𝗵. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆’𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸.

But there are ways to make handovers calmer and easier - for both you and your child. Here are some of the strategies I help my clients put in place:

1️⃣ 𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝗮 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗿𝗱 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘆.
Have a trusted family member or close friend handle the handover for you. This removes direct contact and lowers the chance of conflict.

2️⃣ 𝗖𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝘂𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗼𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗖𝗖𝗧𝗩.
Supermarkets, service stations, or community centres with cameras mean everything is recorded - giving you peace of mind and protection if false claims are ever made.

3️⃣ 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲, 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗹 𝗼𝗿 𝗻𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘆.
If your child is old enough, arrange for handovers to happen at school on a Monday morning or nursery drop-off. This is often the best option, as you don’t even have to see the other parent.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁:
👉 You don’t need to overly interact with your toxic ex.
👉 You don’t need to defend yourself in front of your child.

If they try to bait you into a conversation during handover, keep it simple and calm:
“𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗽𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿? 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗸𝘀, 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗼.”

Because handovers should be about your child’s wellbeing - not about fuelling conflict.

If Sundays feel like a battle you dread every week, you don’t have to keep struggling with this alone. I can help you create a structure that makes handovers safer, calmer, and easier for you and your child. My DMs are always open.

27/09/2025

It’s Saturday.

For many families, that means football practice, swimming lessons, maybe a trip to the park. Easy, ordinary things that children look forward to all week.

But for a lot of the dads I work with, Saturdays don’t feel easy at all.

👉 It’s the day of handovers.
👉 It’s the day their ex decides to play games.
👉 It’s the day one message can throw off their whole weekend.

And more than that - Saturdays when dads first get their child are often the hardest of all.

Their child comes to them unsettled, playing up, asking confusing questions clearly planted by their toxic mother. Most of the day is spent undoing all of that tension, calming the storm, and trying to settle their child back into a safe space.

💔 𝗢𝗻𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗺𝗲: “I thought having my son for the weekend would feel joyful instead, the first day is always damage control.”

This is exactly why my Parallel Parenting Programme doesn’t end at the court order. I stay with dads afterwards - helping them:

✅ Understand why their child is acting out.

✅ Learn strategies to settle them quicker.

✅ Handle those difficult questions with calm confidence.

✅ The result? A smoother transition, less stress, and weekends that can actually be about making memories instead of repairing damage.

One client put it simply: “For the first time in years, I had a Saturday where I could just be Dad. Not Dad and Lawyer and Referee all rolled into one.”

𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀: 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻.

If this sounds familiar, you don’t have to figure it out alone. I can help you make those transitions calmer, quicker, and far less stressful for you and your child.

24/09/2025

Court orders don’t stop a toxic ex from playing games - that’s why my clients keep me in their corner.

I’ve seen it time and time again: a dad or mum finally gets their Child Arrangements Order. Boundaries are in place. A routine is agreed. The court order is clear. Relief floods in.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻… 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝘅 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿𝘀.

🔺 Pushing against handover times.

🔺 Sending undermining messages.

🔺 Trying to chip away at the structure, hoping for a reaction.

This is where so many parents stumble. Not because they’re weak - but because after months of conflict, they’re exhausted. And one slip can give a toxic ex the ammunition they need to drag everything back to court.

That’s why my Parallel Parenting Programme doesn’t just end when the order is granted. Once we’ve laid the solid foundations - boundaries, structure, and routine - I continue to offer WhatsApp support for as long as my clients need it.

On average, parents stay with me for around 6 - 12 months after the programme. Because those first few months after court are critical.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲:

✅ A safe space to share every difficult message before replying.

✅ Calm, child-focused responses crafted together when needed.

✅ Guidance that keeps you moving forward - not slipping back into old patterns.

✅ Zero opportunity for your ex to gather “evidence” to twist against you.

My role here is simple: to keep you steady, consistent, and court-proof - so your ex’s attempts to provoke you fall flat.

One mum told me: “Knowing I could send you the message before I responded was everything. It meant I never had to second-guess myself and she had nothing left to use against me.”

Because here’s the truth: securing a court order isn’t the end of the journey. It’s the beginning of living in peace with your child. And you don’t have to navigate that adjustment period alone.

If this is where you’re at right now, please know you don’t have to hold it together alone. I’d love to help you protect your peace - and your child’s future. My DM's are open.

23/09/2025

By day, he’s the man who has it all together. By night, he’s drowning.

This is the reality for so many of the dads I work with.

One dad, a successful business owner, told me: “I can run a company with 200 employees, but one text from my ex completely derails me.”

Another - a footballer in the public eye - said: “I can walk out in front of thousands of fans without flinching, calm and focused. But walking into a handover with her? My heart races and I feel sick every time.”

And I’ve heard the same from actors, CEOs, and professionals at the top of their game. From the outside, they look confident, successful, and in control. But behind the scenes, it’s a very different story.

📌 Endless toxic messages from their ex.
📌 Children caught in the middle of adult conflict.
📌 Sleepless nights, filled with stress about the next handover or court date.

And the cruel part? These men don’t struggle because they’re weak. They struggle because conflict with a toxic ex is designed to break even the strongest.

