17/02/2026
Aunty mi BUKKY JESSE PLUG Letβs start from the only place that matters: Imade.
In any custody fight, the child is not a trophy. The child is the patient. When the adults start bleeding ego all over the process, the child is the one who grows up with scars.
Davido says, βNobody won, nobody lost but Imade.β On that line alone, he is correct. But then he destroys his own point with the rest of the statement.
1. βI never asked for full custodyβ - Good clarification, but wrong theatre.
If he truly only sought joint custody, thatβs reasonable. Many fathers should be involved. Many mothers deserve support. Joint custody, when safe, is often the healthiest outcome.
But he didnβt just clarify it. He weaponised it in a public broadcast, in the middle of an ongoing emotional storm, feeding an online mob that cannot possibly know the full facts of a court case.
In developed systems (UK/US/Canada), public figures are usually advised to keep custody matters out of social media, because publicity can become evidence, and it can harm the childβs wellbeing long-term.
2. The late-son reference: if true, itβs a foul, but the response still matters.
If a lawyer referenced Davidoβs deceased son in a way meant to destabilise him, thatβs ethically ugly. Even in adversarial systems, family bereavement is a sensitive area. But hereβs the blunt truth: Court is not a street fight. Itβs not Twitter Space. Itβs not a concert stage. It's not a Wizkid vs Davido fan rage.
Davidoβs own words - βI was spanking that lawyerβ¦ I was finishing herβ - are not the language of a man seeking justice. Itβs the language of someone seeking dominance. But, you know what? dominance is not parenting.
In Nigeria we clap when a celebrity βdraggedβ someone, but in the real world, that kind of outburst in court can: weaken your legal position, make you look unstable, and turn a custody matter into a character trial.
3. The βeducationβ angle: education is not finishing people. Davidoβs statement drips with a particular Nigerian elite disease where they see Education-as-superiority.
βNormally I finish schoolβ¦ I was finishing herβ¦β
That is not education. That is ego wearing a graduation gown.
Education should give you: emotional regulation, restraint, respect for institutions, and the ability to argue without humiliating others.
If your βeducationβ only shows up when you want to belittle a professional woman doing her job, then it isnβt education. Itβs elitism.
And elitism is one of Nigeriaβs biggest problems: people who think status makes them untouchable.
4. Dragging a young man, (Tosin) into it can only be best described as being reckless and unfair.
Taking the fight beyond the courtroom and dragging a young man into it , allegedly claiming he is the lawyerβs son is exactly how celebrity power becomes social injustice.
Thatβs not βclapping back.β Thatβs intimidation by spotlight.
If the young man is not a party to the case, itβs morally wrong to drag him into a custody war as collateral damage. That behaviour is not strength. Itβs misuse of influence.
In functioning societies, powerful people are expected to use power responsibly, because they can ruin innocent lives with one careless post.
5. Withdrawing the case: maturity or manipulation?
Withdrawing a custody case can be a genuine attempt to reduce conflict, or a tactical retreat to win public sympathy and avoid a deeper legal process.
Davido framed it as moral high ground: βI dropped it because of what was said.β This can't be true from a father genuinely fighting for custody.
But hereβs the thing: if the welfare of Imade is truly the priority, then the correct response is not social media drama. The correct response is: report unethical conduct formally (if it happened), pursue child-focused mediation, and keep the child out of the publicity furnace.
Dropping the case doesnβt automatically equal maturity.
6. The biggest loser is still Imade, because the adults made it public entertainment.
A child reading this in the future wonβt see βmy dad fought for me.β She might see: adults insulting each other, grief being used as a weapon, her life becoming trending content.
And that is the tragedy.
Anyways, Davido is right: thereβs nothing to celebrate. But he also helped create the environment where people celebrated and mocked.
This entire saga shows Nigeriaβs cultural weakness: we treat courts like theatre, grief like ammunition, custody like PR, and βdraggingβ like intelligence.
Meanwhile, the child is just trying to grow up.
Permit me to be blunt for a moment.
Davido may have legitimate grievances.
He may have been provoked.
But his public conduct - boasting about βfinishingβ a lawyer, dragging unrelated people online, and turning a custody issue into a dominance contest does not reflect emotional maturity, and it does not reflect the kind of leadership celebrities should model.
If you truly love your child, protect her privacy, protect her dignity, and protect her future.
You donβt win custody with clapbacks. You win it with stability.
Anyways, If a rich, famous man can publicly βfinishβ a lawyer and drag innocent people online, what hope does the average Nigerian have when power turns personal?
