02/12/2025
Today marks the start of National Grief Awareness Week — a week dedicated to educating, acknowledging, and truly understanding the weight of grief in all its forms. Grief shows up differently for everyone and stems from countless causes. But as a community, we focus on the kind of grief that is so often misunderstood and pushed aside: the grief that comes with pregnancy and infant loss.
When a parent, sibling, close friend, or even a pet dies, people tend to understand why you’re still hurting months or even years later. But when our babies die, we’re suddenly placed on an imaginary timeline that only non–loss parents seem to recognize. Pregnancy and infant loss is constantly generalized, minimized, or brushed past. So much about PAIL grief is still not understood — even in the mental health world. Many therapists and psychologists aren’t trained, prepared, or equipped to support parents navigating the death of their baby, and that reality says more than most people realize.
We also know there’s a deep stigma surrounding Pregnancy and Infant Loss. People avoid the topic because it’s uncomfortable — but that silence comes with consequences. When no one talks about it, doctors continue to miss warning signs. Parents don’t receive the support they desperately need. Funding for stillbirth prevention and maternal care research remains inadequate. The stigma keeps everything frozen in place, and it will stay that way unless we’re willing to confront it head-on.
Loss parents know better than anyone how uncomfortable the truth is. We live with it every single day. So this week, take a moment to not just learn about grief, but to understand the unique, lifelong grief that comes with losing a baby. Offer compassion. Offer presence. Say their babies’ names. Help us create a world where grieving parents don’t have to shrink themselves to make others comfortable.
And because this year’s theme is Growing With Grief, I want every loss parent to hear this clearly: growth doesn’t mean “moving on.” Growth is learning to carry love and pain side by side. It’s discovering strength you never asked for. It’s honoring your baby with every step you take. Your grief is valid. Your babies matter. You are not alone.
Sending love,
Hailey Ricks