That’s why I created my Parallel Parenting Programme - to give dads a way to take back control of their lives.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗲:

➡️ Communication becomes calm, neutral, and impossible to twist.

➡️ Boundaries are put in place so handovers stop being a battlefield.

➡️ The stress of paperwork, statements, and applications is lifted off their shoulders.

They finally get to focus on being the dad they want to be - not the one their ex tries to paint them as.

Because the truth is, you can’t be the best leader at work or the best father at home when you’re constantly fighting fires.

If you’re a dad stuck in this double life - successful in your career but struggling in silence at home - you know where I am when you’re ready to talk.

22/09/2025

I had the absolute privilege of joining Adam Smith on his A-Game Podcast and this one was powerful.

𝗪𝗲 𝘄𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼:

✔️ The truth about toxic relationships and how they impact confidence, self-worth, and identity

✔️ What it really takes to break the cycle and start building healthy relationships

✔️ My own story of surviving abuse, and how those experiences shaped the work I do today

✔️ Why healing isn’t about “just moving on” - it’s about rebuilding trust, communication, and a sense of self

✔️ Practical tools anyone can use to spot red flags and create boundaries that protect their peace

For me, this wasn’t just another conversation.
It was raw, honest, and full of insights that I wish I’d had years ago.

🎧 You can listen to the full episode here: https://agameunfiltered.podbean.com/e/rebecca-p-fox/

Because the more we have these conversations, the more we empower people to leave behind what breaks them… and move toward what builds them.

Rebecca P Fox is a psychotherapist specialising in trauma, neuroplasticity, and rewiring the brain for resilience and growth. In this episode, Smith and Rebecca dive deep into the intricacies of relationships, trauma, and self-healing, offering practical advice on setting boundaries, identifying tox...

21/09/2025

I want to share something with you from the heart…

I don’t do consultation calls because I want to “sell” you something. I’m not a salesperson. I’m a psychotherapist. My work isn’t about transactions - it’s about people, stories, pain, and healing.

For me, a consultation call is a safe space.
It’s a bit like sitting down with your doctor and saying, “Here’s what’s going on. Can you help me make sense of it?”

On these calls, I’ll ask questions - sometimes lots of them. Not to overwhelm you, but to truly understand:

- What you’re experiencing day to day

- The symptoms you might not even realise are there

- How your struggles are affecting your health, your relationships, your peace of mind

So many people don’t actually know the full picture until we talk it through together. Often, within the first 30 minutes, things click into place. Clarity arrives. And that’s when we can start mapping out a way forward.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗲:

➡️ I’ll listen without judgement

➡️ I’ll help you see what’s really happening beneath the surface

➡️ And if I believe I can help, I’ll share what that journey could look like - including an honest timeframe - because you shouldn't be working with a therapist on a weekly basis for YEARS!

Why do I do it this way? Because not all therapists are the same. Some spread themselves too thin. Others specialise is a specific field. And if you’ve been through trauma, a toxic relationship, or you’re trying to co-parent with a high-conflict ex… you don’t just need support. You need specialised support.

I know this first-hand. In my 20s, I saw therapist after therapist who couldn’t quite “get it.” They listened, but they couldn’t help me move forward. It left me stuck and disheartened. And it’s the reason I vowed to do things differently.

So if you’re reading this and thinking, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I know I don’t feel like myself anymore,” … 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄: 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲.

👉 Here’s the link to my diary: https://calendly.com/rpfoxcoaching/consultation-call-1hr

If you’d like clarity, hope, and a safe space to be heard, I’d love to meet you there.

Because sometimes the first conversation really does change everything.

17/09/2025

“In court, the calm parent wins. Here’s how I make sure that’s you.”

One of the most painful parts of parallel parenting is how different your ex can look in front of professionals.

👉 In the courtroom, with CAFCASS, or in front of a judge, they can appear calm, polite, even reasonable.
👉 Behind closed doors, they’re manipulative, cruel, and relentless in pushing your buttons.

And of course, you react. How could you not? You’re human. You’ve been baited, drained, and worn down. But then your reaction is what ends up under the spotlight, while their mask stays firmly in place.

So many of my clients have said to me: “𝘙𝘦𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘤𝘢, 𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘯.”

This is where I step in. And where I’ve been called their secret weapon.

When I look at your ex’s communication, I don’t just read the words - I see the patterns. I can trace the manipulation, the abuse, the tactics designed to provoke you. And because those patterns are predictable, I can often tell you what’s coming next.

Together, we build a style of communication that takes the power back. One that is calm, factual, and child-focused and impossible to twist.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱:

✔️ You stop living in fight-or-flight.

✔️ You finally feel one step ahead, not one step behind.

💥 And the court begins to see the truth.

Narcissists can only keep the “perfect parent” act up for so long. When they stop getting the reactions they feed on, the cracks ALWAYS begin to show!

And here’s the part I care about most: this isn’t just about court. It’s about giving you peace. It’s about showing your child what consistency looks like. It’s about helping you feel strong enough to stop surviving and start living again.

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re always being painted as the problem, know this: you’re not. And you don’t have to carry this alone. You know where I am when you’re ready to talk, my DM's are open 😊